Taking registry down before wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
744 posts
Busy bee

If it’s not too late, I would just leave the registry up, even though almost everything is gone.  People will draw their own conclusions and it won’t seem like you’re just looking for money, since you did actually register for stuff.

Post # 3
339 posts
Helper bee

secretbee33:  I would put the registry back up. Once all the things are gone, they will conclude on thier own to just give you money.

Post # 4
502 posts
Busy bee

I agree with the PPs, leave the registry up. There are still things left on it to be purchased and then if a guest wishes to buy you something meaningful, they can at least see what sort of things you like.

Post # 5
2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

We left our registry up, I did end up taking off some items that I decided there just wasn’t room for in our apartment or that I got a similar gift purchased elsewhere. Even with the registry still up I would say 30% of guests gave gifts and 70% gave cards with cash/gift cards.

About 10% of gifts were not from the registry at all anyway, but they were still very nice gifts. We got a personalized handmade pottery bowl, and two gifts that came with notes that those people received these items as wedding gifts and have loved them and wanted to share with us items that they ended up loving by getting us the same thing. This included a serving dish and a polar fleece blanket. We made it all fit somewhere in our apartment!

I agree that most guests will see the majority of items have been purchased and then make their own decision on what to do…probably give money. But if they look and can’t find your registry anymore they might think it’s somehow their error and that they need to find it.

Post # 7
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Take it down if you want! If anyone asks, just say, “We wanted people to get us whatever they wanted.” (Ahem- cash, please!) 

I did this and it wasn’t an issue. 

Post # 8
851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013


secretbee33:  I would leave it up and delete the items that you really have no room for or really do not need.  People will get the hint to give cash.  Taking it down will really insinuate cash which some might find offensive. ….

Post # 9
2455 posts
Buzzing bee

I would leave it up, if someone is determined to give you a physical gift then they will and having your registry up will let them know your tastes.

Post # 10
6691 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I actually delted everything from my registry that hadn’t yet been purchased as my wedding got closer. I was in the same situation as you, we received a ton of stuff at the showers and realized that not only did we not need anythign else we also didn’t have room for it.

No one asked me what I wanted, but I got a mix of regifts, off-registry items and cash. If people had asked me what I wanted I would have said “You don’t have to get me anything”.

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