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    GirlWithARing    September 5, 2010   Living in NYC, marrying in Philadelphia

    Putting together my website right now and have a question for you guys. 

    The reception will be in a historic mansion spread out between many different rooms. One of the rooms will have a full open bar during the whole reception. I wanted to include this in my reception details, which will describe the other highlights of the event, but not sure if it's tacky to mention it. I just want to make sure the guests are aware of the bar and take advantage of it. 

    What do you think?

     
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    cardigan    January 7, 2011   Austin, TX

    I don't think it would be weird to mention it! I think it would be nice for your guests to be able to know ahead of time!

     
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    Bella13    May 13, 2009   Honolulu, Hawaii

    I didn't mention our open bar on my website because I don't want that to be the only reason people come. I KNOW some of these people will totally change their no rsvp to a yes if they saw that and I want them to come for us not the free booze!

     
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    GirlWithARing    September 5, 2010   Living in NYC, marrying in Philadelphia

    @Bella13 - Haha, good point. We're having a smaller wedding with only close friends and family (75 ppl), so that wouldn't be an issue for us. 

     
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    Bella13    May 13, 2009   Honolulu, Hawaii

    Good! I don't think it's tacky at all go ahead and put it on there!

     
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    redherring    September 11, 2010   Pittsburgh, PA

    I included that information on our wedding website, but as justification for our "no kids" policy.

     
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    JoJo Bananas    August 21, 2010   Santa Cruz, CA

    I don't see why you can't put it on your website.  I would definitely not mention it in the invitations though.

     
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    Meowkers    August 27, 2011   Los Angeles, CA

    I wouldn't include the information.  I don't think it's tacky or anything, just unnecessary.  Your guests don't need to know about every detail of the day unless they somehow need to be prepared for it.  So if you were having a cash bar you would put that.  or if they would have to take off their shoes or something, that's something to mention.  But the open bar thing is just something that doesn't need to be said.

     
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    SuperBrook    5/7/2011   Kansas

    I don't think it's tacky at all.  The opposite could be though.  We're having beer and wine, and are planning to only have enough to keep our guests "hydrated" till 10ish.  After that the feel of the reception will really become a field party with BYOB.  When we eventually set up the wedding website I'll have to come up with a polite way to say that. 

    What you're doing sounds super gracious.

     
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    LittlestBirds    July 24, 2010   Seattle, WA

    It's tacky to mention many things on the invitation, but most everything is fair game on the website. That's the beauty of having the website, you can keep your guests as informed as you like. I think it would be fine to mention it if you do it in the context of describing other things that will occur at the reception, so it doesn't stand out oddly.

     
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    Mrs. Louboutin    July 2010  

    I think its tacky to mention on the website. Full open bars are standard at weddings. People expect them.  There is no need to mention on the website.  I think mentioning that on the website would come across as a bit odd. 

    I don't think mentioning anything of that nature regarding libations is appropriate on the website other than using the word "cocktails" somewhere, but for instance, if you were planning on not having a bar at all or doing a cash bar, then I could see some reason to address that issue on the website so that people knew what to expect.

    It sounds like it will be great party though!  Enjoy!

     
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    GaBGal    September 25, 2010  

    It's up to you, I don't think its NECESSARY because I'd assume open bar in my social circles. I would hope that people would notify me if it was a cash bar though!

     
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    krissycake    November 21, 2009   orlando,fl

    if it's open bar, i don't think there's a need to mention it...

     
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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    I wouldn't mention it unless you were not providing drinks. 

     
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    scissors    June 19, 2010   Atlanta, Ga

    I'd leave it off, tbh.

     
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    MrsK2be    November 15, 2008   Ohio

    I agree with Mrs. Louboutin on this one -leave it off. 

    If you want to add it to your website I would say something like "fully stocked bar ready with spirits and libations!" or something cheesy like that.... but to mention "open" is sort like saying, "free dinner"...

     
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    yrret107    November 28, 2009   Seattle, WA; Married in West Chester, PA

    I would leave it off too.  I would only put it on if you were having a cash bar or limited bar.   But if it's a open bar, I wouldn't.

     
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    Lovespearls    June 13, 2010   New York & DC & Austin

    I would leave it off too, I think people assume and there is no reason to draw attention to it, believe me they will be happy the day of the wedding!

     
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    verosara    March 27, 2010   LA, California

    I think it would be nice to mention where the room where "refreshments will be served" will be located.  That way you don't get any freeloaders or people who plan on getting sloshed at your wedding. 

     
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    Selene221    October 31, 2012  

    I don't see any need to mention it. Guests will find out when they arrive. No one needs that information beforehand anyway.

     
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    LaurieNYC    August 31, 2010   NY

    I agree, guests will find out very easily, and the word of mouth works very well when it comes to open bars... ;-)

     
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    absolutbee42    May 2, 2009   NYC

    Having an open bar is like speaking a universal language--it never has to be explained!  Trust me--as a guest of many, many weddings of all different shapes and sizes, it is the one thing you can count on everyone to figure out very quickly!! Laughing

     
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    Kittyachi    August 2010   New York

    Yeah I don't see the need to mention it.

     
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    LadyGoodman    September 25, 2010   Baltimore, MD

    I don't think you need to mention it.  Honestly, whenever I go to a wedding, I assume that it'll be open bar.  I don't know if that's common in your area, but if it is, leave it off.

     

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