Taking Your Child to Counseling

posted 3 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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490 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@r_hink:  I’m a therapist for teenage males at a residential treatment facility.  I do obviously think therapy can help, especially if he is open to it and trusts his therapist.  One thing to keep in mind is that it is going to take a while and he will have occasional setbacks.  The important thing is to keep supporting him through that and talk about what he learned from it and should try next time.  I see a lot of parents that are very  upset when something happens after kids have started treatment and made progress, but it’s a process and he needs to know that you are there unconditionally to be able to make lasting changes.  (I obviously know nothing about your family so that is in no way a judgement, just something I see a lot and is hard for parents who want their children to do well.)  Good luck!  PM me anytime if you’d like.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

2 years ago we began therapy with our daughter.  There were several major life changes that were affecting her- her bio dad had moved our of state abruptly and got married to a woman our daughter had not even met, we had a new baby that she was jealous of, and she was struggling in school academically.  We jSo we started counseling for the whole family, really.  Because as many issues as she was having, I needed to learn better parenting skills in response to those issues as well.  We started by going every other week.  Two years later we are all doing much better but we still go once a month.  It really helps to have someone completely objective in our lives!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@r_hink:  I don’t have any personal stories for you since I don’t have kids. But I will say, that every child is a good child. It’s their behaviors that are not so good.  I have an MA in counseling, and for my career, I have only worked with children.  I think you’re doing the right thing by taking him to counseling. Make sure that the counselor is familiar with working with children. They may also suggest family therapy, depending on what the underlying issue turns out to be. Good luck!

Post # 6
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1287 posts
Bumble bee

My xDh and I sent our daughter to see someone after our split, as she felt as she needed to go. We didn’t push it. It was her outlet to speak to someone other than her mom, dad, grandparents…etc.  Plus, the xDH always thinks something is wrong with her because she’s not as perfect as his new wifes kids *eyeroll*  Sorry, every kid isn’t going to act the same, in my opinion.  2 different kids, same age, being raised from 2 different sets of parents, they aren’t going to be the same ya moron! 

Anyways – We made her go once, then let her decide there after if she wanted to continue to go. She chose to go, just to get a few things off her mind. The therapist talked to us afterwards and said what she’s going through was completely normal and her behavior was completely normal for her age (Ha, I wanted to laugh in xDH’s face) I told him all along that she was fine!  

But it did her some good, and she felt better after her sessions. Especially after going through multiple moves, divorce, xDH’s new girlfriend moving in with her 3 kids, them getting engaged then marred ALL WITHIN 6 MONTHS TIME! 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My two stepsons both go to counseling, they rotate weeks. The younger one has behvaior issues to go with his ADHD. The counseling has helped. Given him some tools to deal with his anger when he doesn’t get his way. The counselor is willing to talk to the school if needed and give them tips. The older child likes to go and talk about his concerns.

Reality is that DH and I got married a year ago… big change since we didn’t live together before

They moved into the home I had… big change

Changed schools… big change

Their mom gets them one night a month usually… not as big of a change

It’s a good outlet for them to talk to someone else as PP mentioned. I’m all for it. You may not need every other week like we do, but I don’t think it would hurt for a little bit.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I went to a therapist when I was younger, 15, 16. I am now 23. I feel like it helped me a lot with what I was dealing with. Just a little insight from someone who has been there!

Post # 10
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314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

My old therapist did play therapy for kids. I was in my 20s going to her and I know she would have kids play to help ease them into talking. I think it’s beneficial and helpful, although I never went as a child.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@r_hink:  I saw a therapist for most of elementary school, and my sister saw one through most of high school!

Therapists are wonderful, wonderful things.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My daughter participated in therapy when she was 15.  She was having issues and since I was in therapy I felt that maybe she could use it as well.  In addition to her individual therapy sessions, we also went together.  It really made a difference.  Her dad was pretty much out of the picture (he lived out of state), so I was pretty desperate).  I highly recommend it.

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