Post # 1
My fiance’s dad is not necessarily financially stable. He still wants to do the rehearsal dinner, though we told him he didn’t have to, which is nice. As a compromise we said he could just get catering and have it at the venue (a friend’s backyard) where the cost would be significantly cheaper than a restaurant. However, when I said catering I was thinking baked ziti, and he now wants to do fried chicken (a southern meal). Am I wrong to object when I find fried chicken and mashed potatoes horridly informal and tacky for the rehearsal dinner?
Post # 3
I mean… who says a rehearsal dinner has to be a formal affair? It doesn’t, especially when it’s being held in someone’s backyard.
I think it’s fine. I would totally chow down some fried chicken.
Post # 4
to be honest i love fried chicken i wont mind that for a rehearsal dinner. i think that the rehearsal dinner is something that u should not be to worry about. other option is to talk to your fi to see what he thinks
Post # 5
I guess I’m biased because that’s what we’re having at our rehearsal dinner. Originally we were going to have a cook-out and make burgers and hot dogs, etc. but then our guest list exploded, and I didn’t want to be responsible for grilling food for 65 people. So we decided to get a great southern meal catered–fried chicken, pulled pork, fried okra, mac and cheese, and green beans. It sounds delicious to me, and no, it’s not formal, but neither is our rehearsal dinner. Our wedding will be formal enough, I didn’t see a need for a formal dinner the night before. Your rehearsal can be whatever you want–if you don’t want fried chicken, don’t have it, but if your only concern is that it isn’t fancy enough, I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 6
There are a lot of different ways to have a rehearsal dinner. There were several people recently who have said that they are just going to a local pizza shop after the rehearsal. We are having a light (I think sandwiches and different types of salad) meal at a relatives house. If someone offers to host an event, it’s kind of hard to tell them you don’t like what’s on the menu, unless they ask…
Post # 7
I think it sounds fine maybe a cookout/ barbeque tasty and inexpensive.
Post # 8
I’ve been to 4 rehearsal dinners- one was ribs, one was barbecue, one was pizza, and only one was a more “formal” affair (and by formal, I mean in a restaurant, lol). I’m sure your dinner will be a ton of fun, and when you’re busy with all your wedding stuff the next day, you may appreciate having had a nice solid meal the day before!
Post # 9
Maybe you should make it a whole BBQ theme?? That way you wont be hurting his feelings and you wont feel that it’s tacky either. I would love to chow down on some fried chicken!
Post # 10
I dont see what the big deal is? I mean if you want it to be extremely formal then why would it be in a backyard to begin with? I say hell yea to chicken! Its not the wedding its a rehearsal… I would go with it… it could be fun
Post # 11
I think it’s great!
I am doing a Backyard BBQ for mine! I want the informal RD – the wedding is going to be formal everything surrounding the wedding doesn’t have to be!
Post # 12
we are having a fish fry for our rehearsal dinner. It will be at a restaurant, but a supper-club type place where jeans and flannel shirts are acceptable attire. I think the rehearsal dinner can be informal without detracting from the formality of the wedding the following day. For us, we wanted a bit more casual of a meal for our rehearsal so that everyone could relax, enjoy the comfort food and it wouldn’t break the bank. I’m looking forward to “kicking back” with our guests the night before … with plenty of beer and fried fish! I don’t think fried chicken (or fried fish!) is tacky at all.
Post # 13
We’re not doing a formal rehearsal dinner. We’re doing it at my Mother’s house because she can fit tons more people and we can all just relax and have fun without having to worry about settling up our bill, or noise, or the time. So I wouldn’t be opposed to fried chicken or any southern style food. Fried chicken is so popular I’m sure people would love it, you can add baked ziti (which isn’t super formal either) to the menu, with a salad and whatever other side dishes. But I guess it depends on the vision you have for your rehearsal dinner but I’d just let him do what he can comfortably do. I think he’d be so upset and disappointed if you or your FI objected to the food.
Post # 14
Honestly, I think it sounds great.
My cousin actually had a fried chicken bbq for her (very informal) wedding. It was delicious and a blast!
It sounds fun to me! And tasty!
Post # 15
I think it sounds great too– it can be as formal or informal as you like! We’re doing a BBQ and Wiffle Ball Game! 🙂
Post # 16
I think that sounds perfectly fine! We’re having a cookout with hot dogs and hamburgers! True friends won’t care what you serve them. I wouldn’t worry so much.