Post # 1
Ok, I am a 5’10 woman and own my height, love to wear heels, etc, but never gave any man the time of day (let alone a date) if he wasn’t at least 6′. Well, after divorcing (my 6’2″ husband) I didn’t want a relationship. So, I hung out with my male friend who was very “safe”. (I moved to a different city and he was one of the only people I knew there) anyway, I considered him “safe” (meaning there’s no way I’d want a relationship with him) bc he has 2 kids from a previous marriage (I don’t want kids) and he’s only 5’6″. Well, our friendship went from friends, to best friends to lovers to 100% in love and marriage talk! Anyway, I love this man more than anyone ever before but i still feel silly being taller than him! He doesn’t care about our height difference AT ALL and I wouldn’t love him any more if he were taller, but I just can’t get over my insecurities about how we “look”. is anyone else in love with a vertically challenged man? 🙂
Post # 3
@2ndchance: I don’t think height should matter at all! It’s good that he’s not bothered that you are taller than him. Society tells us that the man should always be taller than the woman, and I think that really alienates tall women and short men.
As for me, my FH is actually a bit taller than me at 6’3″. I am 6’1″ and very skinny, and still feel awkward in my body. Trying to find clothes and shoes that fit properly is a challenge but I’m trying to embrace it. I try to avoid wearing heels. Most of the cute guys I liked in high school were shorter than me and they always went out with girls who were shorter than them.
Post # 4
Complete opposite situation for me…my FI is a foot..yes a WHOLE FOOT taller than me.. I barely come to his shoulders. I dispise it!
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room
I’m 6’0″ and my guy is 5’5 1/2″… so we’ve got almost the same stats as you and your guy. I’m wearing short heels on my wedding day too because I like the way my feet look in them. One of the first things we asked each other when we first started dating was “you have a problem with my height?” and the answer was “no” for both parties.
You’ll get used to it after awhile and barely notice unless you’re wearing really tall heels and looking at the top of his head. 🙂
Post # 6
I can understand why you would be, given that society can be stupid and ridiculous. But don’t lose a fantastic guy over something like height!!! I’m 5’10 and my husband is almost exactly my height. So if I wear any heel at all, I’m taller. And I’ve dated shorter guys in the past. You just have to decide to rock it. Really.
Honestly, I don’t know a single reasonable person that thinks there’s anything wrong with the woman being taller when you’re talking about another couple. But we somehow think it’s wrong when it’s us. If your best friend was dating a guy several inches shorter, what would you say to her? I mean, realy, what real problem does this present? It’s an image thing. And there are so many more important things than image.
So I say rock the height difference! He’s probably got a great view of your tits!
Post # 7
- Wedding: April 2013 - A court...
I am when I wear my heels lol i like towering over him 🙂
Post # 8
Our height difference isn’t as significant, but I am 5’7” and my DH is 5’5”–though he thinks he is 5’6” 🙂
I rarely wear heals (they kill my feet), but I will on occasion and I don’t mind being a few more inches taller than him. He has never said anything, so I don’t think he minds.
Post # 9
I’m taller than my man at 6 feet before hair and heels. It’s a source of insecurity for me, yes. I don’t know if it is for him because just like I will NEVER call him too short, he will never call me too tall.
Love your man for all you’ve got no matter what height. You’ll shrink eventually anyway.
Post # 10
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
Height should not matter, however it could affect if you are attracted to someone or not. Therefore most women who feel like you will not go for a man shorter because they are not drawn to him. I think you have a great love story though! Always wanted something like this and I will be marrying my best friend but not because of we were that first.
***On my height, I am 5’4″ and he is 6’4″. However, I am the shortest woman on my mom’s side of the family (take after my dad). All of the rest of them are about 5’8″ and their husbands are about the same height. My mom and dad, my aunt and uncle and one of my cousins and her soon to be ex husband. My granny was shorter than my pawpaw (5’8″ and 6’1″) and my other cousin is shorter than her husband (5’7″ and 6’3″). She has 3 daughters, two short like me but the one who is taller is also engaged to someone about her height. I am thinking it is like a 1″ difference too.
Post # 11
Thank you all for your support and encouragement. I would never let this guy go due to height-he is easily the most amazing person I know and I am the luckiest girl in the world to be with him! I just have to learn to get over my height insecurities. we both have a healthy attitude about it though-we usually just laugh and joke about it
Post # 12
One of my closest work friends is a complete head and shoulders taller than her husband. Own it! Be proud of it. There is definitely nothing wrong with it 🙂
Post # 13
my very good friend is 5’9″ and her boyfriend is 5’4″
they are very happy together.
i on the otherhand, could never date a guy shorter than me and i think it would be hard to find anyway since i am only 5 feet tall.
Post # 14
FI and I are almost the exact same height – if I wear ANY type of shoe, I’m taller than him (and in heels, I TOWER over him). It doesn’t bother me at all, and it isn’t really noticeable, but he hates it. He’s always been insecure about his height, though (he’s 5’7″).
FI’s brother is only 5’5″ and his girlfriend is probably 5’8″ – they’re both extremely fine with it! She even wears heels a lot.
Post # 15
@2ndchance: So glad to hear there’s others out there like me!
I was like you, I always said I’d NEVER date a guy that was shorter than me. Well, lo and behold, I start a new job, meet an amazing guy, start out as friends, then eventually fall for each other, and now engaged! After getting to know him, I didn’t care about his height. I am 5’9″ and he is *almost* 5’6″.
Honestly, I think back and realize how silly it was to let something like height matter in a relationship. But, I am glad it did up until this point, because I may have ended up with someone else :-D.
My fiance is the most incredible guy I know, and I wouldn’t choose anyone else. Although rarely, I do wear heels around him, sometimes. It just depends on the occasion. I was actually wearing heels on the night he proposed.
Post # 16
@mdcmod: I feel the same! He’s a wonderful guy – the BEST (for me)!