Post # 1
For all those parents or newlyweds with little ones – I read this great article by Ann Douglas and thought of you.
"Everyone expects a newly married couple to take some time to themselves after the wedding; it’s widely recognized that they need to be given some space so that they can become comfortable in their new roles as husband and wife (to say nothing of recovering from the sheer insanity of those stress-filled weeks leading up to the wedding). But when couples who’ve just had a baby ask to be given a few days to themselves before the visitors start arriving in droves, they’re sometimes made to feel as if they’re being unreasonably selfish in depriving other people of the chance to sneak a peek at the new arrival."
Has anyone ever taking a "Babymoon"????
Post # 3
I don’t have children myself, but my sister and most of my friends have told their parents that for the first 5 – 7 days they are not welcome. The one exception was a girlfriend who had an emergency C-section and needed her mom to come to help care for her two other kids. I know new grandparents are disappointed. But now that most dads take a week or two off right after the birth, there is no real reason for mom or MIL to be camping out to take care of mom or baby.
Post # 4
I totally agree with this! My brother and s-i-l did the same thing – they didn’t want visitors for the first week. Both grandparents totally supported it! It’s so much easier to figure things out and develop your own routine without a million people saying "I did this" or "I recommend this" etc etc
I guess the only different may be if you live in the same town as family/friends and a visit really is 30 minutes stopping in at the hospital to say hi and wish congrats – not spending the week in your house with you.
Post # 5
Its the week in your house that gets to you – and it’s work getting ready for houseguests – and sometimes taking care of them (my FMIL and FSIL are hugely high maintenance) which is sure not what you need with a new baby!
Post # 6
I agree with you all – its hard to say NO to people sometimes, especially when they want to share in this special moment in your life – but you need the space! too much activity after a stressful incident can be suffocating.
Post # 7
I understand the need for space and adjustment, but I personally would love the help. I saw how completely exhausted my best friend was after having her baby. Worse, the baby wasn’t breastfeeding right, and feeding her properly made it all the more challenging. I think my friend really welcomed the extra help in the week or two after the new baby…Granted, I wouldn’t want everyone and their mother coming over to make a fuss, and perhaps that’s what’s really meant by the "babymoon."
Post # 8
i’d love to do this, honestly! but i am not sure if my family would cooperate with me.
my fh and i will live quite a distance away from our families and i highly doubt my mom is going to stay put and wait for me to give birth before coming to my house and setting up camp…..
not sure….maybe i’ll appreciate her help when the time comes.