(Closed) tacky or smart?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

it’s not… but that drastically depends on who the list is going to. I have several wedding related items on my xmas list. but that list is with my father, brothers and mother.

Post # 4
2849 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Hmm, I was thinking about this too. In my opinion, if it’s for you and not just for the wedding, then you could say that it is a gift that you’ll just happen to use on your wedding day. Like for me, I would ask for a nice pearl necklace and matching earrings, and then I could wear them with my wedding dress. But asking for decor items like vases, candles, etc might be taken as tacky to some people. 

Post # 5
1526 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think it’s totally up to your family. You know them best so would they really enjoy contributing to your wedding stockpile or would they feel like it was not appropriate? I know my parents wouldn’t care but they also wouldn’t ONLY get me stuff for my wedding cause they would want to get me some stuff that would be useful even after the wedding as well. So really you know your family best and how they will react!

Post # 6
5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Who is getting the list? My Mom bought me my bracelet and my Future Mother-In-Law bought me my earrings for the wedding last Christmas so I don’t find it odd for close family.

Post # 7
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

its your christmas present– I think you should feel free to ask for anything you want for that!

Post # 8
7174 posts
Busy Beekeeper

If I was getting a wish list for someone I was buying for – I’d want items they want.  That said – I’d include wedding type items and also OTHER items, so they buyer has a choice of what they’d want to get you.

As a gifter, I would not want to gift wedding decor type items, but would be excited about gifting something more personal (like a headpiece).

Post # 9
14337 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I rather get you something useful for your wedding than a random sweater or something you’d find useless 🙂  I think its perfectly fine!

Post # 11
1340 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I don’t think so. My family enjoys practical and functional gifts and I enjoy giving them. My Mom paid for my dress (my birthday closely follows Channukah) and we are getting our favors done as a gift from my aunt who is a professional wine glass designer.

Post # 12
328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

If its only a few things, I say go for it. Or you can ask for giftcards to stores you’d like to get wedding stuff from (Michaels, Hobby Lobby, etc). I just wouldn’t put anything too personal on there, like the crinoline for your dress, wedding bands, etc.

We are in the same situation, we have a housefull of stuff and don’t want to get gifts that we’ll never use, would rather have things towards the wedding or honeymoon. We are hinting to our close family to get us city passes we can use on our honeymoon or gift cards so we can get wedding stuff.

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