Post # 1
Did any of you NOT have a wedding party? Pros/Cons?
I know it’s the traditional thing to do, and even the expectation, but I don’t want one. Most of my close friends are guys and while I know it’s okay to include men in your bridal party, I just don’t have any desire to have one. He has about 4 – 5 guys that he would want to include on his side and I don’t want to keep him from having groomsmen but it would also look odd if I don’t have anyone up there with me and he does. If I had anyone with me, I would only want my sister.
Regardless of if you’re having a wedding party or not, how did you decide?
I feel like this is going to be my biggest stressor!
Post # 2
I’m having 8 bridesmaids – I feel like each woman is special to me and I want to honor my relationships with them. However, my sister and her husband had NO wedding party and they loved it. The ceremony was short and sweet and it was just the 2 of them and their officiant. She had my sister and her husband’s sister do readings. She also had our families enter the reception by annoucing us (as though we were the wedding party) as her way of recognizing us.
For her, she didn’t want to have the stress of trying to coordinate people or hurting anyone’s feelings and she wanted the focus just to be on the love between her and her husband. The ceremony was beatiful with just the 2 of them and their offiiciant.
The ONE con I can think of is that she just had to be clear to us (her family) on what she needed from us since she didn’t have bridesmaid to help out. It was really no big deal because we were open to help and asked what we could do but she just to communicate to us on how we could help!
Post # 3
Im not having bridemaids, no groomsmen. Only a BM and MOH and flower girls. Idc what anyone thinks either. First of all, no approx 4 women look good in the same outfit, no one even wants to be a bridemaid for most part bc of the expense and I dont feel they are nessascy to pictures. I will take pictures with my friends during our small reception. Also no dance with parents, no garter belt(everyone coming is married anyways) no tossing of boquet and we arent having a photographer there the entire time. Breaking the norm to the fullest. We are more doing a party not a WEDDINGGGG. Too much stress for me. Im in the mind swt its a small party celebratin us with 50 or so people. No biggie and it makes me more calm.
Post # 4
No wedding party here. We’re only having about 40 guests and it’s going to be a short ceremony with a big party.
It would have been easy as I have 2 sisters and FI has 2 brothers, but honestly, it’s just easier not to. No need to worry about finding dresses/suits for everyone, buying additional gifts, pressure for them to throw showers and parties that we don’t want, etc etc etc.
Post # 5
We had just a best man and maid of honor and absolutely loved it. We were able to get really nice gifts and really honor them like we wanted to. We also really liked keeping it intimate
Post # 6
We’re having each of our brothers stand up with us. FI has been in a BUNCH of weddings and felt awkward not including all of those friends in his party. I was just asked this year to be in the weddings of 3 friends that I would not want to include in mine. So to simplify the whole thing, and save expenses for our friends, we’re skipping bridesmaids/groomsmen. We are throwing ourselves bachelor/bachelorette parties (don’t call the etiquette police!) as an open invitation to all of our close friends.
Post # 7
We’re not having a bridal party. No ring bearer, flower girl, BM, or MOH either. We just didn’t have an interest in having anyone in those roles or any of the trappings that come with it. If my FI had wanted people on his side that would have been fine with me, but I still wasn’t going to have anyone on my side. Immediately family will be escorted to their seats as part of the ceremony but that’s it. Way less stress by not having to worry about a bridal party.
Post # 8
We are just having a best man and a maid of honour (FI’s cousin and my sister). We are both super thrilled with this decision, in part because both of them are wellspoken and close to us, and are low-key as well.
Post # 9
kristaalee : I had a Best Woman only. DH had a Best Man and two ushers. It was the best choice for us because we didn’t want any more stress than we already had in planning. LOL My Best Woman was fabulous. I gave her a color suggestion and that was it! Easy!
Having your sister at your side sounds like a great idea! 🙂
Post # 10
We aren’t doing any wedding party. No MOH, BMs, ringbearers, flower girls, ushers/attendants, readers. The family isn’t being escorted in by anyone, everyone will just quickly take their seats, we get up and exchange vows, then on to dinner. No fanfare or fuss, just us 2 and the preacher.
Post # 11
kristaalee : my groom didn’t want one but I insisted that I at least have a MOH. I hope my wedding has that loving, full of friends and genuine love feeling without a bridal party.
Post # 12
We didn’t have a wedding party! I don’t have what I would consider super close female friends. My husband’s best friend, who is also a friend of mine, was our officiant. I was very happy with our decision. We had a smallish wedding, ~70 adult guests, and only about ~20 of those were friends. We got to celebrate with everyone “equally” and planning the wedding without a party was honestly so nice and stress free.
Post # 13
We didn’t have any bridesmaids or groomsmen. We had a private ceremony, so they just weren’t necessary. Even when we re-enacted our ceremony for a subsequent celebration a few months later, it seemed more fitting to keep it simple like our original one. No big deal. DH did have a camping trip with his bros a few months prior though. It was a happy medium.
Post # 14
We’re just having a MOH and BM for a few reasons. I wanted to keep things low-key, and FI’s brother is super flakey and we worried that he just wouldn’t show up to the wedding, but would be offended if we had a wedding party and didn’t ask him to be a groomsman. We’re having my very close friend, who would have been a bridesmaid, to do a reading. My mom is pretty upset that my brother isn’t in the wedding (she’s very concerned about appearances), but my brother doesn’t care at all. No flower girls or ring bearers, nothing involving parents other than my dad walking me down the aisle. I wanted to keep it as simple as possible, although what I’m finding is people will be upset about *something* no matter how simple you try to keep things. (Aunt is mad I’m not having a shower, grandma’s mad I’m not getting married in a church, etc.)
I’m having a bachelorette party and inviting a bunch of girls–not all of them would have been bridesmaids, but I still wanted to include them in something.
Post # 15
Astra : I LOVE the idea of calling her the Best Woman! I might steal this.