(Closed) Tastefully Obtaining Addresses for Guests

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I facebooked people to ask for their addresses, I actually had to do this a few times because people moved, some numerous times so facebook was the easiest way to make sure I could get their addresses without depending on others to get them for me! 

Post # 4
4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@thatredheadedbride:  If you don’t have a phone number or email, I would send them a facebook message (not write on their wall or make a general status) and make sure you ask for an email address and phone number too for when you’re trying to follow up on RSVPs.

Post # 5
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

As long as you MESSAGE them privately, and not post on their wall, you’re okay.

And as long as you’re using facebook to obtain their address (for a formal invite) and not just inviting them to the wedding via facebook, then I think it’s use is perfectly acceptable.

Post # 6
1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You could also use a whitepages or 411 online directory to get their mailing address, if you know where they live but don’t gave all the details.

We did this for a lot of our friends: we’ve been there many times, but did’t have their postal code or exact house number (and blue house with big maple tree in front doesn’t work for mail).

Post # 7
779 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

This might only be a Canada thing… But if you go on 411.com I think, just look up their name or something and it gives you their mailing address, phone number, everything. 🙂

Post # 8
3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yup, I messaged a few people for them.  I don’t think anyone will think of it as tacky, they will be excited to give you their address!

Post # 9
334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I sent private, individual messages (rather than a group message) on facebook. As people often have their phones on them all the time, I found that most people responded really quickly. My teenage cousin responded in about 15 seconds.

Post # 10
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I called people, and sent Facebook messages. I also used the address gathering time as a verbal STD.

Post # 11
7904 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

As long as it’s a private message, I think it’s totally fine. If you want to not clue them in that it’s about the wedding (though they may assume and/or hope anyway), you can say something like, “Hey, this is the most recent number I have for you and I tried it and couldn’t reach you. Would you send me your full contact information so I can keep my address book up-to-date?”

Also, send each person his/her own message.

Post # 13
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I did a mass message on facebook in October/November 2011 (we got engaged in July 2011) for addresses and hinted that it was to get geared up for Christmas cards….got a ton that way.

Post # 14
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Totally fine.  I sent pm’s to about 4 or 5 people.  It was super handy.

Post # 15
1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@thatredheadedbride:  I also facebooked a few people & I also emailed the parents of some cousins etc asking their parents for their postal addresses.

The topic ‘Tastefully Obtaining Addresses for Guests’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors