Post # 1
I’m pretty sure I will be getting engaged before the end of November as there have been several hints dropped. We already have our wedding idea planned out, as we want to go away for a private ceremony in niagara falls with just my parents and his sister and husband (since his parents are passed away), honeymoon in new York city and and have a reception at home when we return. I am a teacher which basically just leaves the summer for getting married. But the problem is I am also doing my special education degree and for the next TWO summers I will be out of town from June 24 – Aug 7 completing courses that I cannot do thought distance. So that only leaves the last 3 weeks of August for a 12 day weddingmoon and reception!! I hate the idea that I am so restricted as to when I can plan the most important event of my life because of my career!!
My questions are, would planning for this upcoming August be too rushed with 8 months of planning and is a 3 week window going to be too rushed for all that excitement given the fact that we will be gone away? I am thinking the dates of our wedding moon will be August 9-21. My exam schedule doesn’t end until August 7 so if my exam happens to be on the last day (which good chance it will since I will be doing 3 courses and there is only 3 days for exams in the summer semester) I won’t be able to drive home the 7 hours until August 8 and then leave the next day. Also my man wont be with me for the 6 weeks I’ll be out of town doing my courses. I might be able to put the start date off a day later but then I will have to give up one day of my already planned itinery because I HAVE to be home by the 21 so I can have the reception that Saturday the 24. (sounds rushed hey!! But the following weekend is labor day weekend and if i get a job i wouldn’t want to have to spend the Sunday of the gift opening preparing my new classroom) I don’t exactly want to wait a year and 8 months, plus I will be in the exact situation the following summer and I am definitely not having a nearly 3 year engagement.
There are a couple other options we could do but our hearts are already set on the plan we have. We could skip the weddingmoon idea and have our ceremony/reception here and save time. However there would be way too many people that would “have to” be invited and we seriously want a completely intimate group to say our I dos in front of. We could wait a couple of years (which I’m going to rule out now), or we could perhaps have our wedding here next Christmas and then do our same honeymoon idea during Easter (we are the only province who gets Easter break rather than spring break). I don’t know how I feel about getting married during the winter as I don’t want a Christmas themed wedding at all, and we would still have to deal with the much larger guest list!!
I am a substitute teacher so I could half risk planning a fall 2013 wedding which ideally I would love much more than the August one, but if I get offered a job I HAVE to take it as jobs are almost impossible to get. Although with that said the chance of getting a job in the city I live in is slim, all jobs offered to new teachers are in the middle of no where far away from home and I’ve already decided I won’t be leaving the life I love for 3 years just for a job.
So, I’m stuck. And I want to figure this out before all the excitement of the engagement starts. My boyfriend says “whatever makes you happy” which is why we chose the weddingmoon in the first place. I guess after that HUGE rant (sorry guys lol), will the August option be too rushed given the fact that that’s basically my only time frame.
Thanks to anyone who read through all this haha
Post # 3
I think that given all the time you have to plan it can be done. We had a semi Destination Wedding where we grew up and arrived about 3 weeks before the wedding. There wasn’t a problem at all. Good luck!
Post # 4
“I hate the idea that I am so restricted as to when I can plan the most important event of my life because of my career!!”
Well. You don’t have to be a teacher. Then you could plan like everyone else has to — without even that three weeks off.
If you’re just a sub, can’t you just say you’re not available in the beginning of June, or whenever you want?
Post # 5
I’m in the same boat, I am getting married in a few months and doing the whole honey moon during the summer. would you mind getting married during a “spring break” or extended period or three day weekend? and honey moon in the summer?
Post # 6
@peachacid: Whoa. I don’t want to start a conflict, but I’m sensing a little derision towards teachers in your comment. I hope I’m wrong. One thing I’ve learned the older I’ve gotten is that people tend to underestimate how demanding others’ work is. I would never dismiss someone else’s work this way. I’m not a teacher per se, but I do realize that it is often thankless.
Post # 7
12 days is PLENTY of time! My Fiance and I are getting married over the 3 day Memorial Day weekend. I’m taking Friday off, going back to work Tuesday, and I’m travelling across California to get married (from LA to the Bay Area). It’ll be rushed, but it’s literally the only opportunity we have to get married! I’m a teacher, and my Fiance is finishing up his last year of medical school and will be in residency by the end of my school year.
In other words, you’ll be fine.
ETA: We’re not taking a honeymoon. Literally no time. :/
Post # 8
@toomanyspiders: Thank you for this.
@ssilva1: I am starting to think of just having an at home wedding now instead of doing it all together with the honeymoon. That way I can use a much smaller time frame and enjoy the honeymoon to the fullest later! 🙂 Thanks!
@Ms.GoodEarth: Thanks! Yeah, I am thinking of just putting the honey moon to another time so we’re not rushed! Then we only need the 2 days to get married!
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I planned our wedding in 8 months, and I was time restricted because we had the 11 days of spring break (including the weekends on both ends) for the university I was teaching at. It all worked out!
ETA: our wedding was 5 hours from our home and our honeymoon was in Pennsylvania.
Post # 10
@mrsSonthebeach: Awesome, good to know, Thanks 🙂
Post # 11
@peachacid: Well, you don’t have to be nasty…
OP – I think 8 months for what you want to plan is PERFECT. You can absolutely do it. Don’t worry!!!
Post # 12
why not just do the wedding/honeymoon in august and then have the reception over columbus day weekend. then you have more of a planning cushion for that part, which will be more involved anyway!
Post # 13
@toomanyspiders: Take a look at this comment by the OP: “I hate the idea that I am so restricted as to when I can plan the most important event of my life because of my career!!” I am a teacher. I would NEVER complain that my CAREER — which I love — is getting in the way of ONE DAY, which is certainly not the most important. That bothered me. Teachers get a lot of shit for a number of reasons. One of those is that they get the summers off. The OP is complaining that she “only” has three weeks off. Well, most people don’t get nearly that much time.
Also, since she is a sub, this shouldn’t even be a problem.
Post # 14
Darling Husband and I are also on academic calendars, and we had a long engagement (>2 yrs). We knew we were going to get married in the summer when we had more free time, but he proposed on March 2010 and we did not get married till June 2012. I am very glad we had the extra time to prepare – I needed to be able to “put away” wedding planning every once in a while when I got too stressed, and we used school breaks (summer and winter) go visit FL and meet with vendors.
I suggest waiting, esp if you are already living together.
@peachacid: I agree with you!
Edit: OP – Also – if you are feeling crunched for time, and he hasn’t even proposed to you, I think that is a sign that maybe August will be a bit too soon for you guys.
Post # 15
@peachacid: I completely agree with you. I am a high school teacher and I get so sick of hearing my friends that are teachers complain about how little time off they get. Give me a break! Teachers work their butts off, but so do a lot of other people! FI has been at his company nearly 10 years and he doesn’t get nearly the same amout of time off as I do, and there are many days he puts in 12 hour shifts and works weekends.
We are getting married on June 1, the day after the last day of school. To the OP. you have plenty of time.