Take my advice, keep your baby's name A SECRET…

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
7656 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

PakiBee03:  I hear ya. Next time I am not even announcing to my family and his that I’m even pregnant until after the gender scan. I’m glad I had a boy because when I thought it was a girl, I picked the name Olivia, and let it slip, and my mom went “Eww.” I still love that name, but lesson learned. So when we found out it was a boy, we kept our lips sealed.

Post # 3
13890 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t understand how you can be bullied into changing a name you want to use.  It’s not her decision.  Use whatever you two want, why let them have a deciding vote in this.

Post # 4
1739 posts
Bumble bee

PakiBee03:  I agree with you. I hate when people add their two cents AFTER a decision has been made.  That’s why I don’t show anyone my wedding dress. It’s simple and I don’t feel like hearing everyone’s mouth. I know what looks good on me, and I can see the bigger picture while they can’t. I’m sorry that outside pressure made your husband change his mind 🙁 

Post # 6
3977 posts
Honey bee

I agree with pinkshoes- if it’s what you two want, don’t change it.

And for the record, I have my mother’s last name and growing up it caused almost no confusion. And WHO CARES if people think you’re divorced- if they want to judge you negatively for that, then it’s their problem.

Post # 7
2188 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

I’m almost 32 weeks and we haven’t told anyone our name and won’t until he is born. We don’t want any looks or anyone trying to change our minds!

Post # 8
13890 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

PakiBee03:  lol.  As long as you guys aren’t getting your arm twisted into doing something you absolutely don’t want.

Post # 9
224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Oh no, I’m sorry to hear that your plans have changed. I would fully support you guys giving the baby your last name. Not that it matters because it’s as much my business as it is your SILs. None. I hope your husband comes to realise that what his sister said is nonsense and even if it wasn’t, she has zero say in naming another couples child.

You’re dead right of course. I wanted to not tell anyone the name we’d picked out for our DD because I felt people might be negative about it whereas if we waited until we were introducing the baby already with her name then it would be her name. Certain people I worried they might pester at DH if (they felt) ‘there was still time’. In the end only his mother was negative. Everyone who’s ever asked us DDs name has been very positive about it.

Post # 10
5105 posts
Bee Keeper

PakiBee03:  So you’re naming your child your last name, middle name, and your husband’s last name?  I got a little confused there.  We thought about our daughter having my last name, but i’m glad we didn’t because like your sister, we happen to live where a lot of people did wonder (but that’s us).  This is your child, you name him whatever you want.  that is y’alls perrogative.

Post # 11
1495 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

It won’t end after you have the baby. just have to get used to it especially if you don’t follow the norm. It shouldn’t be that way but it unfortunelty is. I kept my last name since DH is a smith. So we named baby after me. Even the woman at the hospital who was in charge of the paper work gave us a hard time about it. It made me annoyed, I should have said something to her supervisor. Anywho, just do what you want and don’t let others get to you.

Post # 12
2841 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

PakiBee03:  Well I wonder what people think of my son and I LOL– he has a hyphenated last name (my maiden + his dads last) and I have an entirely different name (my husband’s last name– but I did change my middle name to my maiden name).

If my son ever wants to change his last name to my husband’s last name- he knows he’s more than welcome- but that he doesn’t have to.  His dad isn’t really in the picture much at all, and he and my husband are closer than him and his dad.


We’ve shared our baby’s name with a few– and haven’t gotten any face to face negativity– my mom is sure to share her true feelings, and she really likes his name!!  That said, I don’t really care….unless they want me sharing my thoughts on thier kid’s names LOL

Post # 13
4416 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We announced what we were naming DD when we found out the sex … but we announced it as “this is her name” rather than “this is the top contender.” I think announcing it as the name you have chosen and that’s the end of it is no different from announcing it when the baby is born — provided you aren’t surrounded by assholes who feel the need to comment on a decision that has clearly already been made. Thankfully, my family isn’t like that!

Post # 14
2153 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

PakiBee03:  I hear ya…..we havent even talked about names yet ourselves let alone mentioned one word about what names we like to our families and theres already drama! We dont plan on telling them anything and are going to keep it under wraps until the name is written on his or her wrist band at the hospital lol….. Im just PRAYING that DH doesnt slip because his parents have a way of bullying/asking things so you let news out.

Post # 15
931 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

People love to comment don’t they? Every time someone has told me their kids name i have responded with “That’s lovely” even if i hate the name. It’s not my kid, i don’t care what you call it.

When people ask me for a name i just simply say “I’ve thought of a few but i’m waiting to see what he/she looks like before i name them” and they don’t usually ask anymore.

I won’t announce the official name until i register it. I’ve selected a unisex name and people online are very opinionated as to whether it’s a boys name or girls name so i’m keeping my mouth closed.

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