Taking my dreams while I work, long

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
849 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Mia1724:  I’m still coming to terms with everything you said, but I am voting PR on this. Like here is the deal: when I met my FI he had never had an interest in art or riding or photography – then he did all of those things because I was so enthusiastic about it. He is a really good rider, but he lost interest in the other stuff over the years. You probably presented your interests to him in a glowing fashion and he probably got curious about it.

Similarly, when we met I had no interest in playing any instrument but the drums and I was pretty sure ‘folk music’ would make you break out in hives. Turns out, I can play a bit of bass and I love me some folk music.

All of that said, it downright SUCKS that he is doing it all without you.  When we are skint, or one or the other is skint, we find things we can do together that won’t cost money.

Post # 4
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@Mia1724:  While I don’t think there is anything wrong with him taking an interest in new activities (even if you were the one to suggest them – partners often inspire each other), his timing really leaves something to be desired. I don’t think he should have to do every little thing with you and he should be allowed to go out with his friends. However, if you were just injured, then his primary concern should be you rather than starting a new hobby. I can honestly tell you that my FI wouldn’t go anywhere while I was hurt :-

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