Post # 1
I just want some advice on how everyone is able to attend their wedding related appointments without taking too much time off work. I am three weeks away from the wedding day and it is all about the finalizing the details now. Unfortunately most of the Vendors are very busy due to all the weddings going on this summer. for the next four days I would have to leave either 30min earlier, 1 hour earlier but one in particulat I have to take a half day.
I hate taking time off work because I feel really bad. But As of now I dont really have a choice. but I am worried, I dont want my coworkers to feel that all I do is wedding stuff.
It is just so busy. both work , life etc. and this wedding thing.
What are your thoughts/ experience on this?
Post # 3
@worriedconfusedbride: FI has the same problem. He doesn’t get much leave time to begin with, which he is saving all of it for the honeymoon. He does get comp time though. He had to take off at 1 pm on a Thursday for our menu tasting (the ONLY time they offered it) and ended up working overtime to make up for it for a week straight. I have ample time off and also get every other Friday off, so I try to schedule as much on those Fridays as possible. I do think the wedding industry could care less that a lot of people actually work normal business hours Monday through Friday. I wish they could be more accomodating, like evening or late afternoon meetings. Lately I’ve had a ton of work and deadlines and have been working weekends just to stay on track and fit wedding stuff in as necessary. Hopefully it’ll all work out for you and you won’t miss too much work!
Post # 4
As long as the time off is allowed, you shouldn’t feel bad about missing work.. you are close to the most important day of your life! Almost everyone has things to do as the wedding gets close. Remember that it’s a job, people come and go from there.
Post # 5
Yes! exactly. I have to be at work 9-5 from Mon-friday. I thought when I finally started office hours it would be easier to book other appoinments vs. when I used to work retail hours as a student.
Most of it I was able to do at night especially in the beginning of the planning, which is also brutal because I end up eating fast food as it takes me almost 2 hours to commute home but at least my work did not get affected.
Post # 6
@worriedconfusedbride: Just don’t say it’s for wedding stuff, if you’re worried. I just say I have an appointment (true) and use my allotted time off.
Post # 7
I have been thinking about this same thing today!!
Just this week alone, I already took a 1/2 day on Monday for an appointment, I had to switch my day off from Wednesday to Tuesday to accomodate another appointment and I have to leave work 30 mins early on Thursday and I have a lunch hour appointment on Friday. I feel so bad asking my manager for all this time off!! But other than the wedding, I am usually really good about keeping a normal schedule, I am always on time and never call out sick, etc. so I try not to feel too bad about it.
I don’t know if you are a parent, but I am not and I think about all the time off, sick days, leave early, come in late that other employess/parents do to accomodate their sick kids! lol
Post # 8
@Sea_Ashley: No not a parent yet. A lot of my coworkers to take off early etc. for kids appointments etc. but they have been here much longer than I have but everybody seems to understand because most have kids. It also doesnt help that out of 30+ employees, there are only 5 women. I have called in sick a few times before and it was really because I am very sick. Other than that I am pretty much here all the time., well no because of doctor appointments.
It is hard not to feel bad. I also hate giving people reasons to say anything bad about me. I am what you might say a hard worker and I like to do my job well as much as possible but the wedding of course is very important to me as well.