Post # 1
So…I’m getting married a week from tomorrow and I’m suddenly freaking out about EVERYTHING I didn’t care about for this whole wedding process! I think it got triggered because I got a custom cover up made for my wedding dress and I HATE it and it’s made poorly and I know I should just go to her and tell her I hate it but I’m just so non confrontational and feel like I should have known so I’m not doing that. And I was making paper flowers for my bouquet, and my maids, and I was so relaxed about it it’s still not done and the flowers are taking me forever and getting actual flowers will be so expensive and I’ve decided to not spend more money. And I didn’t lose any weight, which again, wasn’t a HUGE concern for me but now I feel so disappointed in myself and like I should have done something. And I know I shouldn’t care about any of this because we’re getting MARRIED and I’m just so pumped to be married to my FI and start our lives together, but at the same time…I feel like I’m going to be disappointed in myself on the wedding day. 🙁 Any words of wisdom to calm my irrational, emotional side?
Post # 2
Lisasaurusrex: I’m not sure if I have any words of wisdom other than I feel your pain. My wedding is in four weeks. I ended up ordering my paper flowers because of a meltdown.
However, a good friend of mine said to me last week that “You are getting married. It’s a big deal. Don’t expect to be rational right now and don’t make any major decisions. Give yourself some leeway. The night before the wedding it will all become clear. You are doing this for love.”
It’s been getting me through the tought times … Hugs to you!
Post # 3
In regards to the cover up, can you just go to the person who made it and suggest a few changes?
For flowers, why not ask your BMs to come over for a few hours, have a bouquet making party, watch a movie, eat some pizza and have some fun making the bouquet? If it requires more time, just go to the grocery store or Sam’s club or Costco, grab some Baby’s Breath to make the BM bouquets, and then grab a bouquet of flowers for yourself? Yes, it’ll cost some money, but it’ll save you on time and stress, and it shouldn’t be too much $$$.
And who cares if you didn’t lose weight? Just put on some Spanx and call it a day. Everyone becomes emotional and maybe a little irrational as the day approaches. You’ll be fine; your loved ones will be there for you and that’s all that matters.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2014 - Gold Hill Gardens
Lisasaurusrex: It is a hugely emotional time right now! I had a “meltdown” about a week and a half before our wedding this summer and my BFF (who was my MOH) came over to help me. I was flipping out because my husband wouldn’t show me his whole outfit put together – he’d picked it up from the store after it had been tailored, but I hadn’t seen it yet. And there were other things going on, too . . . Like not having our programs done, and how awful it is even trying to figure out seating charts. And how we’d wanted to have instructions for each of the games (we had a 4 hour gap between our ceremony and reception; all at the same gorgeous location; and we had lawn and board games for our friends and family to play) and how I just didn’t have time to do them and AND AND AND!!!! So I was a flipping out mess. Thank goodness for BFF! She sat me down and asked me, seriously, “Ok, so what’s the worst that happens if none of these get done?” And I realized even if DH’s suit isn’t perfect, he’s still going to be there and look great. And people can google directions for lawn games, or some will already know them! And I was about to go and drop off the pdfs for our Field Guide programs at the printer (who ended up having them done in AN HOUR) and we had amazing friends that picked up all of our escort card materials and delivered them back the next day completely assembled. And family that tied together our Field Guide programs. But that question from my MOH “So what if these don’t get done?” really settled me. I hope this helps 🙂
Post # 5
Man gets down on one knee, opens a box with a gorgeous ring, and says “Will you throw a party with me?”. Really, WTF is that? I think most women would prefer “I love you and I want to spend the rest of our lives together, will you marry me?”. That’s the whole point of the circuses we call weddings.
Paper flowers are this tiny blip on a tiny day in your big, long, wonderful life.
Post # 6
<3 Thanks everyone. I feel relieved that I’m not just bat shit crazy. The unfortunate thing is that I’m living in one city, with no family or friends. And all of my BMs are in different cities, and so I really am doing everything alone. My FI is great, and I adore him, but he’s a procrastinator and I’m a bit of a control freak so I just do everything myself and it’s kind of biting me in the ass. (His suit is also not being tailored because he waited until yesterday to look into it. Ugh.) But all of your advice has made me feel a lot better. I’ll get done what I get done, and what doesn’t get done…well…it doesn’t matter. The wedding will be great. The food will be fantastic. My FMIL knitted me a shawl to keep me warm in the rain and cold and it WILL BE OKAY. Deep breaths. Haha.