Post # 1
FI came home with the ‘completed’ envelopes. I’m not happy.
He though I’d be happy that he cancelled the caligrapher and stuck on the dreaded clear labels because we’re saving $300.
He’s honestly sorry and I’m trying not to cry.
They’re so ugly.
Post # 3
Ugh, I think a conversation about proper communication is in order. We’ve had to have the “if you disagree with something say it, don’t just do whatever the hell you want” talk on several occasions as well.
However, I guess at the end of the day, most people are going to barely look at the envelopes, so if this isn’t a correctable error to you (time or moneywise) it’s not the WORST thing that could happen.
Post # 4
Can we see a picture of them? I am sure they are fine!
Post # 5
Oooh boys! Yes let’s see a pic so we can help!
Post # 6
Oooh… I’ve used these at work and they are not friendly! They stick to themselves and the print rubs off easily. I’m so sorry 🙁
Post # 7
Post # 8
Oh no! Do you have time to get them done the way you want?
Post # 9
Oh my goodness! Are you able to purchase replacement envelopes? Does he have decent handwriting? If so, I would ask him to handwrite the addresses and offer to help him. Although the Calligrapher would have likely done a much better job, all that is “required” is that the envelopes be handwritten.
Post # 10
Those clear labels became a wedding disaster for me too, so I feel your pain! Those things are awful, and really they aren’t even clear, it’s completely obvious the label is there. Is it too late to un-cancel the calligrapher? Sorry he didn’t realize it was important to you!
Post # 11
Well, if it makes you feel any better I have never in my life noticed or cared what my address on an envelope looked like and as long as it gets to the person (who will promptly drop the envelope in the trash anyway!) I think saving $300 is totally worth it.
Post # 12
Oh wow. I paid for high-end calligraphy and got so many compliments, but honestly, I don’t think anyone will notice unless they really, really stand out!
Post # 13
My frien print calligraphy writing straight onto her envelopes and it looked awesome!!! Could you try that?
Post # 14
Could you do the calligraphy yourself (or make him do it?)? It’s really not very difficult (sure it takes time to practice, but it’s not that bad when you get used to it.) I would probably argue that all of the materials you would really need for calligraphy cost <20 dollars. sure it won’t be as pretty as someone who’s had tons and tons of practice, but I think that might be a good compromise?
Post # 15
If you can’t get the clear labels off, could you do stylized wrap-around labels that cover them? I’d price out all the options – buying new envelopes, nicer stylish labels to cover the clear ones, hiring calligraphy, writing it yourselves.
FWIW, I handwrote ours (not calligraphy, just my handwriting) and got so many compliments on it. People really seem to love hand addressing even if it isn’t perfect.
And I have gotten some stylized wrap around labels that I thought were soooo cool!
I will just add… While I would be unhappy too about clear labels (I was quite particular on my invites), I would be really kind to FI about this mistake. It is frustrating, but he really thought he was helping. The clear labels won’t matter in 5 years, the way you made him feel about it will.
Post # 16
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@MissFireFlower: Meh. Use the $300 on something else. People don’t save envelopes and they will get over the labels in the two seconds it takes to open the envelope and throw the envelope away. I just don’t get paying for calligraphy on the envelopes.
Definitely have a conversation with him about communication though. He absolutely should have discussed it with you first.