Post # 1
This is crazy & I know it!!
Wedding date is 5 months away. Feel I’m settling a little bit. My fiancé is nice to me (mot men i’ve dated are jerks) & he is nice & stable for me & my 10 year old son.
However… I can’t stop thinking of my ex who I have much more chemistry with.
Im 38. Not young . & feeling guilty!! : (
I feel like this guy is what is best for me…& my son yet part of me thinks I’m missing out.
My ex & I had bad timing & it ended early but still run into each other & feelings are strong !!
I did my ex wrong, nothing major but I can tell he is still hurt I moved on. When I see him I have never felt this way before!!!
Is it pre wedding jiggers & I should stop making life so difficult & carry on or am I a fool for taking the easy road?
Post # 3
What is that old saying…
“The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence…”
“Or better the devil you know, than the one you don’t”
I don’t think that your having a case of cold feet BEFORE the Wedding is that unusual… particularly so if there is an Ex in the picture, with a somewhat “unfinished” past
I suggest you need to figure this out though BEFORE much more time passes… otherwise you are not being fair to your Fiance
You might want to pick up a copy of Greg Behrendt’s book entitled *It’s Called a Break Up Because It’s Broken*
And if you are trying to analyze your current relationship against the last, maybe check out Dr Phil’s *Love Smart – Find The One You Want – Fix the One You Got*
Both these books are fairly quick reads… and Dr Phil’s has a very useful check-list to help you figure out what it is EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT from a long-term relationship, so there is no making a mistake and falling for the wrong guy (for you)
Lol, or as an Encore Bride myself… getting conned into believing that perhaps you are indeed giving up on something that YOU missed out on / overlooked in the first relationship
Hope this helps,
Post # 4
Move away from the ledge.
That is all.
Post # 5
Is your ex your son’s father?
Post # 6
Carefully back away and then run! If you look back, it will be too late.
However, if you are having doubts, that raises other issues. Note you used ‘nice’ and ‘stable’ to describe your fi where you’d expect to see love, passion, companionship or friendship. Perhaps seeing a councilor would help to resolve your concerns.