Post # 1
I’m 5’8” and about an inch taller than SO. We’ve been together for about eight years and it didn’t really phase me much. I feel like lately I’ve been thinking about it alot.
He’s very fit, but not as ‘bulky’ as when I first met him, should be a good thing right? After three kids, I’m not as fit as I used to be and don’t have the time/resources to work out like I used to. He tells me I’m beautiful almost every day.
I think its all these movies where the guy is suuuper tall and the woman looks tiny compared to him. I just wanna feel small next to my man.
Any ladies taller than your man? Do you feel the same? Did you get over it? Does height not matter? Please share your thoughts..
Post # 3
I’m not- but my bestie is taller than her hubs. she looks like a supermodel in her wedding pictures!
Forget about the movies- you go be a statuesque model next to your man!
Post # 4
I am normally about three inches shorter, but I will be taller than him iin heels at the wedding. I would just wear flats, but because of the way the hem on my dress is made, getting it shortened would require the whole skirt being taken off and the the dress reassembled. I am thinking of seeing if he would be willing to wear some elevator shoes. That’d be a lot cheaper than the alterations, and less risky too.
Post # 5
I’m not taller but about the same height with heels. I’m also concerned about pictures or whatnot. I told him he needs to wear heel lifts (I’m not joking)
Post # 6
@ohulani: Yeah same here. I’m not taller than him, but I’m wider. He’s 6’1, tall, elegant, model looking man. And me, I’ve got meat on my bones and 5’9. I hate taking pictures next to him; and like you, I also want to feel tiny!!
I think it’s time for us to put down the romantic comedies (like, dare i say, The VOW!) and realize that all girls are not 5’4 with hubbies that are 6’3. That is just not real.
Post # 7
Yep I’m 2-3″ taller. But I’m a giant so it really has nothing to do with his height – a “normal” sized girl would look perfectly normal next to him but I’m almost 6’2″! I deal with it and don’t wear heels around him unless I really, really want or have to. And I’ll be rocking flats for the wedding.
Post # 8
1. Height doesn’t matter.
2. Somehow I feel that this thing with women wanting to be shorter than their men is strange, considering how many there are who refuse to buy into the whole “women are property” thing with name changing. It’s the same train of thought.
So if you don’t appreciate being thought of or even going with the traditional name change that a woman does to show her as her man’s property, why is this height thing even an issue?
Post # 9
My cousin is a few inches taller than her husband, but I don’t think it makes a difference. She even rocks 3 inch heels and it doesn’t seem to bother her because they really love each other. I personally love tall guys (my FI is 6’2″ and I’m 5’7″), she likes shorter guys. I think it just depends on personal preferrences. I’m sure it is movies/TV that tells us the guy has to be taller, blah blah blah, but I don’t think this has any factor when it comes to how cute a couple is (my cousin and her husband are adorable together).
Post # 10
@strawbs: For me I feel like women being shorter is more feminine looking, I don’t think of it as a dominant thing. I just want to feel dainty! 🙂
Post # 11
I am taller than my DH by almost two inches. In pictures we tend to look about the same height because I tend to bend my knee in order to “shorten” myself. When we first started dating, I didn’t even really notice the difference in height! All I cared about was getting to know him better and living for the moment. It wasn’t until we had a formal dance to go to and my Mom started bugging me about wearing heals. She didn’t even let me where them during the pictures. She made me feel very self conscious about my height and it even lowered my self esteem for a while, thinking that it made me an “ugly” girlfriend and that it made my DH and I an unfit couple.
I did get over it eventually. I think I just came to realise that my DH loves me no matter my height. He actually thinks my height is attractive and finds it sexy to have a tall woman. I think focusing on what truly matters in the relationship rather than the petty stuff will help you feel better and truly accept who you are as a person 🙂
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I’m not taller than FI…but he is coming with me when we go wedding shoe shopping…I don’t want to be taller than him on the wedding day…I’ll already be wider than him with my princess dress, lol.
Post # 13
@beachchicbride: Very well said. It doesn’t usually bother me either, but whenever I see a cute pair of heels I really wish I was shorter! But not just to wear around him, around everyone else I tower over too.
Post # 14
height really doesn’t matter. i used to work with a girl who was average height 5’7″-5’8″ and she was always attracted to shorter men. her hubby is only 5’6″.
at only 5’5″, i’m never taller than anyone and yes i typically dated men 6′-6’4″.
Post # 15
My fiance and I are almost exactly the same height (he’s average height, I’m tall). I think I’m a bit taller if I stretch tall. That means I am taller if I wear any heel at all. When we started dating my grandmother told me that I should get rid of all my heels because he wouldn’t like me to be taller. I kindly told her to take a hike. But I did ask my guy and he likes me in heels so I wear them. Not often because I’m a wuss when it comes to foot pain, but I do wear them. On wedding day I will be wearing flats but that is mostly for comfort’s sake. I think it is perfectly okay for the girl to be taller. It will obviously be more obvious in some poses than in others, so maybe get a range of poses, but definately don’t let it bother or worry you! You’ll both look great and everyone will be looking at how happy you two are, not pulling out a measuring tape!
Post # 16
For me personally I wouldn’t like to be taller than my FI. I dated a guy once who was my height and it always felt weird. In fact I broke up with him after flip flop season was over (yes I use to be a bit vain to say the least). I’m 5’5 and my FI is 6’3. So yeah I could wear 4 inch heels and he’d still tower over me. Would I have hit on him had he not been so tall. Er – probably not.
My FMIL’s hubby is shorter than here. The woman will wear heals around him so it doesn’t bother her (or him) one bit.