Post # 1
well, bees…it’s over! i talked to him today about how I felt he was never going to commit…i asked for a time line…he wouldnt give it…he just got more and more pissed off! he just kept saying, “we cant get married now!” i asked why and he refused to say why! he told me i was crazy and needed therapy because I am crazy for not seeing the “commitment” that we already have. he said i was a bad mother because i brought up some issues where his mother had behaved inappropriately toward me. he was totally pissed that i said anything about her, which i never have before! every time i would try to talk to him, he would just storm off, slamming door and acting like a complete lunatic. i swear i have never see this side of him before,cursing at me and completely refusing to talk. all we did was scream at each other…ugh. so he left and i hope he doesnt come back. oh yeah, he said to me…”maybe you should start dating other guys so u can see how good u have it!” u believe that?!
so, im done…i want him to move his stuff out of here…immediately if not sooner! thank you ladies for all of your kind words and encouragement that you gave me yesterday…i truly appreciate it!
Post # 5
I’m so sorry! I am glad you have your answer though and while it will be difficult for a while, you will find the most wonderful man for you one day! Best of luck sweetie!
Post # 6
So sorry, but from what you have shared, I think you did the right thing. If it were me, I would find some boxes and pack up his stuff and then call him to come get it.
Post # 7
I’m sorry because I’m sure this must be tough! But congrats on standing up for yourself and I wish you the best of like in your life without him 🙂
Post # 8
Sorry, I wish the best. It seems like he has some issues to workout.
@noritake22: I agree!
Post # 9
thank u so much ladies…it will be tough…i am scared about money but i will survive. i believe everything happens for a reason
Post # 10
he does…he needs to grow up. his mom completely ruined him and he doesnt even see it. the funny thing is…i am not even sad. when he refused to tell me why we couldnt get married or even discuss it with me, something just clicked in my head and poof i had clarity. his silence told me everything i needed to know. maybe i will be sad tomorrow….
Post # 11
Break-ups suck, even when they are 100% the right choice.
You are a very strong woman to make this decision in spite of your fears about money, etc. Good for you, and I have every confidence that you will not only survive but thrive. You may be sad at some point, but underneath it all you will have the serenity of knowing you did the right thing. That sort of childish behaviour – when all you did was try to instigate a serious discussion – is just disgraceful. Who needs an immature brat like that?
I will be praying for you!
Post # 12
I’m glade that you realized that he was wasting you time and decided to move on. I’m sorry about the way he acted toward you but I believe everything happens for a reason. You will meet the man that you deserve one day and I wish you all the best.
Post # 13
You are one smart cookie! He did indeed tell you everything you needed to know….by not saying anything!!!
Glad you stuck to your guns, that is SO HARD TO DO! We are here for you every step of the way Zalonia!
Post # 14
The guys who think that every other guy is way worse and doesn’t treat girls well etc. … never the good guys. No one who thinks he/she is god’s gift to the other gender actually is.
Post # 15
I’m so sorry. I hope you find happiness.
Post # 16
Send him on a long errand and have his belongings out the door. Also arrange to have the locks changed during that time too.
He did give you every bit of info you needed to know. And him telling you that you are a bad mom because you disagreed with his own mother is worse imho. How insensitive and jerky.
Instead of answering you honestly with either a yes I plan to marry you or no I am not, he deflected and got angry, blaming you for causing him discomfort. Well sorry dude, our gal here has feelings and deserves 100 percent honesty Be good to yourself and make sure your kids and you come first. Just guard the lives and hearts of the little ones and guard your heart too.
Only let in the future a man who isn’t afraid of having a plan! Wishing you peace and comfort and so sorry he isn’t who he said he was. You’re not alone. I think probably the majority of women here have known committmentphobe men at one time or another.