- Statutory Grape
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: February 2014
I’m not a waiting Bee and will probably take a lot of crap for this, but a few recent posts have reminded me of the importance of taking care of yourself.
By this, I don’t mean being invested in other activities on the side so you won’t talk about engagement/marriage, or even so your SO will feel compelled to propose because you’re super-busy or anything like that. Do things you love just for the sake of doing them. Take care of yourself in every way, because the sad truth is that even if your SO is the greatest person in the world…if you base all your happiness on them and wait around forever for them to make you happy, you will end up miserable.
Only one person can make you happy, and that person is you. If you feel like an engagement is the ONLY thing that will make you happy, that’s a big red flag: you need to stop, back up, and take care of you.
By this I mean, enjoying the little things in life. Smile at babies. Stop to smell the flowers. Take a nice, long nap in the middle of the day for no reason at all. Lose yourself in a good book. And then tell yourself that you don’t need a man to be happy (Note: I am not saying “break up”), because you don’t. You are all strong, wonderful, independent women whose happiness should not depend on a ring or a promise.
I see so many Bees getting upset and depressed because a holiday or anniversary or birthday doesn’t yield a ring, and it makes me a little sad. I understand that it sucks. But those days, in and of themselves, are a gift. Maybe what I’m saying is to just relax a little and enjoy life instead of keeping your nose to the ground (or the ring) all the time. Because if you do that, you won’t get a chance to notice and fully experience all the other wonderful things like your best friend’s hug or the sun on your skin. How can you, when you’re so preoccupied?
I hope I don’t get ripped into for this, because I am sympathetic of everyone’s situation…but isn’t it better to live fully than to wait endlessly for something? Just my .02.