(Closed) Talk me off the ex ledge!!!!!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

What is that old saying…

“The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence…”

“Or better the devil you know, than the one you don’t”

I don’t think that your having a case of cold feet BEFORE the Wedding is that unusual… particularly so if there is an Ex in the picture, with a somewhat “unfinished” past

I suggest you need to figure this out though BEFORE much more time passes… otherwise you are not being fair to your Fiance

You might want to pick up a copy of Greg Behrendt’s book entitled *It’s Called a Break Up Because It’s Broken*

And if you are trying to analyze your current relationship against the last, maybe check out Dr Phil’s *Love Smart – Find The One You Want – Fix the One You Got*

Both these books are fairly quick reads… and Dr Phil’s has a very useful check-list to help you figure out what it is EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT from a long-term relationship, so there is no making a mistake and falling for the wrong guy (for you)

Lol, or as an Encore Bride myself… getting conned into believing that perhaps you are indeed giving up on something that YOU missed out on / overlooked in the first relationship

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 4
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2578 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Move away from the ledge.

That is all.

Post # 5
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5428 posts
Bee Keeper

Is your ex your son’s father?

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Carefully back away and then run! If you look back, it will be too late.

 

However, if you are having doubts, that raises other issues. Note you used ‘nice’ and ‘stable’ to describe your fi where you’d expect to see love, passion, companionship or friendship. Perhaps seeing a councilor would help to resolve your concerns.

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