Post # 1
…until it’s on the birth certificate! I’m 18 weeks pregnant, and I wish I had kept our baby’s name a SECRET. People always feel the need to add their 2 cents. As if it’s any of their business! My husband and I had to decided to give the baby my last name. I wanted to name the baby after my uncle and father, so first name/middle name. My husband also wanted his name in there. He suggested using my last name in order to have a piece of my dad in there. Anyways, we were both happy with it. Then, he told his sister. She said people would think we were divorced if the baby had my last name and not his. Excuse me, welcome to 2014! That’s not how things work. I don’t have my husband’s last name, so people may assume that anyway! UGH. So my husband got bullied into changing it. So now baby will have hubby’s last name, and my uncle and dad’s names as first/middle. I still love the name, but it’s just the principle you know?? My hormones may be making it worse, but I’m so pissed at his sister for meddling!
Heed my warning, don’t announce your baby’s name! Or maybe anything for that matter…
Post # 2
PakiBee03: I hear ya. Next time I am not even announcing to my family and his that I’m even pregnant until after the gender scan. I’m glad I had a boy because when I thought it was a girl, I picked the name Olivia, and let it slip, and my mom went “Eww.” I still love that name, but lesson learned. So when we found out it was a boy, we kept our lips sealed.
Post # 3
I don’t understand how you can be bullied into changing a name you want to use. It’s not her decision. Use whatever you two want, why let them have a deciding vote in this.
Post # 4
PakiBee03: I agree with you. I hate when people add their two cents AFTER a decision has been made. That’s why I don’t show anyone my wedding dress. It’s simple and I don’t feel like hearing everyone’s mouth. I know what looks good on me, and I can see the bigger picture while they can’t. I’m sorry that outside pressure made your husband change his mind 🙁
Post # 5
pinkshoes: That’s what I said. I honestly don’t mind, we are back to the name I wanted originally, but my husband doesn’t get his name in there now. I told him don’t do it, because your sister is being old fashioned. He said “Yeah, but she may have a point…” I was like ok, whatever, your loss…
Post # 6
I agree with pinkshoes- if it’s what you two want, don’t change it.
And for the record, I have my mother’s last name and growing up it caused almost no confusion. And WHO CARES if people think you’re divorced- if they want to judge you negatively for that, then it’s their problem.
Post # 7
I’m almost 32 weeks and we haven’t told anyone our name and won’t until he is born. We don’t want any looks or anyone trying to change our minds!
Post # 8
PakiBee03: lol. As long as you guys aren’t getting your arm twisted into doing something you absolutely don’t want.
Post # 9
Oh no, I’m sorry to hear that your plans have changed. I would fully support you guys giving the baby your last name. Not that it matters because it’s as much my business as it is your SILs. None. I hope your husband comes to realise that what his sister said is nonsense and even if it wasn’t, she has zero say in naming another couples child.
You’re dead right of course. I wanted to not tell anyone the name we’d picked out for our DD because I felt people might be negative about it whereas if we waited until we were introducing the baby already with her name then it would be her name. Certain people I worried they might pester at DH if (they felt) ‘there was still time’. In the end only his mother was negative. Everyone who’s ever asked us DDs name has been very positive about it.
Post # 10
PakiBee03: So you’re naming your child your last name, middle name, and your husband’s last name? I got a little confused there. We thought about our daughter having my last name, but i’m glad we didn’t because like your sister, we happen to live where a lot of people did wonder (but that’s us). This is your child, you name him whatever you want. that is y’alls perrogative.
Post # 11
It won’t end after you have the baby. just have to get used to it especially if you don’t follow the norm. It shouldn’t be that way but it unfortunelty is. I kept my last name since DH is a smith. So we named baby after me. Even the woman at the hospital who was in charge of the paper work gave us a hard time about it. It made me annoyed, I should have said something to her supervisor. Anywho, just do what you want and don’t let others get to you.
Post # 12
PakiBee03: Well I wonder what people think of my son and I LOL– he has a hyphenated last name (my maiden + his dads last) and I have an entirely different name (my husband’s last name– but I did change my middle name to my maiden name).
If my son ever wants to change his last name to my husband’s last name- he knows he’s more than welcome- but that he doesn’t have to. His dad isn’t really in the picture much at all, and he and my husband are closer than him and his dad.
We’ve shared our baby’s name with a few– and haven’t gotten any face to face negativity– my mom is sure to share her true feelings, and she really likes his name!! That said, I don’t really care….unless they want me sharing my thoughts on thier kid’s names LOL
Post # 13
We announced what we were naming DD when we found out the sex … but we announced it as “this is her name” rather than “this is the top contender.” I think announcing it as the name you have chosen and that’s the end of it is no different from announcing it when the baby is born — provided you aren’t surrounded by assholes who feel the need to comment on a decision that has clearly already been made. Thankfully, my family isn’t like that!
Post # 14
PakiBee03: I hear ya…..we havent even talked about names yet ourselves let alone mentioned one word about what names we like to our families and theres already drama! We dont plan on telling them anything and are going to keep it under wraps until the name is written on his or her wrist band at the hospital lol….. Im just PRAYING that DH doesnt slip because his parents have a way of bullying/asking things so you let news out.
Post # 15
People love to comment don’t they? Every time someone has told me their kids name i have responded with “That’s lovely” even if i hate the name. It’s not my kid, i don’t care what you call it.
When people ask me for a name i just simply say “I’ve thought of a few but i’m waiting to see what he/she looks like before i name them” and they don’t usually ask anymore.
I won’t announce the official name until i register it. I’ve selected a unisex name and people online are very opinionated as to whether it’s a boys name or girls name so i’m keeping my mouth closed.