Post # 1
Kind of embarrassed to admit this, but I’m going to the dentist in a few weeks for the first time in a LONG time (like, I think the last time I was there I got a sticker for being a good patient). For various reasons, including no dental/health insurance as a kid and a dad with a dentist phobia, it just hasn’t been a part of my life.
With a toothache and dental insurance, my husband is making me go. I’m a little terrified that A) the dentist is going to yell at me (which I know is irrational) and/or B) I’m going to need a root canal or something that our insurance won’t cover.
Can any bees tell me I’m not the only one who hasn’t been to the dentist in a long time? Or have any advice, experiences, etc to give me some reassurance?
Post # 4
You are DEFINITELY not the only one. It’s really, really common, between a lack of insurance and anxiety about dental visits. I think they see this all the time. They will probably tell you to come in more often, because they tell that to anyone who doesn’t go in more than once a year. But no need to fear being yelled at. 🙂
As for the root canal – there’s no way of knowing. But, keep in mind that it’s not going to the dentist that determines whether you currently need an expensive procedure – it just changes whether or not you know about it in time.
Post # 5
You are not alone. I hadn’t gone to the dentist in years because of a combination of things, and this year, I had to have a wisdom tooth pulled because it was crowding my other teeth.
If you’re having something done, make sure to ask for nitrous… it’s less expensive than an IV sedation, and its really effective.
Post # 6
I was in the same boat. I had not gone to the dentist for quite a few years (I was too embarassed to tell the dentist how long) but had to make an appointment because I had a wisdom tooth coming in.
I was expecting the worst and it really wasn’t that bad. They had to do a deep cleaning but they were very nice, I think they get people like this more than you’d think.
I’m really happy I went. In addition to getting my wisdom teeth removed, I’ve started back up with cleanings every six months. I feel much better about my teeth going forward.
Post # 7
I actually HAVE had a dentist yell at me so I stopped going. I know, that’s bad and I know I have at least one cavity right now, but I refuse to go back because she was such a b*tch.
Post # 8
@JeniRae: You definitely aren’t alone. I had the same fears and was too scared to even call the dentist (I had to email them to set up the initial appointment). I looked online to find a dentist in my area that specialises in dealing with people who have anxiety/fear about the dentist. If you can do that, I highly recommend it.
I’ll put this out there (gross, I know): I had not been in 10 years. I took really good care of my teeth growing up, but had some bad experiences with the dentist and just never went past my first year in university. I was convinced that they were going to tell me that I would have to have all of my teeth pulled….like staying up all night freaking out about it, convinced.
When I went, they were super nice. No one made me feel bad about the length of time between visits. During my consultation, they found 5 cavities (I was glad there were so few) and that I needed a serious cleaning (ummm….yeah). We decided on nitrous gas to help make me calm, which I cannot recommend enough. Plug in your iPod and relax….it was (for the dentist) great. I’m going back for my bi-yearly cleaning in two weeks and I’m not dreading it, which is pretty awesome. Going the first time sucks, but after that (even for the 2 appointments I needed to fill my hard-to-reach cavities) it was much better.
You’ll feel better once you go and know what to expect. I really suggest letting the dentist know that you have anxiety, because then they can be prepared to help and reassure you, if needed. They are there to help you and if you don’t feel that they are, remember that you can go to another dentist.
You can do this!
Post # 9
Don’t be to worried. I hate the dentists but, i have been going once a year for as long as i can remember. I am super cavity prone so it’s almost gauranteed i need a filling each visit no matter how much i brush (2 to 3 times a day) and floss(at least once) to keep them away. The dentist will not hurt you. If you need any dental work it is all done while your mouth is frozen and pain afterwards is usually minimal and can be fixed with some extra strength advil. You will feel so much better after the dentist deals with your toothache.
Post # 10
I went about 2 mths ago for the first time since I was 17- and um, I am now 33.
Did I get yelled at? No.
Will you? No.
Get it over and done with, you will feel very much better once you have!
Post # 11
I was convinced that they were going to tell me that I would have to have all of my teeth pulled….like staying up all night freaking out about it, convinced.”
OMG… this is exacty one of my fears!! Completely irrational and my husband keeps saying “They’re NOT going to pull all your teeth” and I’m like “They ARE.”
@Potatoes: Oh no!! I HATE being yelled at. Always have. Ughhhhh….
@MrsLongcoatPeacoat: If I get nitrous, will I be like David Goes to the Dentist?? LOL
ETA: And THANK YOU for helping me feel better about this, all of you. (Except maybe you, Potatoes. )
Post # 12
I had to get two teeth pulled when I was 10 or so, and I’m convinced my mouth wasn’t numb at the time so since then I’ve refused to go. I know I need to go, but I get actually physically sick thinking about it. ugh.
Post # 13
@floridabride12: awwww, want to be dentist buddies??
Post # 14
@JeniRae: Haha, sorry. 😛 Admittedly, lots of people have had problems with this dentist, but the other one in town is a real sweet heart even though he’s much older. This witch is also the most expensive because she knows that “People who went to school with me will pay me lots of money because they knew me in high school”, it’s ridiculous.
Post # 15
@JeniRae: OMG! I’m SO glad that it’s not just me. lol I just told my husband that there was another person out there who thought they would be all “gummy” after the dentist.
This whole thread makes ME feel better too. 😀
Post # 16
@JeniRae: Dentist buddies! Yes 🙂 There was a place where I used to live that specialized in people with fears of the dentist and I heard good things, but couldn’t ever bring myself to go. lol. FI has tried to convince/bribe me too.