Post # 1
So I’ve been slacking a lot on planning in the past few months *more like a year* because of some personal issues that meant we weren’t sure when our wedding was actually going to happen. But now our date is definite and I’m getting down to the real planning that involves calculating budgets instead of pinning pictures of cake.
I’ve been thinking a lot about our photos recently. A lot of brides out there advise making a list to give to your photographer, which I think is a great idea. Our photos are really important to us and I don’t want anything to be missed or screwed up because I forgot to tell our photographer how we want things.
The thing we’re really struggling to decide on is when to take our photos. It makes more sense logistically to do a first look and then take our couples’, bridal party, and family portraits before the ceremony. That way we won’t miss the cocktail hour and we can greet people then and just enjoy the reception without the pressure of having to say hi to everyone. Plus we don’t have to rush the portraits and we have time to reshoot just in case.
However, I think Mr Blueshoes seeing me in my wedding dress for the first time when I walk down the aisle is more romantic. First looks can be very special and intimate, but it’s just not how I imagined things. I also feel a little weird about taking pictures when we’re not actually married yet. I don’t want to look back on my pictures and think ‘I wish we’d just waited 30 minutes’. We’re also considering a receiving line for the reception if we don’t do pictures before the ceremony so greeting guests at the cocktail hour isn’t a must.
What should I do bees?
ETA: I should add that Mr Blueshoes doesn’t have a very expressive face and I’m worried that our first look will be kind of forced. There’s a lot of pressure to look ‘OH MY GOD SUPER EXCITED AND FLOORED!’ so it makes a good photo and I don’t want Mr Blueshoes to react to that by putting on a fake exaggerated happy face.
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@Ruby-Redshoes: Somebody just posted this article in another thread and I thought it made some great points on first looks:
I would just do the first look. Your wedding day gets CRAzy after the ceremony and it’s nice to not have to rush around trying to jam 100s of photos into one hour. And there’s no way you’ll look back and remember the timing of when you took them – you’ll just love the photos. I couldn’t really tell you which of our couples’ photos were taken before vs. after.
Post # 6
We’re doing a first look and taking ALL pictures before ceremony. Getting ready, first look, bridal party, bride and groom, and family portriats.
Post # 7
We’re sacrificing our cocktail hour in order to do pictures after the ceremony. Like you, I’ve always pictured our first look being when I walk down the aisle. We’re doing a quick (only 50-80 guests) receiving line and then doing pics asap, missing most of the cocktail hour. I’m a fast eater and I love hosting things, so after I eat, I plan on also doing table visits. It’s do-able if you plan it out right 🙂
Post # 8
I’m doing our photos before the ceremony so we don’t feel rushed. Also, call me petty, but we’re paying a ton of money for our reception and, after saving for so long, I want to enjoy every minute of our cocktail hour & reception!
Post # 9
We did his side/his family, my side/my family separate before the ceremony and then did the whole bridal party/bride & groom after. It cut time and also gave us some “alone” time as just married before we had to go schmooze. It was nice.
Post # 10
From someone who did a first look and loved it – DO IT! After your ceremony, you will have zero time to yourselves. Its so nice to take a quiet moment before the craziness begins to get some genuinely emotional shots with your future hubby.
and trust me, in 30 years you will definitely not be thinking “I wish we waited 30 minutes”, you’ll probably just think “look at how great/young/in love we looked!”. You’ll still have your bridal glow before you get married because you are so excited its your wedding day!
Post # 11
It doesn’t necessarily need to be the deciding factor, but talk over times of day with your photographer. Everyone has their favorite type of light, and if doing a first look means that your pictures will be done with the sun high overhead, it will be more challenging light to make “pretty” pictures. (not impossible…just more challenging.)
Post # 12
@Ruby-Redshoes: How many guests are you having? Do you have a big bridal party? I was SO streesed about getting every picture I wanted that we went against our traditional views and had a first look. While those few minutes alone were nice, I dont think it was needed. We had so much time taking pictures that we were kinda like, “ok… we’re done. Now what?” and arrived at our cocktail hour 20 mins before our introductions were supposed to take place.
Post # 13
@Ruby-Redshoes: We did first look photos and felt no pressure to do anything other than be ourselves. Our first like photos are intimate, romantic and natural. Nothing dramatic about them, but that’s not who we are anyway! It was absolutely amazing to have that quiet time together before the ceremony. I liked being able to flow right into the cocktail hour after the ceremony and get the party going.
Post # 14
We are doing a first look and also ALL family portraits etc before the wedding. I really really, really want to be able to attend my cocktail hour, eat the amazing appetizers, drink our signature drink, and mingle like crazy. I’m not missing part of my own party just to have extra posed photos!
Post # 15
Take your individual photos, family, bridesmaids etc before the ceremony…and take your couples photos and ENTIRE party/family photos after. That way you have the majority done beforehand, and depending on the number of shots you need to do afterwards, you can still enjoy some of cocktail hour 🙂
(And your groom doesn’t see you until the ceremony)
Post # 16
- Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse
@lolot: That was me! I posted it because FI was deadset againts it and I didn’t want a gap. We would have been almost 2 hrs…
I showed it to him and he got all watery…he realized it will probably be the only time we have together that day and how intimate and personal a first look is.
I can’t wait to do it with him 🙂