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my mom did and she hyphenated at school, so she could use her new name but people calling for her still got her.
Welcome to the boards!! I don't really have any advice, because I'll be getting married in January which is technically the middle of the school year, but I won't start teaching until after I get married (I'm still in college), so I won't have to deal with changing my name. I would say, though, that if you do get married in October, it may just be easiest to keep your maiden name (at least to your students) for the remainder of the school year, and then change it for the next year.
I am an eled teacher as well. I ideally wanted a spring wedding but I knew it wouldn't be possible. My MOH and a bridesmaid are both teachers as well. We settled on a July wedding instead. So far, low stress!
My FI is a teacher and we are getting married in the summer. During the school year was just too challenging. We have a lot of educators (and a few bus drivers!) in the family, so summer just sat better with us.
But as far as the name goes, I would just use your maiden name at work (for the sake of the kids) until the next school year. I had an elementary school teacher who was Miss so-and-so one year, Mrs. the next and then back to Miss the third year. I don't know what happened with that, but we didn't ask too many questions. She was still the teacher.
I don't think it's a huge deal either way. I work in an office and a lot of the women who get married there keep their maiden name for work purposes but go by Mrs. outside of the office. For the sake of our customers, it's complicated to inform hundreds of people of a name change so quickly. Most change over in a few months time, but it's still odd. The fact that the women in my office got married is really none of our customers' business, but they need to know how to get a hold of us.
I am a middle school teacher and will be getting married in March. I will be tying the knot right before Spring Break. I plan on changing my name but am not too worried about the kids being able to switch right away. More than likely I will keep my name until the end of the year and then really change it change it for next year.
Holler for the teachers!
I'm a high school teacher, so my experience is a little different with the name change. Having taught at the same school for the last 8 years, changing my name would be hectic - all the teachers would still refer to me by my maident name out of habit (we've had this happen with at least 5 teachers) which confuses the students. Plus, my former students who come back to visit would have a difficult time finding me with a new name (we change rooms every couple of years). Finally, but most importantly, my FI's last name rhymes with too many not so nice words, so I'm sticking to my (not easy to rhyme) maiden name at work.
As for getting married mid-year, I say do what's best for you. I couldn't do it because of my grading schedule & all the state testing - most of it is near every long holiday/break. Additionally, since 85% of our guests are out-of-towners coming to our city, I think I'll be VERY busy entertaining/hosting them, so I wanted to choose a BIG block of time to devote to guests...summer was the best fit for my teaching schedule. But if none of those things apply to you, you should just pick whichever season you prefer.
Good Luck!
I work at an elementary school where, for the past several years, every single new hire under 30 (except me!) was either engaged or married within a year. The kids weren't confused... they know "their teacher" intimately and they know to switch her name (unlike high school, where the kids have multiple teachers).
It's the other teachers who couldn't keep up! It was so bad one year that I had an unofficial policy of not learning any new teachers' names until their second year. ;)
I wouldn't underestimate the ability of little kids to switch... we did have one teacher married over xmas break and the kids would always correct me when I got her name wrong. But it might annoy the other teachers, and possibly the school secretary... having to learn your new email address and trying to find your phone number in the directory, or they'd simply keep forgetting.
I have thought about the option of just keeping my maiden name until the end of the school year, but is it silly that I can't wait to have my boyfriend's last name, and October is still pretty early in the school year?
Could I just have students call me Mrs. Boyfriend's name from the begining of the year even though I won't be married right away??
AH!
My 2nd grade teacher got married over winter break. I don't recall there being any issues in the class about her name change. She left Miss P and came back Mrs. H. I don't recall if she explained it to us past getting married, but I do remember that the transition wasn't at all a problem.
The teacher that got married at our school during xmas break was the art teacher - someone with over 600 students. She told them that she got married, and they were so happy for her and learned her new name almost instantly. No confusion!
My impression is that the kids, even little ones, will know you got married. You can show them a picture, they'll love it! It's so exciting as a kid to find out your teacher has a "life."
I'd worry more about your coworkers. Especially with your email, etc. I'm sure when you get there everyone will know you're getting married; you can sign your emails "Ms. X (soon to be Mrs. Y)." When you file the name change, it won't change at work until all that is complete anyway.
I'd say socially, change it right away; with work/payroll/etc. I'd say to change it after xmas break or something, so there's more of a "break."
I'm an eled teacher and getting married in 18 days (not that I'm counting or anything). I started the year off by telling all the kids I work with that after Thanksgiving I'm going to be Mrs. V. They're all so excited some of them have started calling me that already and it works:)
As so many others have said, it will be harder for the other teachers to adjust, but I'm sure the kids will LOVE to correct them everytime they say your maiden name! As for email and such, my district has it set so that we get email sent to my maiden name or my married, I'd check with your district office to see.
i'd definitely say don't wait to change to make it easier on people, or get married in the summer because its more convenient. This is the one time when it gets to be all about you and what you want.
Thanks! I think you guys have convinced me to do the October wedding! I'm also going to just change my name right away. You're right...1st graders adapt easily!
I wouldnt worry about it too much. The kids will know you by both names. I am also a teacher, and a coworker of mine got married over the summer, but it's still hard to the teachers and kids to remember to use the new name! haha. It's just getting used to the new routine. I wouldnt plan the date of your wedding around the need to change your name during the school year. Because in my experience, you'll end up being called your maiden name from time to time either way.
With all that said, I'm an elementary teacher and I plan to wed in February. So I'll be doing the mid-year name swap.
I'm a high school teacher and I'm getting married over Christmas break. His and my family live all over, so everyone is happy to get together at Christmas time and celebrate with us.
As for the name, I will still go by my maiden name at school - including email and voicemail, until the end of the school year, then change everything over in the summer.
School therapist, here, about 3/4 of our wedding will be educators (both my fi and i come from teacher parents) so we're doing it in the summer. I would have prefered October as well, actually! But I think summer is a better time for all our guests. What's your breakdown of guests as far as "summers off" are concerned?
as far as changing your name. that is definitely a personal choice. i am not going to, but i've known many women teachers who have married and changed their names. it'll take a couple years for the kids to stop calling you your maiden name, but it's really no big deal.
i just recommend not writing your maiden name all over the supplies, books, and other materials you have in your classroom. I'm not a teacher but i have had several teachers get married or divorced in the middle of the year and they definitely didnt take it well when they were called by their maiden name/ previous married name. We actually had one teacher get REALLY angry with a classmate of mine who slipped up (in 5th grade mind you) and she had a mini meltdown and made us find everything in the room with her married name on it so we could mark it out with black sharpie and give it to her so she could rewrite her maiden name on it.
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Hello ladies!
I'm an elementary school teacher-I will be getting engaged very soon. I plan on having a small, intimate wedding.
Since I live in Arizona, and have some family coming from out of state, my ideal time to have the wedding would be in October (I also have a week off there for fall break.)
I'm a little concerned though about changing my name. I'd love to change my maiden name right away, but with being a teacher I'm not sure if that's a good idea. The summer is not much of a problem for getting married in either, just October is preferred.
Help me out! Share your experiences. Is it worth it to just get married over the summer?