Post # 1
Teacher bees, a few things:
1) My wedding is scheduled for late July of next year. We did it this way so that there would be a cushion between work and the wedding should I choose to do summer school (usually lets out in the lower teens of July, and our date is the 26th). We have no idea when summer school will be scheduled for in 2015; it depends on snow days, etc.
I am not sure if I want to teach summer school next year anymore. I am constantly exhausted teaching summer school (no plan period, no lunch break until school lets out at 1, and only get two 10-minute breaks), and having to grade work 10x faster than I do in the regular school year. There is a possibility I may be able to teach only one semester next summer, since my class is a one-semester course. I chose to teach two semesters this summer because, hey, what else am I going to do?
Would you take on one semester (13 school days) of summer school, two semesters of summer school, or just not do it at all? And if you had a choice of only two semesters or no semesters, which would you go for? The money is good, but since I get paid through the summer, it wouldn’t be awful if I didn’t do it.
2) How did you manage planning while you were teaching? What were some things you did to keep your head in school during the day? Did you take any personal days during the planning process to meet with vendors? Did you take any personal days from merely being worn out?
3) Did you invite coworkers? If so, how many? Why did one person get an invite and not another?
Post # 2
- Wedding: June 2014 - Gold Hill Gardens
1) I would not do summer school at all. We planned our wedding in 6 months this year and I’ve been teaching for 8 years. We gave ourselves a buffer of two weeks between school and the wedding and those two weeks were INTENSE. It was ALL-WEDDING-ALL-THE-TIME – and I had planned it that way. It’s hard to teach and plan – and I know I could have done better teaching, since I spent most evenings doing wedding stuff. That’s also the thing about teaching, though. You can ALWAYS do better, you can ALWAYS do more . . .
2) I didn’t take any personal days, but I could have. I’m a big proponent of “mental health” days.
3) I started by inviting the people in my dept I spend time with outside of school. Then added a couple of people from our adjoining dept in the building that I enjoy spending time with. That’s how I would recommend thinking about it.
Post # 3
I would not do summer school at all either. I’m almost through with the one month buffer I had between the end of school and my wedding and these have been very busy weeks. Like hyzentlay said, all wedding, all the time. I didn’t do anything wedding related (litterally) the last month and a half of school because school was so crazy busy, so I needed this time. The only reason you should even consider teaching summer school was if not doing so would put you at significant financial hardship (but it doesn’t sound like this is the case).
I took one personal day, but it was more for engagement pics than planning. FI is also a teacher and we always take one personal day together during the school year. This past year, it was just wedding-centered.
I didn’t invite any coworkers. There are two whom I am close enough to that I thought about inviting, though we don’t hang out outside of school much (like 2 times in 3 years). However, I knew that one couldn’t come and I felt weird inviting the other when she would know no one, so we just did no coworkers.
Post # 4
I want to know more about your summer school situation…ours goes from 7:30 to 12:30 (M to Th) but there are so few students and so many teachers it’s not hard at all.
Anyway, I got married about three weeks after school got out last summer. I drove to NH right after school got out, and my husband got there like…four or five days before the wedding. We’d finalized our vendors during winter break and spring break, and then I just worked on finishing everything in the weeks preceding the wedding. It was pretty chill, though…
Whether you do summer school or not should depend on whether you need the money.
Post # 5
If the money is that good, I would do one semester of summer school. That would still leave you enough time for wedding things, and heck, couldn’t we all use the extra cash?
I am not a great example for planning as we got engaged August 2013 and got married December 2013. I’m a teacher too and I’ll be honest, my mom did the majority of the planning because we got married in our hometown, which is a 5-6 hour drive away from where we live now. DH spoke with our parents about venues before we got engaged as we knew we wanted a short engagement and a smaller wedding.
I didn’t invite any co-workers either, mainly because we purposely had a smaller wedding that was mostly family, but also because of the long drive and it wasn’t on a holiday/extended weekend.
