Post # 1
I initially really wanted to hold my tea ceremony during reception so that 1. other guests can take part in our culture/tradition 2. I can show off my qipao
My sister-in-law said tea ceremonies can be quite boring for guests to watch. She said she has been to some weddings where tea ceremonies are held during reception and guests lost interest after the first minute or so.
What do you think?
Post # 3
As someone who has lived in Asian cultures, but is not from one (I’m about as white bread as they come, hehe), I think this would be really great!
Will most of your guests be familiar with the significance of the tea ceremony? If not, it might be cool to have someone explaining it to them as you proceed, i.e. “Hello Kitty will now pour tea for her new husband’s parents as a sign of respect and honoring them.” etc. not excessively, but just a little here and there so people know what’s going on. You could also start with like 2 sentences of background, “Tea ceremonies are an important part of the wedding day in x culture, and symbolize the bride’s transition from her family into the family of her new husband.” or whatever. 🙂
I’m curious also, just because of your sister’s comment, but how long do you anticipate the tea ceremony taking? I’d say if it’s like 10 minutes, that’s a great amount of time, it’s a great photo op for your guests, etc. but if you’re anticipating like half an hour, your sister may be right.
I hope you can do this though!
Post # 4
I’m thinking of having my tea ceremony during cocktail hour time. I have my photographer for 8 hours and I don’t think he can be there for the entire tea ceremony if we do it at my parent’s house before the western ceremony.
The cocktails/appetizers will be in a foyer next to the ballroom. I’m thinking of having the tea ceremony in the ballroom while this is going on. Should I keep the doors open so that people can go in and out while it’s going on? Not sure how this is going to work out though since relatives that are supposed to be at the tea ceremony might linger too long drinking and eating!
Post # 5
my cousin did this, but to keep it short, you could just serve tea to your parents and in-laws and any grandparents instead of running the whole gammot.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2018 - Ritz Carlton, Marina Del Rey
I don’t see why not! I think a lot of our guests would have been excited to see a tea ceremony. The only downside is that you lose some of the intimacy of the family-only ceremony. We really loved having a quiet moment to share with our family members.
If you decide not to do the tea ceremony during the cocktail hour, you can always show off your qi pao by changing during the reception. I wore my qua for the tea ceremony and again as my second reception outfit.
Post # 7
Thanks for your input!
The problem is that my fiance’s family is 10x bigger than mine…it will probably take us 5 minutes to pour tea to all my relatives, but will take 10x as long for his, unless we figure out a systematic way to line all of them up and just pour tea as fast as we can..hahaha. Doing it during cocktail hour sounds like a great idea! but that means I will have to change after ceremony to my qipao, then change again back to my gown for the reception. Hopefully we can work the details out.
Post # 8
I am trying to decide when to hold our (short) tea ceremony, as well. Timeline-wise, it seems like the cocktail hour would be the best time, but does it mean I have to change to my qipao for it and then back to the gown for the reception? That’s kind of odd, isn’t it? I’d like to wear my gown for as long as possible.. I’d like to wear the gown for most of the reception, but changing out out and back in the gown seem kind of weird.. Thoughts? I am interested in what you end up doing, miss hello kitty.
Post # 9
If i have it during the tea ceremony, I will not change into the qipao but just the white gown. I think it’ll take to much time away since the cocktail hour is short. I’ll change into the qipao later in the reception.
Post # 10
@pinkginger – I was originally planning that (you meant to say the cocktail hour when you said “tea ceremony” right?), too, but when I told my parents my plan, they frowned and said I should wear my qipao during the tea ceremony… :/ I don’t know how important wearing a qipao during the tea ceremony is but they seem to think so?
Post # 11
miss hello kitty,
How many will you be serving tea to? Can you guessimate how long it will take?
As a Chinese person who has been to many many long and dragged out tea ceremonies yes it does get boring for me! But. I think if you have many non-Asian guests it will be quite an experience for them; that’s the reason behind us doing it at the reception. And for my people we don’t do the tea ceremony at home, we always do it at the reception.
As of now I am planning on starting the tea ceremony after cocktail hour is halfway done then having it flow into the beginning of the reception. So cocktail hour starts at 600, at 630 tea ceremony will start, reception starts at 700pm (I figure it will take guests some time to come in) then hopefully tea ceremony will only be another 30 minutes.
Another idea I guess would be to start the tea ceremony after the formal introductions and wedding party entrance?
I’ve still yet to logistically figure out our day of timeline. Btu it would be great to see some past bride’s day of timeline with bridal door games and tea ceremony?
Post # 12
We sat down to count the relatives, and I probably over-estimated his side since I forgot that we only served tea to the older generations, not to all his cousins. Conservatively speaking, we will probably have to serve tea to a minimum of 16 (both sides combined). I am also thinking about the logistics of changing from my gown to the qipao and back if we were to do it during cocktail hour etc.
Post # 13
I am running into the same dilemma! I don’t want to be changing in and out of my gowns, but I have a big family (mom is youngest of 10) so I think that may get boring for the guests. I think I may do mine after the ceremony, before the reception. The changing part kind of stinks, but oh well 🙂 If your tea ceremony isn’t that long, I don’t think doing it during the reception is bad…