Post # 1
Hey bees! After some advice from fellow bees about how to deal with my waiting craziness I’ve been avoiding the hive a bit to keep my mind off the wait….its been a while since I’ve been wrapped up in waiting thoughts but they are once again starting to fill my head….heres why….
-SO previously gave me a ‘timeline’ and stated that we would have to be together at least 2 years before he would propose, which is approaching next month
-SO has also stated a few little comments about being close to reaching his ‘savings’ (e-ring) goal over the last few weeks
-The weekend of our anniversary SO’s mom & sister are coming to town and us along with his dad will be attending a concert together which is SO and his family’s favorite band. It is always a super special magical time when the stars align and SO’s family is all together & the concert on top of that makes it extra awesome, it also happens to be SO’s birthday weekend…..
There seems to be a lot of ‘specialness’ about that weekend…..sounds like it could be a great weekend for a proposal…..OR….Im just getting crazy again!!
Thoughts?! insight?! Help me keep the crazy in so that when it doesn’t happen that weekend I’m not super discouraged?!
Post # 3
Okay…I’m first on the scene I think. To keep the crazy down, think of all the reasons why this time isn’t a good idea for him to propose.
-It’s his birthday…he might not want to share the one weekend a year that’s supposed to be all about him, with you. And who could blame him?
-This sounds like family time and he might feel like it’d be weird if his family is all there and yours isn’t.
-You said it’s their weekend, their band…let them have their special moment. Yours will come.
That said, it’d be awesome if it did happen, but don’t be too bummed if it doesn’t because those are all pretty valid reasons why it might not!
Post # 4
@brideoffrankenstein: ok i’m gonna talk you down! Is there not too much going on for him to fit in a proposal? Is he the kinda guy that would want a proposal in front of others or a private moment between you two? If I were you I’d tell myself I wouldn’t want it happening that weekend. I’d prefer for it to happen when it’s just the 2 of us and we could have those days to enjoy the moment ourselves first? Your engagement is your time to be centre of attention! If there’s family a concert and a birthday all going on, might be a bit much!
Now in saying that it could well happen! And if it does jump up on stage and hog some limelight with your sparkler!
Post # 5
@brideoffrankenstein: You said you wanted to be talked down. . . 🙂 Well, the 2 years or more thing means that it will probably be sometime AFTER your 2-year anniversary. Who knows when. And the fact that he has almost reached his savings goal is FANTASTIC but “almost reached” means that he won’t be buying the ring until he HAS reached that goal, and ring shopping could take a while (though hopefully you guys can do that together!).
That anniversary/concert/birthday weekend sounds like it has enough special things going on. So while it would be a very nice time for you guys to get engaged, there is also already a lot going on, and he may want to have the proposal be your own special, private time– though maybe not, I don’t know which method would be your style.
For that weekend, really work hard on yourself to not expect anything on any level. I don’t know if you’ll actually be able to do that, but try as hard as you can. I failed at this when my SO and I recently went for a very special, romantic vacation we both had been looking forward to for a long time (it was to a favorite place we’ve been to before), and although I tried hard not to get my hopes up, I did and there was one day when I was pretty grumpy, disappointed, and annoyed with my SO. So– just tell yourself that it is NOT going to happen on that day. Of course you will probably hope it will, but truly try to get it in your head to not hope for it.
Sorry to be such a downer– I guess I’m grumpy today. But it does suck to expect things on a certain day and then be let down. . . so just try not to. 🙂
Post # 6
@brideoffrankenstein: Just remember to enjoy your time with your SO and maybe think of ways that you can make HIM feel special that weekend, seeing as it is his birthday! That way you can focus all that waiting energy on reminding him what he means to you.
Post # 7
WOW….your all so right! thanks girls, i needed that…
@QuirkySocialite: “first on the scene” that really made me lol 🙂 and yes yes!! it totally is his special family weekend, wtf?! how did i not have that realization?! what a little ‘B’ i am hah!
and duh…@Bettyboo1982: your 100% correct, SO & I have discussed before that proposing in front of people isnt for us so I dont know why I thought that an alone time proposal could get cramed into that weekend!! Very good point!
@Creiddylad: Very true…the time frame…the money…all of it…thank you for seeing through my crazy…sorry to hear about your disapointing trip, thats what ive been trying to avoid, i would ruin every fun event for myself with these types of thoughts, i probably ruined them for SO as well because i too tend to get annoyed over it after a bit! Side Note: I dont think your being a grumpy downer, I asked to be talked down and you guys did a great job!
Honestly, I feel a lot better already ladies!! Thank you so much!