Post # 1
I have my meeting with the caterer tomorrow:
Any tips on what to talk to them about?
Some things I have in mind
– do not serve anyone who’s overserved, but to avoid drama serve them a weak drink
– do not serve shots (say its a policy or something)
– do not serve drinks during the speeches (they did this at a wedding I was at this past weekend and people were talking so loud during speeches). If we say don’t serve, hopefully that will keep people from chatting at the bar? Maybe put a sign up at the bar that says “sh” or hmm any other ideas on how to handle this?
No notes on food yet. What am I missing here?
Post # 3
@HourThyme: I was thinking of a no-shots policy too but honestly I’m pretty sure most of my crazy friends are going to bring hard liquor in a flask or water bottle and will be half-way to plastered by the time I hit the aisle and there’s nothing I can do about it (except get different friends, haha, that’s an interesting thought…) So I’m going to tell them ahead of time that it’s open bar and shots are allowed so no need to bring their own. I figure I’ll have at least the illusion of control over the situation that way. If your friends aren’t the flask type I think your idea will work great, and I envy you.
I also picked a few signature cocktails that can be easily weakened so hopefully people will order those. FI loves long islands, I considered that for all of 2 seconds but nope…he can still order himself one 🙂
Post # 4
About serving the overserved, it many locations in the US it is not legal to keep serving them. I’m pretty sure that their answer will be that they will not serve anyone who has had too much to drink – weaker drink or not. There are worse things than getting cut off… I wouldn’t worry about that.
I understand no shots but no drinks during toasts? That seems controlling. So the bar will be open for 1 hour and 7 minutes, closed for 13 minutes while toasts go on. I’d let it go.
I think I’d be more interested in their timeline ideas and see if you can learn from them other timelines that might suit you, your food service and reception timeframe best. Oh, then I’d be like, “Bring me my bib and the platters!”
Post # 5
Most weddings I have been to do not have the bar open during the meal, and that is when the speeches are done. The bar is open for cocktails, then people are seated and there is wine at the tables. The bar doesn’t open back up until after the meal is done.
Post # 6
Yeahhh you’re right. Must breathe and relax, haha!
Post # 7
@HourThyme: IMO, the only people who would be chatting during toasts or speeches would be either rude people, or those who have already had too much to drink- and in that case, shutting the bar down doesn’t help.
I think that’s a strange decision and you might want to reconsider–
and I agree with PP- lots of time the bar will be closed during the meal (especially if they are serving wine, etc…) and speeches are done then.
Post # 8
– Ask if they’ll make a special plate or have a special waiter for you and your SO, I was in love with my caterer because they had someone follow us around during pictures making sure we were having bites to eat and sips to drink
– Options for vegetarians/vegans/gluten free and that they do NOT have the same per head cost
– Options for kids and that they do NOT have the same per head cost
– Linens, plates, cups extra cost extra or included
– Any decor provided for tables/serving plates (our caterer provided free votives, cute food decorations on the buffet table)
– Tipping the bartenders, waiters, service staff in general
– Taxes and fees
– Make sure to take your tasting leftovers home! Most people don’t realize you can do this! We ate food from one tasting for days after!