Post # 1
I’m talking to my BF via Facebook chat right now and I just want to talk to him, you know? But he’s watching Netflix and he usually doesn’t hear the sound that FB chat makes when you get a message. Even though I asked him to turn the volume up so he can hear when I message him.
And even with doing that, it still takes him five minutes to check his messages. I’m trying to have a conversation with him but it takes him forever to respond and when he does, it’s usually short and sweet. It’s clear that he’s distracted and not really participating in the conversation.
So I’m getting a little annoyed right now. Grrrr. I made a joke to him and all he responded with was “lol”. And normally, he would respond with a joke of his own.
So just now, I told him “Okay, if you’re not gonna be talkative and engaged in the conversation with me, then I’m just gonna leave you alone to your Netflix. So I’ll talk to you later, have fun”.
This is one of my pet peeves. If you’re talking to me, TALK TO ME. Don’t let yourself be distracted with Netflix or anything else. Sigh. Am I wrong for wanting undivided attention when we’re talking?
Post # 3
@LadyBlackheart: why not call him if it’s important. FB chat is a pretty casual medium and not where I would try to have an in depth conversation.
Post # 4
@LadyBlackheart: Bad morning? I personally think you’re overreacting.
It’s just a casual convo on facebook.
Post # 5
Why cant you call him? And if you knew he was watching Netflix and wouldn’t be responsive… why would you try?
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@LadyBlackheart: This is the problem with chatting or texting, if it is an important conversation you need to CALL. Or wait until you see him in person.
Post # 7
@LadyBlackheart: I agree with PP. Even if it was on skype (but not video), I’d say the same thing. If you have to talk about something that needs his undivided attention, then it makes sense to call or tell him that you need to talk to him.
This situation sounds like when my boyfriend is watching sports and I sit next to him and tell him stuff while he says “uh huh…oh really…okay…no way” while barely paying attention to me.
Post # 8
If it is so important I agree with the PP call him.
Post # 9
I do know that I am overreacting a bit, which is why I haven’t gone off into a rage yet at my BF lol.
It’s just hard to explain the annoyance I feel. Like I KNOW rationally that I’m getting upset over nothing but I still can’t make that feeling of being annoyed or irritated go away.
But no, it’s not an important conversation. We’re just talking about funny stuff or things of little importannce.
It’s just a pet peeve of mine, something that I need to get a handle on. It goes back to my dad having a habit of falling asleep in his chair and my mom and I both trying to talk to him. He falls asleep A LOT. More than the average person. So I think my pet peeve stems from that.
Luckily, BF understands where it’s coming from and doesn’t get annoyed with me lol. I just wanted to vent here so I don’t take it out on my BF.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I think this is the big difference between generations. FB chat and texting is available 24/7 but I don’t necessarily want to converse with someone (event he love of my life) 24 hours, 7 days a week. I like to save some of my thoughts and stories for when we actually see each other. When sending a text message or FB chat be prepared to not get an immediate answer and then you won’t be as disappointed and feel like you’re being ignored.
Post # 11
I do this every single time a friend emails, g-chats, or FB-chats me. I basically lose interest and walk away for 30+ mins, then remember and come back to the convo. Whoops.
Get me on the phone and I’m much more likely to pay attention, even pause my movie to chat!
I think talking on the phone is a better way to communicate. If FB chatting doesn’t really work, then why bother with it in the first place? 🙂
You could be spending that time on Pinterest!! 😀