Post # 1
Oh, men. :o)
Not unreasonably, I asked my fiance to get the addresses of his friends on our guest list. He has some friends in long-term relationships with people we don’t know, but we’re inviting those SOs because we are fortunate enough to be able to accommodate them.
Me: “Did you get R’s address?”
Me: “What’s his girlfriend’s last name? I can’t address this to Mr. R and Kim. I asked you weeks ago to find out her whole name.”
Him: “Address it to Mr. and Mrs. R. That would be funny. He’d freak out.”
Him: “Can’t you just put Mr. R and Guest?”
Me: “NO! THAT WOULD BE RUDE! DO YOU KNOW HOW OFFENDED I’D BE IF WE GOT AN INVITE THAT CALLED ME ‘AND GUEST?’ CAN’T YOU TAKE THE TIME TO FIND OUT YOUR FRIEND’S GIRLFRIEND’S NAME FOR THE LOVE OF GOD?”
Him: *slinks away to text R*
Me: *logs onto Wedding Bee, fuming*
What aspects of etiquette does your fiance not quite grasp? The “But what’s wrong with…?” things.
Post # 3
Hahaha 🙂 My fiancee is the same way, I think that is about the only thing we have come across that he doesn’t quite grasp the concept of ^.^
Post # 4
What is expected of the best man. The only thing he could think of was the bachelor party!
Post # 5
Thankfully, I’m on lunch break. I just busted out laughing so hard at the last two lines of your conversation with him and my boss noticed since she’s at my coworkers desk. Woops.
Post # 6
@sweetcrackers: sounds so much like something my FI would do!
Post # 7
At least he’s teachable!
The line I kept getting from my DH was that ‘etiquette is stupid’. *sigh* He’s really not that rude of a person, but he was not into helping me with the wedding planning.
Post # 8
OMG, we literally had the same conversation! Except it also included me asking for street numbers, zip codes, proper spelling (Is it Alison or Alyson…) They just don’t get it!
Post # 9
Haha, I’ve had to give mine a few lessons as well. If you think about it, there’s no real way for men to learn these things unless someone tells them directly or they look it up themselves. It’s not like wedding etiquette is part of the man-to-man father-to-son talks!
Post # 10
“You mean we’re supposed to get gifts for the bridesmaids and groomsmen? Isn’t being in our wedding enough of a gift?”
and of course,
“Why do we need to get a gift for your parents? I thought they were supposed to get US a gift!” [my parents are paying for 80% of the wedding]
Post # 11
Haha – at least none of us are alone! My favorite – after finding out that FMIL is hosting a 9AM “morning after breakfast”
Me: You do realize that we need to be there, looking nice, at 9AM, right?
FI: Why? What is wrong with us just showing up around 11 to grab some grub?
Me: (sigh) People are coming to the breakfast to see US – not your mom – we need to be there at 9AM. Trust me, it would be rude to to be there.
Post # 12
Also, forgot this gem…
Him: “Why is your cousin J listed separately on the invite spreadsheet? He lives with his parents.”
Me: “He’s twenty-three.”
Him: “They all live together and he’s their kid.”
Me: “He’s an adult.”
Him: “But they’ll all come together. They all already said they’ll come.”
Me: “But he’s his own social unit.”
Him: “What the hell is a social unit?”
Yeah, three months ago I’d have said that too. I won’t be too hard on him.
Post # 13
@Rock Hugger: Ditto this one! Grub, indeed. Mine asked why they’d expect us to see anyone at all the day after the wedding because we’d obviously be doing naughty married-people things.
Post # 14
I’ve had the EXACT same conversation with my FI on more than one occassion. I ended up just signing onto his Facebook and snooping around his friends list, then coming back to him with my shortened list for family members that weren’t on there.
Heck, I even sent some of his friends messages as if I were him asking for their addresses! Then he would text me, and I’d go sign in and get the info I needed. That was by FAR the easiest way to get addresses for his friends that we didn’t previously have already.
*ETA: I asked him if it was okay before I signed into his Facebook!
Post # 15
I also got him this book! 😀
Post # 16
Hahaha thanks for the laugh. Too funny. 🙂