"tasks" for bridesmaids during cocktail hour

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Nope. At this point their duties should be finished (unless one is giving a speech) and they should be able to be a guest and enjoy the cocktail hour/reception. 🙂

Post # 3
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Busy bee

During cocktail hour they shouldn’t have job responsibilities — they get to be friends and guests, not employees for unnecessary tasks 🙂

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

No, they’re not employees. And your cocktail hour should be an hour!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

Their official duty is to have a drink in their hand and a smile on their face, because all the work is done. 😀

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s their time to relax and socialize.

Wedding guests aren’t as stupid as they are often portrayed.

They will figure out the seating plan, guestbook, gift table etc all on their own.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

ummm every wedding ive been to favors are on the table to take, so i dont get what the big deal is. revise: i see your giving out wine, thats still not a BM duty. Hire day of coordinator for those lil details.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

thelittleone:  you just need to ask someone if they would mind/want to pass out favors. Is there a child or someone who might want to participate?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

thelittleone:  Like Anonymous Cupcake said. Do you have a super enthusiastic bridesmaid who would love to do it? Or a friend or someone else who you wanted to include in your wedding but couldn’t?

 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’ve never heard of BMs having tasks. I’ve actually never heard of BMs being forced to mingle with guests either….

I think you’ll be fine leaving the wine on the tables. I think your guests should have enough restraint that they won’t walk around stealing other people’s favors.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Or you could make signs indicating where things go.  You could also wait to hand out the wine until the end of the night so you and your then DH can make sure you two got to say thank you to everyone… or leave it on table at your guests seats.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

Asking someone to be a BM is supposed to be about honoring them for their position and support in your life.  Tasking them like you are suggesting is no honor.

Have your coordinator deal with the favors and whatever.  Guest books don’t need anyone to babysit them, people will know what to do.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Even if something is the norm where you live, it doesn’t mean it’s the best or most polite way to do things. Have you been a BM before? By the time the ceremony is over they have spent hours getting ready, standing up with you, taking pictures, etc. I promise you, even if they would be okay with doing pointless jobs, they would rather relax, have a drink, and get to have fun. If you ask, you risk them feeling obligated to say yes. 

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