(Closed) Tattoos

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would be offended yes, my tat’s are part of who I am.   I would let the BM’s show their tat’s. 

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Basically anyone with a tattoo would be offended by you asking them to cover them up. If you love these women, you love them for all of them. The pictures you end up framing will almost certainly not have them in it, and i’m not sure why it is a big deal if they do?!

I would probably step down as a bridesmaid if you asked me to do that. (I have a celtic tatto on my foot that would show)

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would be offended if my Tats were not offensive at all (which they aren’t) and you just decided you didn’t like them for your pictures. I would feel as though you are picking at me to make me who you want but not being happy with who I am.

UNLESS…you told them from the beginning that accepting a role in the wedding meant covering them. If they agreed then of course it’s fine.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

could it be covered by a shawl or something?

Edit: They can be easily photoshopped out of pics if that is your concern.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

@jdwalker703: I personally would be hurt if someone else asked me to cover up my tattoos, mine definitely don’t match my wedding colors/dress but I’m just letting them go =) My BM’s have tattoos too =)

If you don’t like them in your pictures just have them edited out later… maybe you’ll spare some hurt feelings?

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@jdwalker703: Where are their tattoos?

Would it be something that could be covered with a pashmina/shawl for formal pictures? I don’t have any tattoos so I can’t really speak to how I would feel about being asked to cover up, but if the tattoos are part of who they are/how they represent themselves, they may be offended if you ask them to cover them up.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Before you ask them to cover up with makeup or airbrush, ask yourself if you were in their shoes how you would this request make you feel, would you be offended?

And as a tattoo’d bride myself, who’s mother is asking them to be airbrushed/make up caked over, I suggest thinking of other options, like a shawl or bolero, wrap.etc.

Also was this ever a concern before making your final dress choices for them?

Best of Luck! =)

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’d be MAD if I was asked this. If we are friends you know I have tat’s and if you don’t want them in your pics then you shouldn’t of included me in your wedding party. Simple as that.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I understand where you’re coming from, but it’s rude to ask them to cover up. You could, however, give them matching shawls or jackets or something and ask them to wear them for the ceremony, but you can’t control what they do at the reception.

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I wouldn’t ask someone to cover them up – actually one of my BMs has one on each shoulder, and we are doing strapless. I have no intention to ask her to cover them up, but I have considered asking the photographer to edit them out in just one or two photos that I want to display.

My BM actually brought up her tattoos with me though – asking if his family would be offended (they may, but it doesn’t bother me). Funny enough, her tat colors go with our wedding colors!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

This really isn’t something you should ask of your BMs, in my opinion. 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Imo, that would be like asking someone to wear a padded bra for your wedding.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I don’t get why anyone thinks asking their BMs to cover up tattoos is okay (with the exception of church weddings where some tats may not be appropriate). Put yourself in their shoes. What if you had a prominent birthmark and someone asked you to cover it up for their wedding pictures?

And yes, I know tattoos are a choice and birthmarks aren’t, but it’s not like they got them right after you picked out the dresses; the tattoos were already a part of them and you knew that when you asked them to be in your bridal party, so it would be completely rude to bring it up now.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I agree with everyone else.  I would never ask my bridesmaids to cover up their tattoos.  I would be offended if someone asked me to cover mine as well.

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