Tacky Wedding Gift but an Unbelievably Rude Response

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
6951 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@canuckandakiwi:  This has been covered already here, but yeah… that bride is crazy.

Post # 4
205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@canuckandakiwi: I don’t think the gift is tacky! I think it is cute for an casual friend! But the response…?! Oh my! 

ETA: I followed the link and looked at the actual gift. Might be a tad on the tacky side. BUT. that bride was way out of line.

Post # 5
2059 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Both parties should be embarrassed…that gift basket looks like items found at my local Dollar Tree. I am biased because I literally don’t know anyone in real life who gives gifts at weddings other than cash..and literally, don’t know anyone who doesn’t cover their plate and then some. While I’d never act like the bride did, I know that myself, my fiance, my mother, entire family, and all my friends, would have a serious WTF reaction that anyone would consider such a gift appropriate. 


Post # 7
1840 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015


I wouldn’t necessarily be overjoyed with the present (I can’t/don’t eat most of the food in that basket), but I would never complain about the gift TO the giver. That’s just…rude.

Post # 8
1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I don’t think the gift was that tacky, but then again I love marshmallow spread & sour patch kids.  I think that bride ought to be ashamed of herself though.  

Post # 9
2475 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t care what the gift is, in my opinion it is just plain rude to complain about a gift, especially to the giver. You are being GIVEN something. I agree with what the etiquette coach says in the article: “She says the couple should have offered the basket to family, friends or a food bank, then written a thank-you note that focused on the thought behind the act of gift-giving.” And later, “You should be grateful that you got a gift and that’s the end of it. You want to preserve the feelings of the giver.”

I can’t believe the bride says weddings are to make money for the future. And people aren’t giving gifts as “cover” for your wedding. It is your choice to have whatever wedding you want. You could get married for the cost of your marriage liscence or $40,000. Your responsibility. 

Post # 10
1233 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

LOL oh my. Well it’s the thought that counts. It is a kind of tacky gift but it took some nerve to bitch to the guest. Just write the thank you card and forget about it! 

Post # 12
1826 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Personally I don’t find any gift tacky and I think that saying that is rude. Do I like every gift that I receive? No but it is a GIFT! Most of the products in that basket are President’s Choice which are not cheap…especially the oil that I see in the basket. Plus if they were casual acquaintances the giver probably had no idea what to give.

And this is why registries should be included in invites. The giver probably didn’t know about the registry if they even had one. I am from the same area and neither I nor a lot of people in my area give cash.

Post # 13
8518 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

That bride needs a reality check. Since when are weddings to make money with? I thought the point of them was, you know, to get married.

Post # 14
629 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

A wedding is not some twisted parlay at gifts and cash. Agree with

@NewfieBullet:  have the wedding you can afford and treat your guests like GUESTS!

Post # 15
2876 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

I think the present was a little tacky for a wedding gift,  but it seems so very well suited to the tacky bride. I think she got just what she deserved heheh

Post # 16
432 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Holly77:  hahaha +1!  What a lunatic.

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