Tasteless Facebook cover photo

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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764 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

kendra389:  I understand how it could bother some, but it would not bother me unless I felt like I should have been invited. If it were a person that I did not talk to much then I would not care. Good for her for getting married, and starting a new chapter in life. 🙂

Post # 4
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220 posts
Helper bee

kendra389:  no, not at all. I kind of think it’s a little crazy to be so mad at something like that… there are tons of people I’m friends with on facebook that I would never expect an invite from, and I wouldn’t even blink twice at them uploading a STD.

Post # 5
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753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I think it’s rude too, for exactly the reasons you mentioned. It’s never in good taste to make anyone aware that they are being excluded from an event. Also, what if she has a b list? Now they will know that they were on it when they get an invite, because they never received the save-the-date. I think posting links to wedding websites in the same situation is also less than gracious. 

 

 

Post # 6
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378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

One of my ‘facebook friends’ posted all of her hotel block info saying “everyone can go ahead and make reservations”.  She has like 600 people on there…  She also posted pictures of her save the dates.  Why she couldn’t wait and put the info on that to people who are invited I don’t know.  Her wedding isn’t for 8 months.  I don’t know why people do that.

Post # 7
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352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t think it’s rude. It’s facebook. It would be one thing if there was a dinner (for example) and she was bringing up her wedding knowing that there are people within ear reach of the conversation not invited. However, it being facebook, I don’t think it’s rude at all. What if she is planning an intimate event for only family? It’s the bride and groom’s choice to invite who they want and be excited for their special day, even if that excludes the 400 “friends” on facebook. IMO of course!!

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper

I’m sure she will get messages assuming  the save the date is meant for  everyone who was intended to see it.  If that’s not everyone, of course it’s rude. 

Post # 9
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679 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

mumkin:  +1. As they say, live and let live.

Post # 10
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357 posts
Helper bee

kendra389:  opps I did that because I had my STD in the background half blurred out with some decorations near the front, but you can still kinda see the dates and such. But I thought it was pretty. Oh well.

I guess I just made tons of enemies, but meh I don’t talk to more than 100 of those people. If the other 300 want to get mad at me, I could easily say ” well why haven’t you talk to me in a while, like 2-3 years?” 

 

Post # 13
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605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

kendra389:  Yea, I would be annoyed! When I sent out our STD’s a couple of friends I know uploaded a picture of it on their fridge on FB and instagram and tagged me in it for everyone to see….it was sooo awkward! I actually did have people asking me if they were going to get one…I would say just keep wedding stuff to a minimum on FB.

Post # 14
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753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

kendra389:  Oh my gosh, that’s horrifying! I am by no means the etiquette police, but there are boundaries! I mean, even texting potential guests would be better than that… the worst I’ve seen is a status update the day after the engagement was announced, asking people to comment if they wanted to come to the wedding. 

Post # 15
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441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

kendra389:  Surely it’s no different from putting wedding photos on? Or 1 week till the wedding updates? 

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