(Closed) Tattooed bridesmaids… MIL and SIL upset

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@reynaweddingbee:  One of my bridesmaids is covered in tattoos, full chest piece and two full sleeves.  She asked me if I wanted her to cover her tattoos, and I told her absolutely not.  IMHO, tattoos are part of who a person is, an extension of their personality.

As you said, if you asked her to cover it up, it would probably not turn out well.  Your Mother-In-Law and SIL may not like her tattoo, but chances are, they won’t see pictures of your bridal party on a daily basis, so they don’t get a vote.  

I say let your Maid/Matron of Honor rock her tattoo.  Chances are, no one will be paying attention to it anyways 😉


Post # 4
9552 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would definately let your Maid/Matron of Honor keep the tattoo. She had it when you asked and it’s a part of her. And it actually sounds like you kinda like it or at least it won’t bother you. It is SO not your Future Sister-In-Law or FMILs place to try to dictate what your Maid/Matron of Honor does. Do not cave. They need to mind their own buisness.

Post # 5
1081 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@thatredheadedbride:  “IMHO, tattoos are part of who a person is, an extension of their personality.” <THIS. Agree 100%!

Let your Maid/Matron of Honor wear her tattoo proudly! You clearly love her for who she is, tattoos and all. And isn’t that what matters? :)Your pictures will be beautiful, because you will be surrounded by love and people who mean so much to you!

Post # 6
7776 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Are your Mother-In-Law and SIL the ones getting married? No? Then it’s not their business.

And the bridal party doesn’t tend to be in the family photos, so it doesn’t affect them anyway.

Post # 7
9073 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

It’s none of their business. This is between you and your MoH. If you want it covered up, I’d ask her to do it in a respectful way. However, I fully believe that tattoos are a beautiful form of expression and art, and I personally would never ask someone to cover up their tattoo, even if I didn’t like it.

I think just let her show it to the world. I really don’t think anybody is going to be paying attention to her tattoo.

Post # 8
1298 posts
Bumble bee

I really dislike tattos myself but I would never ask anyone to cover them up. Your Mother-In-Law and SIL will just have to let it boil over. If they keep bringing it up I would ignore it and change the subject.

Post # 9
1797 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m a tattoo disliking MOB.  ALL of my girls have at least one – their body, not mine and that is ok.  That being said, tell your Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law to zip it.  Thank them for their  input but tell them the tattoo topic is closed and you will not be asking her to cover it.  Good for you by the way.  Tattoos are part of the person.  You ask the person, you ask the tattoo.

Post # 10
463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

My bridesmaid is covered in tattoos. My mom doesn’t like them (tattoos in general, not hers specifically). Her first reaction was to ask me if I’d asked my friend to be my Bridesmaid or Best Man yet. I’m guessing if I had asid no my mom would have told me not to ask her. That really would not have gone over well with me so I’m glad I’d already asked her. My parents are paying for our wedding so unfortunately I don’t feel like I can tell my mom to deal with the tattoos. The solution is that my mom is going to pay for jacket/shrug type things to be made. That (in combination with the fact that the dresses are floor length) will cover most of her tattoos. She also has a large chest piece that is going to be mostly visible so my mom is just going to have to deal with that.


My friend’s tattoos are a part of her. I’ve seen pictures of her without them and it odd for me because I’ve never known her any other way.

Post # 11
19 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

I wouldn’t ask anyone to cover their tattoos, personally when people tell me that I should cover my tattoos for my wedding it kinda irritates me. I tell them that I would never consider covering my tattoos because like its been said, they are a part of who I am and I am not ashamed of them.

Post # 12
7 posts

It is absolutely none of your Future Mother-In-Law or SIL’s business. It’s your wedding, and she’s your friend and you asked her to be Maid/Matron of Honor knowing she had tats. The Maid/Matron of Honor and bridal party pictures are probably the least likely photos to be featured at your IL’s home, so let her show the tats. It’s your and  your FH’s day! 

Post # 13
4496 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m not a tattoo lover (though I do think some people can pull them off really well!). I wouldn’t love a giant tattoo on my bridesmaid, but at the same time I would never ask her to cover it! I think thats really insulting.

Post # 14
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I would say just leave it. Tattoos are pretty personal and if it doesn’t bother you then it doesn’t matter if it bothers anyone else.

Post # 16
1218 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It’s your wedding, therefore your say! I don’t have any tatts but I do have scarring on both arms. If anyone asked me to be in their wedding on the condition that I cover the scars I’d probably be annoyed (I’m not even covering them for my own wedding). I think your Mother-In-Law and SIL will get over it.

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