Post # 1
My post-childbirth saga is well documented here and I thought I was through the worst of it but OMG. I finally got my first normal period after having my son almost four months ago. It’s just like it always was — pretty light.
But I tried to put a tampon in and it felt like a huge wad of sandpaper. I almost died. I left it in for about 10 minutes thinking I just needed to get used to it but then I couldn’t take it anymore so I tried to get it out and couldn’t. I needed to use Astroglide to coax it out and even then it hurt!
I realize my flow probably isn’t heavy enough right now to warrant a tampon but has anyone else experienced this? Anyone else find tampons extremely uncomfortable after having a child? Does it get better?
Post # 3
@daybyday: Oh my GOD! That sounds terrible 🙁 I’m so sorry you have had to deal with all this crap. So unfair. I have not yet had my first period, so I don’t have any advice. Could you use a pad in the meantime? (I know- YUCK) But it isn’t like you don’t have 1,000 baby wipes you could keep in the bathroom to ‘freshen’ up.
I know that post-partum hormones cause the lady bits to be much drier than usual, so maybe the tampons aren’t sliding in like they used to?
Post # 4
Are you breastfeeding?
Since this is your first PPAF, it’s likely you have dryness associated to either breastfeeding or your body still being hormonally out of whack since childbirth. It’s normal, but sucky. I don’t use tampons and didn’t get af until 14m PP, but I know sex was really tough for me for 3 months after birth. I had a tear, and breastfed, so it didn’t heal very quickly and was very sore.
If you had any type of trauma to that area, like tearing, it’s also very possible that’s the issue, along with the dryness.
Sorry I can’t offer any more advice to make it easier 🙁
Post # 5
@DaneLady: Pads it is for now. :/ The plastic applicator part felt fine going in and sex has been fine too, so I thought tampons would be NBD. Joke’s on me again!
@urchin: No, I’m not breastfeeding anymore and haven’t been for a while. But yes, I had a third-degree tear. I guess maybe it just needs MORE TIME? Ugh.
Post # 6
@daybyday: The tear could very well be the culprit. I had a small tear and was breastfeeding, and my perineum had issues for many, many months.
Even not bfing, your hormones are still not back to what they were pre-baby 🙁 I hope you can find a resolution soon. I know how miserable it is!
Post # 7
@urchin: Did your tear eventually just start to feel better? Did you need PT or a revision or . . . ?
I was crying to my husband about this over the weekend. I want to have surgery to correct how fucked up everything is down there, but I don’t want to do that until after we are done having kids. But it’s not like I want my babies back to back so I guess I just tough it out.
I really appreciate the support. You’re sweet.
Post # 8
@daybyday: I went to my OB at around… 12 weeks PP because I STILL couldn’t have sex. It hurt so damned bad. It was like…the muscles hurt..if that makes any sense. It was bad. She told me some women, especially those bfing, take longer to heal, as the perineum needs estrogen, etc.
DH and I were able to DTD a few weeks later..but it still wasn’t great. It was probably 9 months pp before there was no pain during sex, and occasionally (like around my period), that whole area hurts again. It’s tolerable though.
I only had a minor tear, but for some reason it took forever to heal..to the point that I think maybe it was more muscle or nerve issues than the tear? I’m not sure.
I didn’t need any corrective procedures, although I do have a bit of…skin or something that just kind of is “there.” I’m assuming from how they stitched me up? I will be speaking to my OB after I’m done having kids to see if it’s worth fixing.
I’m also spacing my kids further apart, so I will have to wait it out as well.
You WILL feel better. With my issues, they seemed to resolve quite quickly, when they finally started improving.
Post # 9
Is there really no one else who can’t use tampons after recently delivering a baby? No one? Is this gross to talk about or what?
Post # 10
@daybyday: taking a dry tampon out = worst pain ever
Post # 11
@daybyday: It’s been years since my kids were born (they are 14 and 12 now) but I had a second degree tear with my first, and I didn’t even attempt tampons until a good four or five periods had passed.
At four months out, the tear should be well healed, and that isn’t likely to be causing your problem. My best guess would be simply that your chemistry has changed. This is your first cycle PP, and it’s just going to take some time for your body to re-establish itself. My periods completely changed between my children, and returned to pre-baby status after my tubal. Your body will do some odd things, and we just have to adjust.
Post # 12
@amandasouthcarolina: Truth. A million tiny papercuts inside your cooch.
@aithinne: I guess I got a little carried away then, trying to wear one so soon. I’ll give it more time and report back in another six months. Maybe. 🙂
Post # 13
It’s very common after birth for the inner lining of the vagina to be more sensitive, and even tighter than before delivery. It will get better!!!
Post # 13
daybyday: I’m having the same problem. I’ve been able to keep one in for about 2 hours, but it hurts everytime I move. Its like its sucking me dry and chaffing. I’m sorry you’re going through this too.
Post # 14
I had to use pads for several months. It still hurts sometimes at 9m PP and sex still isn’t great. I only had a tiny tear with two stitches too. I think everyone is different. If it’s really bad you can ask your dr.
Post # 15
lovemygsp: Just as a head’s up, this thread is a year old so OP may not respond. 🙂