Post # 1
so it is my 25th birthday this weekend, and when i came home today my SO told me that he’s made reservations for just the two of us on saturday at a fancy restaurant we’ve been wanting to try and that the next day (my real birthday) he’s made a reservation for 18 (!!!) at one of my favourite restaurants and then we’ll all go to my favourite bar/lounge afterwards – which is amazing!
so i’m very excited, but i can’t help wondering if a proposal is involved – and i need to STOP! i don’t want disappointment to mar what is shaping up to be a very special birthday – so hit me with a reality check!
i know that the ring is due to be delivered any second – which isn’t helping – but i also know that the stone needs to be set locally and it hasn’t been, which i’m assuming takes a few days. but he’s being so tricky! he hasn’t thrown me off (we live together and go to grad school together so we literally have the exact same schedule) or made excuses to go anywhere alone – and when kim and kanye got engaged he specifically mentioned it had been her birthday.
we have this silly game where i say ‘tell me something nice’ and he does (usually when i’m tired or having a bad day) and the other night he said ‘i can’t wait to see the ring on your finger’ – SWOON!
soooo basically i’m in the final stages of waiting and over analyzing EVERYTHING! so please, share your stories and remind me to enjoy this weekend for whatever it is 🙂
Post # 3
@peonyinlove: My fingers are crossed for you!
But I would just focus on the fact that your SO is planning something that is very special and wonderful even without the engagement…you don’t want your special day to be tainted just in case the ring doesn’t arrive or if he doesn’t propose for some other reason!
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA
don’t think about it too hard!! i did, and i figured out EXACTLY what he was going to do! I wish he would have been able to surprise me (but after almost 9 years, and knowing it was coming SOON, it was gonna be REAL hard to surprise me! lol) I can tell you though- when it happens, you will still be in shock, even if you arent technically surprised! But act surprised!!! FI has no idea i was totally on to him! When it happened, i started shaking, teared up a little, but didnt exactly burst into tears. I think it was pretty perfect. But i do wish i hadn’t overanalyzed everything & figured it out. Take a chill pill & stay off the Bee for a few days. It doesnt help your suspicions!! haha
Post # 5
First of all, I hope it happens for you!!! Fingers crossed! 🙂
But I think it is so awesome that your SO is planning an amazing special birthday for you, regardless of whether or not engagement is involved. He clearly loves and cares about you so much – it sounds like he has put in a lot of effort to make your birthday awesome!!
Good luck and be sure to let us know what happens!!!
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest
@peonyinlove: I’m right there with you!! My birthday is in two weeks and I’m certainly on high alert.
It’s nearly impossible not to analyse everything. After his comment about the ring on your finger, I would probably just die.
I just make a promise to myself everytime I get worked up before something and say “If it doesn’t happen at X, I will be okay with that knowing it’ll happen when it’s meant to, and I will still enjoy X”
It helps a little bit.
Post # 7
If the ring has been ordered then I’d say definitely a proposal. Why else would he invite 18 of your nearest and dearest out?! Lol.
When girls post threads like this and mention they haven’t actually had the marriage talk yet, then I think that it’s a bit presumptuous. This isn’t like that at all.
It sounds like you’re pretty much already engaged lol… like when my ring was on order we knew we were getting married. I was just waiting for the ring.
In any case, my fingers are crossed for you, and you must post ring photos when it happens!!
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2014 - Rebar
@peonyinlove: OMG!!!! I feel it coming for you!!! This is so exciting 🙂 My birthday is in 2.5 weeks and he does have the ring and we are also inviting a bunch of friends out to dinner! but i honestly doubt it will be then just bc he does want to surprise me lol and he is not good at surprising me and i always find out lol
Post # 9
@peonyinlove: Happy birthday, bday twin! My birthday is on Sunday too 🙂
You could think of your birthday as the start of your “engagement season.” It could all start with a great birthday party, then soon after you get a romantic proposal, then maybe an engagement party, then holidays as an engaged couple. An awesome party separate from the proposal is kind of a bonus really!
This year my birthday will probably be pretty weak. We were going to go out of town but supposedly there was NOTHING available in the town we wanted to go to 🙁
Post # 10
ah you girls are the BEST! i’m taking deep breaths and planning my outfit and manicure 🙂
@veryberry13: thank you! i am trying to focus on my brithday and go with the flow 🙂
@theEguarantee: i love that he still doesn’t know you were on to him – every girl needs a few secrets!
@kandykane1: you are so sweet – and you’re right. i’m super lucky to have him, and i can’t wait to have a great birthday with him!
@canarydiamond: AH! as silly as it sounds, i hadn’t even considered that he might propose at the second dinner – i thought he might propose at the first one and then the second one we could tell everyone and dance the night away! he can be shy so i don’t think he’d do a public in front of people proposal – and we go to school abroad so as much as i love those 18, they aren’t family and friends, i honestly think it’s just a giant ‘peonyinlove’s birthday dinner’
@missamysmiles: happy early birthday! and i laughed at ‘after his comment about the ring on your finger, I would probably just die.’ it was right before we went to sleep and i almost laughed out loud because it’s SO sweet – but SO torturous!
@katherin788: i hope he pulls off a surprise for you!
@4cube: birthday twins! i hope you have an amazing day 🙂 and you’re so right about ‘engagement season’ i think that will be my new mantra! i honestly do think we’ll be engaged before the holidays because we go to school abroad, so rarely see our friends and family at home and we’ve talked about how special it would be to be able to celebrate with them on our holiday break. so you’re exactly right – thank you!
Post # 11
First off, congratulations on your pending engagement!
I think the best way to avoid disappointment if he doesn’t propose is to convince yourself that there’s no way that he can propose that weekend. I know, easier said than done. But if you entertain the hope that it will happen, you could be disappointed. I have read so many stories of women souring a perfectly perfect trip/date/anniversary/holiday/etc. because they thought the proposal COULD happen, but it didn’t.
He’s going to propose at some point. You know this! How exciting! But like you said, he still has to get the stone set into the ring, and it might be safer to assume it might take a few days. So let’s assume that your birthday weekend is too soon for it to possibly happen. Just enjoy the great weekend your love has planned just for you!! Lucky girl!
Sorry, I don’t know how my post is coming off. Just trying to help. 🙂
Post # 12
@LumpySpacePrincess: you’re totally right 🙂 thank you! i’m going to book a manicure and just enjoy myself this weekend – no expectations!
Post # 13
Sounds like a perfect opportunity!! It also sounds like an awesome 25th birthday celebration! Focus on that! Keep us informed though!
Post # 14
@peonyinlove: That sounds EXTREMELY promising, especially since you have a very special, fancy date one night and then he made reservations for a bunch of people the next night!
It sounds like a super fun birthday, try not to get your hopes up too much, but there might be something in the air– I’m suspecting something might happen for me this weekend too!
Post # 15
@tiff-tiff-tiff: thank you! and i’ll definitely update!
@Creiddylad: i’m crossing my fingers for you too!