Post # 1
So as a Canadian I can make the occasional joke about us being nice. But here’s a crazy example of a bride being very rude (except below from the article and link to full story below)
Consider this: you attend the wedding of a casual acquaintance. You opt for your go-to gift — a basket filled with fancy salsas, oil, biscuits, marshmallow spread and more. You sign the card, “Life is delicious — enjoy!”
Later, you get a text from the bride — “I want to thank you for coming to the wedding Friday,” it begins.
“I’m not sure if it’s the first wedding you have been to, but for your next wedding … people give envelopes. I lost out on $200 covering you and your dates plate . … and got fluffy whip and sour patch kids in return. Just a heads-up for the future.”
It sounds like a Miss Manners hypothetical, but this was the drama that played out at a recent Hamilton wedding.
IMO the gift was tacky, but that response was just so unfathomably rude – and it happened over text!
Post # 3
@canuckandakiwi: This has been covered already here, but yeah… that bride is crazy.
Post # 4
@canuckandakiwi: I don’t think the gift is tacky! I think it is cute for an casual friend! But the response…?! Oh my!
ETA: I followed the link and looked at the actual gift. Might be a tad on the tacky side. BUT. that bride was way out of line.
Post # 5
Both parties should be embarrassed…that gift basket looks like items found at my local Dollar Tree. I am biased because I literally don’t know anyone in real life who gives gifts at weddings other than cash..and literally, don’t know anyone who doesn’t cover their plate and then some. While I’d never act like the bride did, I know that myself, my fiance, my mother, entire family, and all my friends, would have a serious WTF reaction that anyone would consider such a gift appropriate.
Post # 6
@MexiPino: Oops! I did a search first but couldn’t find it.
@Miss_Words: I think the gift is a impersonal (looked like a corporate ‘welcome’ basket) and didn’t require much more effort than going to a convenience store or a bodega. But I just can’t believe how RUDE that bride was….
Post # 7
I wouldn’t necessarily be overjoyed with the present (I can’t/don’t eat most of the food in that basket), but I would never complain about the gift TO the giver. That’s just…rude.
Post # 8
I don’t think the gift was that tacky, but then again I love marshmallow spread & sour patch kids. I think that bride ought to be ashamed of herself though.
Post # 9
I don’t care what the gift is, in my opinion it is just plain rude to complain about a gift, especially to the giver. You are being GIVEN something. I agree with what the etiquette coach says in the article: “She says the couple should have offered the basket to family, friends or a food bank, then written a thank-you note that focused on the thought behind the act of gift-giving.” And later, “You should be grateful that you got a gift and that’s the end of it. You want to preserve the feelings of the giver.”
I can’t believe the bride says weddings are to make money for the future. And people aren’t giving gifts as “cover” for your wedding. It is your choice to have whatever wedding you want. You could get married for the cost of your marriage liscence or $40,000. Your responsibility.
Post # 10
LOL oh my. Well it’s the thought that counts. It is a kind of tacky gift but it took some nerve to bitch to the guest. Just write the thank you card and forget about it!
Post # 11
The gift wasn’t great but it just amazes me – all the crazy things the bride did
1. reprimanding the guest – period
2. reprimanding her via text
3. sharing it on facebook – shaming her on social media.
4. demanding the reciept
5. saying it cost $200 to cover the cost of the plates
It’s just nuts.
Post # 12
Personally I don’t find any gift tacky and I think that saying that is rude. Do I like every gift that I receive? No but it is a GIFT! Most of the products in that basket are President’s Choice which are not cheap…especially the oil that I see in the basket. Plus if they were casual acquaintances the giver probably had no idea what to give.
And this is why registries should be included in invites. The giver probably didn’t know about the registry if they even had one. I am from the same area and neither I nor a lot of people in my area give cash.
Post # 13
That bride needs a reality check. Since when are weddings to make money with? I thought the point of them was, you know, to get married.
Post # 14
A wedding is not some twisted parlay at gifts and cash. Agree with
@NewfieBullet: have the wedding you can afford and treat your guests like GUESTS!
Post # 15
I think the present was a little tacky for a wedding gift, but it seems so very well suited to the tacky bride. I think she got just what she deserved heheh
Post # 16
@Holly77: hahaha +1! What a lunatic.