Talk me down Bees!

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1470 posts
Bumble bee

Okay…I’m first on the scene I think. To keep the crazy down, think of all the reasons why this time isn’t a good idea for him to propose.

-It’s his birthday…he might not want to share the one weekend a year that’s supposed to be all about him, with you. And who could blame him?

-This sounds like family time and he might feel like it’d be weird if his family is all there and yours isn’t.

-You said it’s their weekend, their band…let them have their special moment. Yours will come.

That said, it’d be awesome if it did happen, but don’t be too bummed if it doesn’t because those are all pretty valid reasons why it might not!


Post # 4
703 posts
Busy bee

@brideoffrankenstein:  ok i’m gonna talk you down! Is there not too much going on for him to fit in a proposal? Is he the kinda guy that would want a proposal in front of others or a private moment between you two? If I were you I’d tell myself I wouldn’t want it happening that weekend. I’d prefer for it to happen when it’s just the 2 of us and we could have those days to enjoy the moment ourselves first? Your engagement is your time to be centre of attention! If there’s family a concert and a birthday all going on, might be a bit much!

Now in saying that it could well happen! And if it does jump up on stage and hog some limelight with your sparkler! 



Post # 5
3268 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@brideoffrankenstein:  You said you wanted to be talked down. . . 🙂 Well, the 2 years or more thing means that it will probably be sometime AFTER your 2-year anniversary. Who knows when. And the fact that he has almost reached his savings goal is FANTASTIC but “almost reached” means that he won’t be buying the ring until he HAS reached that goal, and ring shopping could take a while (though hopefully you guys can do that together!).

That anniversary/concert/birthday weekend sounds like it has enough special things going on. So while it would be a very nice time for you guys to get engaged, there is also already a lot going on, and he may want to have the proposal be your own special, private time– though maybe not, I don’t know which method would be your style.

For that weekend, really work hard on yourself to not expect anything on any level. I don’t know if you’ll actually be able to do that, but try as hard as you can. I failed at this when my SO and I recently went for a very special, romantic vacation we both had been looking forward to for a long time (it was to a favorite place we’ve been to before), and although I tried hard not to get my hopes up, I did and there was one day when I was pretty grumpy, disappointed, and annoyed with my SO. So– just tell yourself that it is NOT going to happen on that day. Of course you will probably hope it will, but truly try to get it in your head to not hope for it. 

Sorry to be such a downer– I guess I’m grumpy today. But it does suck to expect things on a certain day and then be let down. . . so just try not to. 🙂

Post # 6
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@brideoffrankenstein:  Just remember to enjoy your time with your SO and maybe think of ways that you can make HIM feel special that weekend, seeing as it is his birthday! That way you can focus all that waiting energy on reminding him what he means to you. 

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