- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
I have made about my FI’s family before–so I will try to keep this short and sweet. There are a lot of differences between the way I was brought up and the way my FI was brought up. My mom is very conservative and traditional–we always ate together as a family, my mom always set the table (with a FULL setting every time), and she makes sure that everything (especially anything having to do with family meals) always looks pristine. This means center piecees, real silver, etc.
Because my parents are also traditional, they are giving as much as they can to pay for our wedding (around 40%–it’s all they can afford). They are doing as much as they can to help us with this big event!
However, my FI’s family is very different. They never eat together as a family, everything is always off of paper plates and plastic utensils, and they bring beer cans to the table (big no no in my fam). They never get dressed up, don’t go out to fancy restaurants, etc. His parents had a potluck and a keg for their wedding reception.
All of this is fine and dandy, and I don’t mind the diversity. HOWEVER, it’s almost impossible to be on the same page about the wedding. FI’s mom finally agreed to put on the rehearsal dinner. However, she was not happy about it. She kept saying she was going to buy meat and cheese plates from Costco–and my FI finally said that was not a good enough dinner for 40 people who were all from out of town.
After debating with her son (and having a bad attitude about the whole thing) she finally said she would have the rehearsal dinner at Round Table Pizza. I don’t know if there is an RTP where any of you guys live–but it is NOT nice. It’s not even like fun trendy casual. It’s a bunch of snot nosed kids running around.
To make matters worse her son (FI’s brother) has worked there for 6 years, and her son’s girlfriend is the manager there. So we all eat there all the time to get free food. Pretty much the only reason she wants to have it there is because it’s in her comfort zone. She doesn’t have to do anything–food will be heavily discounted–if not free.
I am so upset. This is our rehearsal dinner. A couple months ago I bought a $300 cocktail dress to wear to this–I thought it was going to be nice and formal, like my brother’s was a couple months back. I am mortified. I don’t want all of my out of town guests to be mortified either. THIS IS THE ONLY THING SHE IS DOING FOR THE WEDDINg–WHY CANT SHE PUT EFFORT INTO IT? She’s not even trying to have any involvement–what would you do? I am so frustrated!
I understand that a lot of people do the whole casual rehearsal dinner thing. I am fine with that. I would love to a bqq, or have the dinner at a nice bbq restaurant. However, this place is dirty, and the whole family already eats there 2-3 times a week. This our wedding–can’t they do it somewhere different?
What would you do?
Wow… that was not “short and sweet” by any means. sorry.