Post # 1
I always think about getting inked, but never actually decide to go through with it because:
- I’m scared I’ll regret it
- No one I know approves (they have said so plenty of times; FH included)
- I’m not sure if it’s necessary
- I am scared it will fade/look weird
- I might get bored of it
- It might not look the way I want it to
- I’m scared I’ll regret it (again)
- Not entirely sure of the location
- I’m the type of person that changes my mind quite often
- It will hurt
- Everyone has tattoos nowadays
Now on to the reason why I want a tattoo:
- It means something to me, and it will always mean that to me.
What I want is very specific, not entirely original, but it reminds me of my days in my home town. My childhood. Freedom. Summertime. And most of all – the different life I had and could have had.
It will be in a spot that’s only visible when wearing little to no clothing (so only during beach season). It will be small-ish; nothing bigger than a poker card.
Now, what do you all think? I’m not sure of what exactly to ask because I know no one can make this decision for me but…I guess, I would appreciate some guidance?
What drove you to get a tattoo? How old were you? How do you feel about it now? Was it your one and only? Did you ask for permission?
Really I just want to hear what everyone’s thoughts are on tattoos.
Post # 3
I might not be the best person to give advice on tattoos (because I hate them). But I will give you the same advice I gave my SIL when she was trying to deside to get one or not.
Have someone draw it on you in sharpie and live with it for a while. Think carefully about it until you are 100%. You can always get it later. Consider carefully the placement as it CAN effect how people persive you.
Personally if my DH didn’t want me to have one I really wouldn’t. I know its “my body” but he is the one who has to look at it.. lol!
You can always have a piece of jewlery made (like a necklace) in the design you had in mind for a tattoo.
Post # 4
So I have 1 tiny tattoo on my hip that only my hubby and doctor ever get the pleasure of looking at. I got it 6.5 years ago and it’s very meaningful and a tribute to two deceased family memebers.
I don’t regret what the tattoo is, but I do sometimes regret getting one at all. 98% of the people in my life dont even know I have one, because like I said, it’s hidden. It’s just that, I already think of and remember these two deceased family members all the time. I would think of them often even without the tattoo. I’ll probably never get it removed but it will always be a silly decision I made.
I got it when I was 22, just 2 months before I met my now husband.
Post # 5
i do. i have two small chinese symbols (one means beauty, and one means strength). i don’t regret them. the only one anyone regularly sees is the strength one- it’s on the inside of my right wrist. the other one is on my back and is covered unless i’m in a swimsuit, or i’m lounging around the house in very little clothing.
i’m happy because i have the reminders on my body, and i got them at meaningful times. i plan to get a hummingbird on my foot, as well, in memory of my grandmother, sometime in the next year or two.
Post # 6
@Mimoza: I have 4- one on each foot, one on my rib cage and one on my hip/stomach.
Do I regret them? No. The one on my rib cage is a memorial tattoo for my cousin. I have a bible first on my left foot and a tattoo I got with my little sister on my right foot. Each has meaning.
That being said. I have placed them where I have because I don’t want peopel to judge me. 90% of the time, you can only see the ones on my feet.
I agree with PPs idea that you have someone draw it on you with Sharpie. That way you can get an idea of whether or not you really want it. Tattoo removal is extremely painful and expensive.
Post # 7
@SweetartMD: That’s a good idea. I will find a design I like and have FH draw it on my ribs (that’s where I’m thinking of getting it).
And I actually have a necklace that is pretty much what I want to get 😛 Everytime I wear it I get compliments.
Thanks for the advice! 🙂
Post # 8
I never wanted one. I’m very fickle and could never imagine art on my body that was permanent. (I do have many piercings)
Then several years ago I got the itch, FI designed something that was meaningful to me…zebra print heart. It’s basic but I really couldn’t do abstract…my type A personality would go batty.
It’s on my upper back and usually covered by work clothes.
I’ve never once regretted it and may consider slowly adding to it.
Post # 9
My sister and I got matching tattoos in honor of our mom who died. They’re “totoro” tattoos which is hard to explain to people unless they’re familiar with the film!
We always wanted something matching to have. I was 21 and she was 18. I didn’t ask anyone for permission. I love it and will never regret it. It is in a place on my shoulder where you can see it if I am wearing a tanktop or less.
