Post # 1
We are not officialy engaged, but have already agreed on a wedding in November 2014. I am currently a long-term sub and will hopefully have a full-time position next year. We are kind of in a dilema. FI works for a pro baseball team, so while my summers will always be open, that is his busy time. He is technically required to be at all home games, and although we could do a wedding/honeymoon during a week the team is away, the schedule for the next year doesnt come out until September/October…leaving us like 9-10 months to plan a wedding during the busy wedding season where venues seem to fill up 1.5+ years in advance.
I would love to do a honeymoon immediatly following the wedding. I feel like it would feel more special. The last school district I worked in only gave teachers 2 personal days a year. Do districts allow time off for special requests like getting married? Is it ever possible to get a week off, or do we just have to suck it up and take the honeymoon over winter break?
Post # 3
I am a principal in Illinois and we too only give teachers 2 personal days. I have had several employees get married and they always had their weddings during the summer so that they were on summer vacation or during winter break. Most districts only give 2 personal days and no special time off unless its maternity leave which they cannot deny. Good luck with the planning.
Post # 4
@shaillo34: agreed. I am lucky. My district gives us three marriage days and they are allowing me to uses the days in conjunction with winter break.
Post # 5
I’m in California and was allowed to take 5 personal necessity days for my honeymoon. In our district you are allowed to take 3 PN days without giving a reason and than anything over that you have to be given approval. Why not take your honeymoon over one of the holiday breaks? My district gives us a week off at Thanksgiving and 3 weeks off over Christmas.
Post # 6
The only thing I think you can do if you are set on a November wedding is to get married the weekend before Thanksgiving and see if you can use the two personal days the next Mon/Tues. Obviously this is really dependent on the school, but maybe they would allow you to take a day off unpaid (the Wednesday). My school allows that on a case-by-case basis. But no, you can’t just take off an entire week even for an occasion like your wedding.
That being said, it’s not a great time for your guests to have your wedding, unless everyone is mostly local. And as a teacher it is a lot of work to take days off and would add to your prewedding stress. Honestly I think it would be a lot easier for you to get special dispension for your FH to get the time off rather than you and he probably wouldn’t have as much work to do ahead of time to not be at work for a week.
Post # 7
@anneh1990: I think waiting to do a honeymoon over winter break is a good idea. My coteacher got married last year right after spring break, and took five “sick” days following her wedding because our district only allots one personal day per school year. We were all surprised (and a little annoyed) that she got away with that. Since you are getting married in November, the December break is only a little ways away. I know it is not exactly what you wanted, but it’s pretty close, and it’s a good way to stay on everyone’s good side. I made sure that my wedding falls over spring break for the same reason.
Is there a reason why you can’t have the wedding in December, and leave for your honeymoon directly after that?
Post # 8
I was going to ask the same thing about moving the wedding to December. We’re getting married on New Year’s Eve and going on our honeymoon from January 1 to January 5. While the next semester begins the 6th, we wanted to take an immediate honeymoon. If not, you may just have to wait until Winter Break.
Post # 9
I know the feeling, I planned my wedding in the summer to avoid that problem even though I really wanted a fall wedding. My district only allows two personal days. Since a summer wedding and honeymoon wouldn’t be an option for you, I would definitely wait until winter break to take a honeymoon. Usually trying to find a way around things like that is pretty frowned upon.
Post # 10
We are also allowed 2 personal days as well as 10 sick days. We do not get any additional time off, so the answer to your question would be No.
Check with your district.
Post # 11
I would much prefer a summer wedding, but FH is at the mercy of the team and it’s really hard to leave for a week. Looks iike winter break it is!
Post # 12
Some districts will allow you to take extra time off without pay. Although I wouldn’t recommend it. Especially for a new teacher.
Post # 13
I agree with others to wait a few weeks for winter break OR try and make a summer wedding work. As a first year teacher, I don’t think you’re going to want to rock the boat about your wedding, honestly. You want to have a career for a long time and you’ll want to start off on the right foot. Also, you never know with all the “kiddie cooties” when you might need to take a day.
As far as the summer wedding, why can’t you just go ahead and plan the wedding for whatever day and then figure out the honeymoon for maybe one or two weeks later depending on the schedule? (I may answer my own question – but is it because they don’t play on specific days so you won’t know when your SO will be working at ALL or he knows which days they play just not which are Home or Away?)
In my district we’re very lucky – we have several week-long breaks built into our school year. We have a week long fall break in September or October, a whole week for Thanksgiving break, two weeks for winter break, another week break in February and then Spring Break usually in April. We also start back to school much earlier for this reason (kids come back next week) but it makes it easier for teachers to plan a wedding around their school schedules. I’m assuming by your post that it isn’t like that where you live?
Post # 14
@anneh1990: We also get 3 personal days and are not allowed any additional time off. If we used our sick days with it, we’d be required to submit a doctors note, and we can’t use personal business back to back I don’t think.
I’d also be pretty careful with taking more than two days off in a row both as a first year teacher and as a new hire in a district. If I were a supervisor it would make me think twice about keeping you around for the next year. And from a personal level, taking any days off is HARD if you have your own classroom.
Post # 15
I’d wait until the summer when the schedule is out. What about All-Star break? All teams are off then and they already have the date.
Post # 16
thanksgiving break, winter break, spring break? FI and i are getting married right before christmas and i’m a teacher and we are going to push our honeymoon to either spring break or summer just so that we both can plan for time off without taking too many personal days. 🙂