Taking a compliment

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Are you good at taking a compliment?
    Yes : (42 votes)
    25 %
    No : (38 votes)
    22 %
    Sometimes : (69 votes)
    41 %
    Depends : (21 votes)
    12 %
    Other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    11300 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Ehhhhhh sometimes. If it’s about me, not really. If it’s about something I made or am wearing or something, then I’m better, but not great.

    Post # 4
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I once heard in high school that most people (I think it was 2/3) don’t know how to take a compliment well.

    So now I smile, and say “Oh, thank you!” in a sweet and gracious tone!

    Post # 5
    6407 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I’m mediocre at it.

    In person I tend to say thanks and if it’s about something I’m wearing or whatever I’ll give some info about it like where it’s from or if I got it for $8 or something like that.

    On the bee I get awkward about it lol, even thought it’s not super-common on here. Especially if I have already replied to one person and someone else +1s them, I feel like, ok now it would be too much to keep saying thank you… I’ll just… thank them mentally, lol. But if someone criticizes me I’m all like “oh, it’s on now!” (typetypetypetype) lol. This is probably a little less than ideal.

    Post # 6
    11379 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    i was taught to always acknowledge a compliment and if you don’t know what to say, just politely say thank you.

    Post # 7
    11607 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m terrible at it.  

    Post # 8
    342 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I can handle a compliment, but I want it to be over as quickly as possible.

    Post # 9
    5207 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @Twyla_Smith:  I’ve always had low self esteem, so compliments often sound ingenuine to me. I don’t take them too well.

    Post # 10
    1340 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Yes. I love getting compliments!

    Post # 11
    232 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    DH will always say I look nice or beautiful and I never just accept it. I instantly have to point out my flaws.

    I saw this on Reddit the other day and stumbled across one comment that summed up how our SOs feel when we don’t just accept their compliment:
    Boyfriends of Reddit, what are things your girlfriend does/says that piss you off? 

    I’m the wife, but I have recently learned that my husband gets beyond PO’d when he gives me a compliment and I take it as a chance to point out (what I think are) my faults. For example: “Babe, you look really nice today” Me: “Yeah right, do you see these love handles?” I didn’t even realize I was doing it, but it apparently drives him to rage. Definitely working on it”

    I thought it was hilarious because I’m sure DH hates that I rag on myself when he’s trying to tell me how nice I look! Trying to change my ways! 🙂

    Post # 12
    1535 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @Aquaria:  Same here.

    I always feel incredibly awkward if someone gives me a compliment.  I’ve been trying to work on it, especially at work.  Right now I’m actively working toward a promotion into another department (the right position just has to open up!), so I actually need to acknowledge my accomplishments and be comfortable accepting compliments on my work and overall performance from my boss.

    When it comes to looks, personality, etc., though, it’s much much harder not to feel awkward.  Even when my fiance gives me a compliment, my first instinct is, “No I’m not!” (or something similar).  As I mentioned, I’m working on this … Now I just try to smile and say, “Thanks.”

    Post # 13
    6449 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Aquaria:  same here. I often view it as being ingenuine or they’re just trying to be nice so I’m not very good at accepting it. It’s definitely something I’m working on though!

    Post # 14
    494 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I have a really hard time with compliments especially about my appearance, partly because I have self esteem issues, and partly because a lot of times it seems creepy to me (when it is a guy). It also makes me feel way more awkward now because I’m married, I’ve even seen guys check me out while I’m with DH which I think is extremely direspectful, so I guess just the whole thing weirds me out lol. If it’s something I made, that’s different.

    Post # 15
    1817 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I get complimented a lot on my hair because it’s bright red and very long. I just make eye contact (which can be oddly hard for me), smile, and genuinely say thank you. It feels nice. 🙂

    Post # 16
    1163 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Twyla_Smith:  I normally don’t have an issue but some people are just awkward with it! Like my old supervisor would just go on and on about how she liked my hair or my outfit and it made me feel weird like I was on the spot. But most people seem to be a lot less enthusiastic and dramatic than her, so normally I have no problem just thanking them and moving on. I’m wondering how it will be on my wedding day though because I’m sure there will be lots of fussing over me then!

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