I took 1 personal day – the Friday before the wedding (wedding was Saturday). I was back at work that Monday and we took our honeymoon a few weeks later when I was on winter break.
Post # 6
peachacid: the day goes from 8 am to 1 pm with only two ten minute breaks. Each semester is 13 days. However, due to the subject matter, I have a lot of things to grade, and I’m not used to grading so many essays in such a short period of time. I am often exhausted by the end of the day, but I have had a lot of other projects going on as well.
I will try to negotiate for one semester. I think with preparation I should be able to work that out. If not, I won’t do it at all. I am being bumped up a pay grade this year for finishing my Master’s, so money won’t be a huge factor. I think I’m going to take the time to plan in as relaxed of a state as I can get.
Thanks for your input, bees!
Post # 7
I wouldn’t. My wedding is scheduled for the middle of summer break this year and I seriously considered taking a short position during the first part of the summer. I am so glad I didn’t take it. I feel like everyday working on the wedding is a full time job lately! It would be way too stressful working at the same time. I realize many people don’t have the option to focus full time on their weddings for a couple weeks, but as teachers we are able to so why not take advantage of extra the time?
As for inviting coworkers, we are having a small wedding so my rule was to only invite the ones who I spend a considerable amount of time with outside of school, the ones who I called right after I got engaged.
Post # 8
TheAnonyMouse: I have yet to teach summer school and don’t regret it. I may in the future, but I see this as my “me” time and use it for a lot of different stuff- house stuff, curriculum planning, reading, PD, committee meetings, etc. I would choose not to teach summer school the summer of your wedding as the end can be more stressful with everything coming to an end. I got married over winter break this past school year on NYE and it was a bit overwhelming at times. If you do choose to teach, I would do one semester (13 days) so you still have a nice chunk of time to get ready without added stress. You can definitely plan a wedding while teaching, but you have to be smart with your appointments and time management (teachers are usually good at this). I only invited a handful of colleagues (and none from my current school as it was the first year of the school)-those who were really important to me. Good luck!
Post # 9
1. I wouldn’t teach summer school. You will hate yourself. I’ve never taught summer school, but I hear stories. Like another poster, I planned my wedding in about 6 months and were married 3 weeks after school let out. Those three weeks leading up to the wedding were intense. The week before the wedding we were booked non-stop with last minute details.
2. I only had to take two personal days at the end of May because final deposits were due to certain vendors and we had to meet with the even planners a month before.
3. I only invited people from work that I actually hung out with outside of school. I invited their S/O’s as well.
Post # 10
1. DO NOT DO SUMMER SCHOOL – Trust me, you will need those days. I did almost NO planning during the school year and this entire last month has been nothing but wedding. Our date is August 1, exactly 6 weeks after school ended. All wedding… all day… all the time. I don’t remember what non-wedding life is like anymore.
2. We were very hands off in palnning. We’re doing a desntination wedding in California (we live in Hawaii), so we took one weekend to fly out and meet EVERYONE in one day. It’s possible! You can do it!
3. I only invited my coworkers who are BFFs. There are only 3 and 1 couldn’t make it, so 2 co workers. You have work friends, and you have friends who happen to work with you. There is actually a big difference.
Good luck! We’re on the tail end here and I will be SOO happy to return to dedicating my brain to teaching.
Post # 11
I would skip summer school.
I was engaged 2 days before my first year of teaching. I am getting married in 8 days! We will have a 10 1/2 month engagement. I can honestly say I would have been in BIG trouble had I worked this summer. I found that I struggled with planning during the school year because I already had so much on my plate during the school year. Especially towards the end when my class had our camping trip, field trips, etc.
The month and a half after the school year and the wedding have been awesome! I have been able to get so much done. I don’t know what I would do if I was working as well.
Even my FI, who really wanted me to get a job this summer is so thankful I didn’t because he has realized how many little things add up to taking a lot of time.