Post # 1
I desperately need to get my expectations under control. I’ve told myself over and over that he is NOT proposing at our “surprise” dinner tonight, yet I still find myself thinking: “Oh he’s never done this before, maybe he’s going to propose?” “Oh he’s acting funny I wonder if anything is going to happen!” (And yes, I’m making up the “never done this before” and “acting funny” in my own head–I’m sure anyone else would think he’s being totally normal. It’s just my engagement brain going wild!)
I know he’s not proposing because I’m 99.9% sure he doesn’t have a ring, PLUS I heard him on the phone with his friend about a week ago. They were just talking about stuff going on in his life and he said something like: “Yeah I definitely need to get a new job…blah blah blah…Yeah I need to do that too. Just gotta figure out the timing.”
I’m pretty sure that “too” is proposing. (His friends ask a lot when he’s going to do it.) So, basically, I know that he hasn’t quite figured out when to do it yet.
So please help bring my back to reality! I’m okay with waiting at this point because I know it’s coming reasonably soon, but I don’t want to ruin a nice surprise from him by being grumpy that he didn’t propose!
Post # 3
Just take a moment and BREATH! He will do it!!!!! Will it be tonight?? We don’t know! But he will do it! TRUST ME…I understand the waiting game. Mine was NOT fun and yet funny at the same time! LOL!!!!!!!!
Post # 4
@Taylor4:Have a glass of wine , dance and laugh all night with your friends. When you get home get some lovin and go to sleep. That special day will be over and you will be back to normal:0)
Post # 5
Just wanted to let you know that my husband and I had a plan together on when we were going to get engaged. We have combined finances so I knew it would take time to save money up for a ring and wedding. So we had a timeline. That was like a year away.
Then out of the blue when i least expected it during a weekend getaway he proposed! ON Vday no less which was the shocker because he hates Vday!
Post # 6
Hun take a deep breathe and try to just focus on having fun tonight. If all your thinking about is “Will he or Won’t he?” it’ll ruin the nice evening your BF has planned. And then how would that make him feel? If you seem upset he’ll feel like ALL you care about is the ring (which isn’t true – but it’s how boys see it). Just go out, have a great night, and think about how lucky you are to have such a great BF! I know it’s hard, stay strong!
Post # 7
My SO took me to a surprise dinner on Jan 1st to a restaurant I’ve always wanted to go to (but couldn’t afford to), told me to wear something nice. And he had never arranged anything like this before. I thought “THIS IS IT!” I played it cool. Went to dinner. At one point I touched his leg and felt something square in his pocket. I concentrated on just enjoying dinner and talking, figuring he was going to ask after dessert. Nothing. Nothing happened. It was his phone in his pocket.
But I loved it! I had a wonderful time, had a wonderful dinner with my wonderful boyfriend. Would it have been a perfect time to propose? Absolutely! But I think you’re thinking about this in the right light. You know he might not propose and you know you should just enjoy your surprise. And I’m sure once you’re there you’ll have such a great time that you’ll forget about a proposal. And it’s good that you vented. You don’t want to be disappointed when you go. I hope you have a wonderful time, and my fingers are crossed that something does happen soon! 🙂
Post # 8
Enjoy your dinner tonight- I know you are hoping but put those thoughts aside and let him enjoy his time with you tonight…. if it happens tonight- great. If not, then at least you are with the man you LOVE!
Come back and tell us how good dinner was!
Post # 9
So, as I suspected last night was not the night. But you know what? I had an awesome time, and I never really thought about it. I thought I would be upset that yet another opportunity was slipping us by…but I wasn’t. I don’t know what it was but I hope this feeling sticks around. I like enjoy time together with him without being down about something that hasn’t happened yet.
I think I’m more secure/confident about the fact that it is probably going to happen soon so I don’t feel the need to freak out anymore. I hope you guys all have nice VDays as well!