(Closed) talk about confusing! (plus a thanks to belles4her)

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

It sounds like your guy is warming up to the idea of proposing, which is great!  Being able to visualize getting married is a huge step towards proposing.  As an aside, I do not say this to offend, but please post more clearly in your responses!  The text-speak is a bit difficult to read and make it hard to take the poster seriously sometimes. 

Post # 4
485 posts
Helper bee

I agree with lezlers, it is a really good sign that he is willing to discuss the actual wedding and its details.

When my Boyfriend or Best Friend and I first started discussing it about 5 months ago, he hadn’t really given it much thought and wasn’t 100 % comfortable with discussing it. Now, 5 months later, he is practically picking out centrepieces and talking about our wedding pictures ๐Ÿ˜‰ I think he just needed some time to adjust to the idea. Sounds like your guy is doing the same, which is great ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
1313 posts
Bumble bee

Good, good news! ๐Ÿ˜€ How exciting… and yes, I learned from trial and error to not bring it up in a big conversation, just small ones ๐Ÿ™‚ It makes it more fun and he warms up to the idea since you aren’t ‘pushing’ it on him.

Post # 8
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I just offer a word of warning… don’t bring up the ‘small talk’ too often or he will catch on.  That’s what happened with my SO and eventually he told me that he was feeling pressured about it.  We weren’t talking any timelines, just general stuff like you and your SO, but he caught on.

Post # 9
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Ah..it’s a delicate balance, isn’t it? As long as it’s casual/natural conversation it may help him warm up to it.  Rather than the agony of ‘trying not to say anything marriage/wedding related EVER and then end up having one of those loooooong talks’.

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