Post # 1
hello, Catholic brides! I’ve never been to a wedding where there has been a collection taken during the mass, but I thought this might be a nice way to make it more than “just about us”, either for the university we’ll be getting married at (the order of priests who run the university are so special to us and the school and education we received there means a lot to us), or perhaps towards some other charity. I am wondering if this is appropriate. Will people think we should have spent less on our wedding and donated that towards said fund or will our guests appreciate the sentiment? I’m not sure if it would be awkward. Thoughts?
Post # 3
I think it would make me feel a little uncomfortable
Post # 4
Meh, I think you should make a donation as a couple if you’d like to give the church something…
Post # 5
If a collection plate was passed to me at a wedding, I’d find it incredibly uncomfortable. If you want a donation, ask for it instead of gifts beforehand.
Post # 6
Thanks! That’s probably better.
Post # 7
I personally wouldn’t think anything of it, if you were having a full mass. But I know that there are probably plenty of others that would feel uncomfortable with it.
Post # 8
Personally I would donate myself (as the bride and groom) to the church and not have the collection. None of the many catholic weddings including full masses have ever passed the plate.
Also I think it would be an awkward moment for any non-catholic guests.
Post # 9
Agree with everyone else, it’s not really appropriate. Also, it would add several minutes to the length of the ceremony, which isn’t desirable. (I’m Protestant but the issues are the same).
Post # 10
we are doing a full mass but no offereing. i don’t think i’d like it if i was at a wedding that did that.
Post # 11
I’m not religious and would feel awkward about not contributing. Best to save that for actual masses where people are voluntarily attending a religious service and not going out of support for a couple getting married.
Post # 12
Yeah, I agree with the previous posters. Collection plates at a wedding mass are a big no-no.
Post # 13
I think it would be uncomfortable. Not many people expect to dish out cash at a wedding so they may not even bring any. And have you ever been approached by an organization needing money and you don’t have any on you, only a credit card? Very uncomfortable.
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I don’t think this is a good idea. Guests may think this is a collection for you guys and not for the priests, especially guests who are not religious. I think a better idea is to make a donation yourselves instead.
Post # 15
I’m with everyone else on this one. I think it may make your guests uncomfortable – especially since they may not have brought appropriate change to a wedding. Plus, they have already traveled to be with you and brought you a gift. It just seems like asking a bit much IMO.
Post # 16
i don’t think this is a very good idea. not being religious, i would be uncomfortable and feel awkward. also, i normally don’t bring money to weddings unless i know it’s going to be a cash bar.