I honestly say I have wanted various tattoos all my life, mostly trendy ones, but once I thought of this design I just KNEW it was meant to be and I never once questioned it. I think that is the most important thing when considering a tattoo.
Post # 10
I am one of the most indecisive people that my husband knows. He tells me this all the time. Everyone does, actually. I can never make up my mind.
I have seven tattoos and love every single one of them. I got my first when I was 18, my dads initials. He died when I was four and knew that I wanted to always be reminded of him. I just kept going.
I think people make tattoos out to be this super important detail on your body that you will have to love and have some serious meaning to it. I felt that way for a couple of years. I really thought I needed to have some meaning behind what tattoo I get but I don’t feel that way anymore. I get a tatoo if I like it.
I didn’t ask for permission because I’m not a child and I don’t have to ask anyone for permission for anything. My husband is covered so it helps that he doesn’t mind at all but still, if he didn’t like them and I wanted one, I would get it.
If it means something to you then you won’t regret it.
Post # 11
I think a good rule of thumb is to think about what you want for a whole year. I also like PPs suggestion about trying out a tattoo with a sharpie or a temporary tattoo of a similar design.
DH and I are both tattooed. I have two small ones; and, DH has 3 fairly big pieces. DH has no regrets with his tattoos. And, no one ever sees his tattoos unless we’re at a beach. As for my tattoos, I got one tattoo as soon as I was legal out of rebellion. Dumb, I know. It’s small so I usually cover it up. The second one is also small and in the middle of my back. My bra strap covers it. Again, no one sees it. Even if I wore a tank top, my tattoos aren’t visible.
Post # 12
I have 8, and don’t regret any of them. DH has 13 or 14, and doesn’t regret those either. I can wear jeans and a tank top and none of mine are visible. I made sure (even at 18 with my first one!) that I could always dress in a professional manner and not have any ink exposed.
Post # 13
@Bostongrl25: That makes sense. Thank you for sharing!
@arsing89: Yeah, I will definitely try the sharpie idea! 🙂 I don’t care about being judged I care about reinforcement. So I want the people in my life that I care about to validate my decision (very silly and immature I know) but IDC what others say – just those I love the most. TBH FH didn’t tell me not to get it, he said you will regret it, but do as you wish. Which isn’t really what I want to hear 😛
Post # 14
I’ve not really thought of getting one till recently. My parents, sister, and one of my brothers all have them, and so does my fiance. A couple of them try to talk me into getting one, but one of the fears I have is that since I’m in a high profile job (education) it’ll be frowned upon. I don’t know, though. I know of several teachers who have tattoos, and one keeps hers hidden. I personally don’t mind them.
Post # 15
i have a small one on my upper back. it’s visible when i wear tank tops but that’s about it. i don’t regret getting it all. it’s pretty faded since i got it 14 years ago (i was 19) and i haven’t had it retouched. i keep meaning to get it done but i just don’t really care enough to go do it. i really don’t know what drove me to get it. i just wanted one. i was single so there was no permission needed by anyone but myself.
DH wants to get one on his forearm and i told him he should really think about that as far as future jobs go. he always hot and wouldn’t want to wear long sleeves to work.
Post # 16
I have one small tat, and an appointment on June 15th for my next! The rules I gave myself-because I wanted one for a long time-were that it had to be meaningful, and something that would always be meaningful to me. It also had to be easily concealed (mine is currently even covered when I wear a bikini).
I got an angel wing after my grandmother passed away almost 5 years ago. I have one wing on the right side of the top of my rear end, and my cousin has the other wing on the left side of her rear end. I still love it- she called us her angels all the time, so I thought it was fitting. My next appt is for the roman numeral for 13..again, for my grandma. I guess I felt like I wanted to do one for her on my own, that wasn’t shared with anyone. Her birthday was on the 13th, and so was her father’s, and she always wore a #13 necklace in gold that belonged to my great grandfather in Italy. Now, the necklace is mine.
I remember you saying you’re from Long Island…I’d recommend checking out King’s Avenue Tattoos in Massapequa. Their work is flawless…they have a wait time of like 3 years to get done by certain people there! I made my appt 3 weeks ago, for an appt in 2 weeks. Here’s my wing almost 5 years later:
It didn’t hurt, but it didn’t feel good…more like a cat scratching or sandpaper rubbing. Think about what you want everyday for a month, and if you still want it…go for it 🙂