Tact needed for tactless request

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
93 posts
Worker bee

I dont think it should be a huge issue if it she would be sharing the room with her relative and the cost of the room has already been covered. You can simply explain what you said earlier, you and FI just want some quiet time alone before the wedding. Apologize and let her know there are alternative accommodations already arranged not too far away. I think if she is a very close friend she should be understanding and not too bothered. 

Hope it all works out!

Post # 3
1136 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Astra:  Agree with PP, just politely explain the situation, there’s nothing wrong with wanting a quiet night alone before the wedding! I certainly wouldn’t be offended, i’d actually probably prefer to be out of the couples way that close to the wedding if I wasn’t in the wedding party otherwise i’d feel like I was imposing! She may be happy there is another option 🙂

Post # 4
6457 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Is it your house? Or your family’s house? You said your mom wants you to uninvite her but what do you want to do? I don’t think your mom should get to dictate who gets to stay at your house.

If you don’t want her to stay there just explain that you want the night to be just you and FI. I’m sure most people would understand that.

Post # 5
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Since you are not telling your mom to mind her business lol, just go back to the friend with, “on second thought, with all the wedding stuff going on we just want an empty house to relax in before the big day.” I don’t think this will be a problem at all. Most people understand having guests over is a big inconvenience especially during a big event.

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