Post # 1
My Fiance and I are paying for our wedding ourselves. We have lived together for about three years and we there isn’t much we really need that we would put on a christmas list. Is it tacky or in bad taste to put a few items we would love to have for the wedding (decor items, possibly a headpeice) on a chirstams wish list?
Post # 3
it’s not… but that drastically depends on who the list is going to. I have several wedding related items on my xmas list. but that list is with my father, brothers and mother.
Post # 4
Hmm, I was thinking about this too. In my opinion, if it’s for you and not just for the wedding, then you could say that it is a gift that you’ll just happen to use on your wedding day. Like for me, I would ask for a nice pearl necklace and matching earrings, and then I could wear them with my wedding dress. But asking for decor items like vases, candles, etc might be taken as tacky to some people.
Post # 5
I think it’s totally up to your family. You know them best so would they really enjoy contributing to your wedding stockpile or would they feel like it was not appropriate? I know my parents wouldn’t care but they also wouldn’t ONLY get me stuff for my wedding cause they would want to get me some stuff that would be useful even after the wedding as well. So really you know your family best and how they will react!
Post # 6
Who is getting the list? My Mom bought me my bracelet and my Future Mother-In-Law bought me my earrings for the wedding last Christmas so I don’t find it odd for close family.
Post # 7
its your christmas present– I think you should feel free to ask for anything you want for that!
Post # 8
If I was getting a wish list for someone I was buying for – I’d want items they want. That said – I’d include wedding type items and also OTHER items, so they buyer has a choice of what they’d want to get you.
As a gifter, I would not want to gift wedding decor type items, but would be excited about gifting something more personal (like a headpiece).
Post # 9
I rather get you something useful for your wedding than a random sweater or something you’d find useless 🙂 I think its perfectly fine!
Post # 10
thanks everyone! My fiance and I keep a wishlist on amazon and our immaediate family (parents and siblings) use it for gift ideas for our birthdays and christmas. Of course there isnt only wedding things one there, in fact there are only a few items on there like a cake plate that we would of course use forever, and i was thinking of putting a headpeice I have my eye on.
Of course we wouldnt be upset in the least if no one bought us any wedding related items on our list, but thought it might be nice to put a few things on that we would use for the wedding that would also become part of our home.
His mother (who taught me how to knit last fall) is knitting me a sweater for the wedding and I couldn’t be happier!
Post # 11
I don’t think so. My family enjoys practical and functional gifts and I enjoy giving them. My Mom paid for my dress (my birthday closely follows Channukah) and we are getting our favors done as a gift from my aunt who is a professional wine glass designer.
Post # 12
If its only a few things, I say go for it. Or you can ask for giftcards to stores you’d like to get wedding stuff from (Michaels, Hobby Lobby, etc). I just wouldn’t put anything too personal on there, like the crinoline for your dress, wedding bands, etc.
We are in the same situation, we have a housefull of stuff and don’t want to get gifts that we’ll never use, would rather have things towards the wedding or honeymoon. We are hinting to our close family to get us city passes we can use on our honeymoon or gift cards so we can get wedding stuff.