(Closed) taking no’s personally

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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349 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Oh honey, don’t worry! No one means it personally! Look on the bright side, now you can save all that extra money!

We’re on the opposite end. We expected about 75 people to RSVP yes, and it looks like we’ll be having about 90! So we’re hoping some people send in no’s even though our families have pretty much confirmed they’re coming. And now we also have to work in an extra $1K or so for food, and a couple more tables in a very small space, and it’s not fun.

I know it sometimes hurts when you get a no, but just keep in mind that the people who are there love and support you, and in the end, numbers really don’t matter.

Post # 4
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359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

People say no for all kinds or reasons, PLEASE don’t take it personally. Honestly, it will just make it possible for you to have more fun, and spend more time with each guests, making the whole day more personal. Enjoy that, as well as the cost savings.

Post # 5
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1883 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m inviting 150 and praying only 100 show up. lol.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oh, don’t take it personally! This happens all the time with weddings. You can’t please everyone and just remember it’s about the two of you πŸ™‚

Do you have a B list? Use this as an excuse to invite people you would have liked to in the first place πŸ™‚

Post # 7
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1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

dont worry about it; they probably have other plans; nothing personal

 

hey you’ll be saving money!

Post # 8
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952 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’m actually hoping for more no’s, less money I have to spend, and the people that come are people who really want to be there!

Post # 10
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908 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I was a bit dissapointed by some of the “No” responses.  We invited some people from the B-list early on so that was nice.  I’m a little annoyed that people didn’t RSVP “no” earlier b/c now it’s too late to invite more b-list people.  We are going to start offering people dates if they want them.

We invited 280 (Lots of international, so we really only expected 220)

So far I’ve gotten 73% of them back and 140 people have accepted, if everyone who hasn’t replied yet says yes, we will be up to 190.

Oh, and our deadline is also tomorrow!

Post # 11
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908 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh yeah, we are paying for 200 dinners no matter what.

Post # 12
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Newbee

I know how you feel!!! I know I must not take it personally but it still bums me out πŸ™ We’re planning an out-of-town wedding so I expected a higher incidence of no’s — but some of those no’s are coming from people who I thought would be the kind to “move heaven and earth” to be there… but not so much (I guess I’m the kind of person who would be the first on a plane for someone even if that means taking a redeye and going to work the next day. I know I can’t expect everyone to be that way. Oh well, I’m just trying to get over it πŸ™‚ 

But just know that those people that will attend love you and will be there for you!!!

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