talk me down bees!!!

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@peonyinlove:  My fingers are crossed for you!

But I would just focus on the fact that your SO is planning something that is very special and wonderful even without the engagement…you don’t want your special day to be tainted just in case the ring doesn’t arrive or if he doesn’t propose for some other reason!

Good Luck!

Post # 4
1248 posts
Bumble bee

don’t think about it too hard!! i did, and i figured out EXACTLY what he was going to do! I wish he would have been able to surprise me (but after almost 9 years, and knowing it was coming SOON, it was gonna be REAL hard to surprise me! lol) I can tell you though- when it happens, you will still be in shock, even if you arent technically surprised! But act surprised!!! FI has no idea i was totally on to him! When it happened, i started shaking, teared up a little, but didnt exactly burst into tears. I think it was pretty perfect. But i do wish i hadn’t overanalyzed everything & figured it out. Take a chill pill & stay off the Bee for a few days. It doesnt help your suspicions!! haha

Post # 5
1343 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

First of all, I hope it happens for you!!! Fingers crossed! 🙂

But I think it is so awesome that your SO is planning an amazing special birthday for you, regardless of whether or not engagement is involved.  He clearly loves and cares about you so much – it sounds like he has put in a lot of effort to make your birthday awesome!! 

Good luck and be sure to let us know what happens!!!

Post # 6
802 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest

@peonyinlove:   I’m right there with you!! My birthday is in two weeks and I’m certainly on high alert.

It’s nearly impossible not to analyse everything. After his comment about the ring on your finger, I would probably just die.

I just make a promise to myself everytime I get worked up before something and say “If it doesn’t happen at X, I will be okay with that knowing it’ll happen when it’s meant to, and I will still enjoy X”

It helps a little bit. 


Post # 7
7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

If the ring has been ordered then I’d say definitely a proposal. Why else would he invite 18 of your nearest and dearest out?! Lol.

When girls post threads like this and mention they haven’t actually had the marriage talk yet, then I think that it’s a bit presumptuous. This isn’t like that at all.

It sounds like you’re pretty much already engaged lol… like when my ring was on order we knew we were getting married. I was just waiting for the ring.

In any case, my fingers are crossed for you, and you must post ring photos when it happens!!

Post # 8
422 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Rebar

@peonyinlove:  OMG!!!! I feel it coming for you!!! This is so exciting 🙂  My birthday is in 2.5 weeks and he does have the ring and we are also inviting a bunch of friends out to dinner! but i honestly doubt it will be then just bc he does want to surprise me lol and he is not good at surprising me and i always find out lol

Post # 9
441 posts
Helper bee

@peonyinlove:  Happy birthday, bday twin! My birthday is on Sunday too 🙂

You could think of your birthday as the start of your “engagement season.” It could all start with a great birthday party, then soon after you get a romantic proposal, then maybe an engagement party, then holidays as an engaged couple. An awesome party separate from the proposal is kind of a bonus really!

This year my birthday will probably be pretty weak. We were going to go out of town but supposedly there was NOTHING available in the town we wanted to go to 🙁

Post # 11
50 posts
Worker bee

First off, congratulations on your pending engagement!

I think the best way to avoid disappointment if he doesn’t propose is to convince yourself that there’s no way that he can propose that weekend. I know, easier said than done. But if you entertain the hope that it will happen, you could be disappointed. I have read so many stories of women souring a perfectly perfect trip/date/anniversary/holiday/etc. because they thought the proposal COULD happen, but it didn’t.

He’s going to propose at some point. You know this! How exciting! But like you said, he still has to get the stone set into the ring, and it might be safer to assume it might take a few days. So let’s assume that your birthday weekend is too soon for it to possibly happen. Just enjoy the great weekend your love has planned just for you!! Lucky girl!

Sorry, I don’t know how my post is coming off. Just trying to help. 🙂 

Post # 13
1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Sounds like a perfect opportunity!! It also sounds like an awesome 25th birthday celebration! Focus on that! Keep us informed though!

Post # 14
3268 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@peonyinlove:  That sounds EXTREMELY promising, especially since you have a very special, fancy date one night and then he made reservations for a bunch of people the next night!

It sounds like a super fun birthday, try not to get your hopes up too much, but there might be something in the air– I’m suspecting something might happen for me this weekend too!

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