Post # 1
We’ve all seen those threads here on Weddingbee and in other places as well, the vents about problems between you and your so/fiance/husband. While it isn’t usually a problem to vent sometimes and just let it out, sometimes it goes beyond just venting to something more harmful and negative.
I’ve seen threads that paint their SO in a horrible light with 50+ replies all bashing and putting the guy down when really we don’t know all the details, and I’ve even seen people ask strangers here on the web if they should break up or get a divorce, with well meaning bee’s clocking in on their opinions of what the op should do. Problem is, we don’t know all the info and sometimes the advice we give online can cause rl pain that didn’t have to be.
NOTHING beats talking out a problem with the person involved, in most cases for us it’s our SO. Imagine an argument like a bed. You wouldn’t invite strangers into your bed would you? (if you’re in a committed relationship I hope not XD). Inviting strangers into your arguments which should be between you and the one you love is like doing just that. If you allow too many people to enter your private relationship and its problems you run the risk of losing touch with the one you love, too many opinions swirling around would cover up the needs of the two most important–yours and his. In the end it doesn’t matter what the rest of the world says, you and him will have to live with the decisions you make, so its best to make them together.
This was inspired by an article I read: http://www.startmarriageright.com/2012/03/what-email-taught-me-about-relationships/ So remember in your relationship try to REPLY not FORWARD hehe :3
Post # 3
That’s an awesome point and I agree with you in most cases. However, when I was involved in a relationship with an abusive man (my ex-husband) I felt so alone! I was too ashamed and embarrassed to talk to a friend or family member, for a long time. And I found an online board for battered women that gave me the support and encouragement I desperately needed at the time. I really feel as though that the was the start of my life being literally SAVED. And I thank God for those kind and loving women on that board, to this day. They gave me the first words of truth that what was happening to me was wrong and I needed to get help. So, I took that first step because of their advice and got counseling, and got out of a very unhealthy relationship. This seems to be a very safe place we can all share what is going on in our lives, good, bad or ugly.
Post # 4
I think that a place like this, while its public, is also full of people that are here for a lot of similar reasons. there is also a certain level of anonymity. Not completely since photos and whatnot are used. It also helps sometimes to know that you are not the only girl in the world dealing with specific issue. I do believe that its up to each individual to decide what they want to keep private and what they dont. I do agree that its best to go to the source but sometimes its also good to get an outside persepective and get some support for yourself. Some of the girls here do not have family or close friends or anyone else to talk to and this is an outlet in many different ways for some people. I understand the point of this post and agree that there is no better place to resolve an issue than with those involved, in this case, your partner. But there are some positives that I have experienced first hand to being able to come here and vent.