Post # 1
So my fiance and I are a young couple who live in a small apartment. We got a lot of household items at my shower, which was great. However, we really have no room for anything else. Pretty much everything was purchased off our registry so I took down our page. I thought of doing a honeymoon fund but we are postponing the honeymoon and don’t even know where we’re going yet so this didn’t work.
I had a couple friends ask about it, and ask what they should give me. I kind of insinuated that we don’t have room for “things” and they were like “ohh so money” which was kind of awkward. At other weddings I’ve been to the couples have done the same thing and I just gave money because I assumed that was the norm. But I obviously feel rude telling people that we would just prefer monetary gifts. Or of course if my friend wanted to make me something or whatever I don’t mind, it’s the thought that counts. What did you do about this?
Post # 2
If it’s not too late, I would just leave the registry up, even though almost everything is gone. People will draw their own conclusions and it won’t seem like you’re just looking for money, since you did actually register for stuff.
Post # 3
secretbee33: I would put the registry back up. Once all the things are gone, they will conclude on thier own to just give you money.
Post # 4
I agree with the PPs, leave the registry up. There are still things left on it to be purchased and then if a guest wishes to buy you something meaningful, they can at least see what sort of things you like.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
We left our registry up, I did end up taking off some items that I decided there just wasn’t room for in our apartment or that I got a similar gift purchased elsewhere. Even with the registry still up I would say 30% of guests gave gifts and 70% gave cards with cash/gift cards.
About 10% of gifts were not from the registry at all anyway, but they were still very nice gifts. We got a personalized handmade pottery bowl, and two gifts that came with notes that those people received these items as wedding gifts and have loved them and wanted to share with us items that they ended up loving by getting us the same thing. This included a serving dish and a polar fleece blanket. We made it all fit somewhere in our apartment!
I agree that most guests will see the majority of items have been purchased and then make their own decision on what to do…probably give money. But if they look and can’t find your registry anymore they might think it’s somehow their error and that they need to find it.
Post # 6
goblueca: mrsaxachef: winstonchurchill: Ms_Purple: oh dang these are good thoughts. I put it back up, so if people search it at least they will find it. If they have already and it wasn’t up, then oh well haha. Thanks for the recommendations!
Post # 7
Take it down if you want! If anyone asks, just say, “We wanted people to get us whatever they wanted.” (Ahem- cash, please!)
I did this and it wasn’t an issue.
Post # 8
secretbee33: I would leave it up and delete the items that you really have no room for or really do not need. People will get the hint to give cash. Taking it down will really insinuate cash which some might find offensive. ….
Post # 9
I would leave it up, if someone is determined to give you a physical gift then they will and having your registry up will let them know your tastes.
Post # 10
I actually delted everything from my registry that hadn’t yet been purchased as my wedding got closer. I was in the same situation as you, we received a ton of stuff at the showers and realized that not only did we not need anythign else we also didn’t have room for it.
No one asked me what I wanted, but I got a mix of regifts, off-registry items and cash. If people had asked me what I wanted I would have said “You don’t have to get me anything”.