Tell boss about pregnancy at 3.5 weeks?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Should I tell my boss?
    Yes - now : (7 votes)
    3 %
    Yes, but closer to the conference date : (26 votes)
    10 %
    No : (218 votes)
    87 %
    Other (please explain) : (1 votes)
    0 %
  • Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Kempinski San Lawrenz, Gozo

    don’t tell. even if it means calling in sick and saying you have a stomach bug. don’t tell them you’re pregnant yet.

    Post # 5
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    13678 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I wouldn’t tell anyone that early.  If it’s only Sat – Wed, I’d just feign sick if I really felt that bad once there.  But if the doc says it’s fine, then I’d suck it up and try to do my best.

    Post # 6
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    7599 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’d just pretend to be sick if you have to. I wouldn’t want tell anyone that early.

    Post # 7
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    6063 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I don’t know…if you are having m/s now, you will probably have it at 7 or 8 weeks. Also, I don’t think you should push yourself- it sounds like the schedule is going to be really exhausting.

    I would say tell them you are really sick and don’t go if you don’t want to tell them you’re pregnant yet.

    Post # 9
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    785 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @4littlekitties:  If you want to go to the conference, your pregnancy should have no bearing on whether or not you should go.  If you are worried that it will be to stressful, I would see if you could get a medical note.  I wouldn’t tell your boss yet.

    Post # 10
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    3001 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    What a lot of people don’t know about miscarriages is they are more aobut genetic viablitiy than the woman pushing herself.  I think that you will be fine at 7 to 8 weeks.  Thats a bit of a hard schedule, but at that time in your pregnancy, it is actually better for you to be up and moving. 

    Post # 11
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    1382 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    @4littlekitties:  its none of their business.

    If you’re healthy and feel okay to go, go. They don’t have to know youre bringing someone secret in your “suitcase”

    If you feel you shouldn’t go, get the “flu” a little closer to the conference and beg off. 

    I think at this point you want to be careful. It’s still a bit early to be telling people like the boss and what not!

    Post # 12
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    3949 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Also wondering what accomodations you may need?

    I would not tell your boss this early.

     

     

     

    Post # 13
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    12414 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I don’t understand why you’d need any accomodations.  At 8 weeks, I imagine you’ll be fine there, especially when you’ve asked a nurse who gave you the go-ahead.

    I wouldn’t tell my boss that early.

    Post # 14
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    3345 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    @Ninteenthchance: & @Ballet513:  +1  Exactly.

    @4littlekitties:  What kind of accommodations are needed when you’re only 7 weeks pregnant?  It sounds more like you just don’t want to go and you’re trying to use the pregnancy as an excuse.  If your nurse said you’ll be fine on your feet all day, then you’ll be fine.

    Post # 15
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    371 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think the OP is worried about accomodations because of her previous m/c and doesn’t want to have too much stress (physical or mental) at this time… and the hours required by the conference = physical and mental stress.

    If that’s the case, then I agree with a PP that said you don’t have to reveal your pregnancy, but just get your doctor to write a note saying that you will be unable to perform the duties as described due to medical reasons.  Then when it is a more appropriate time, you can tell them.  I would avoid telling them until you have to.

    Post # 16
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    3735 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @4littlekitties:  You shouldn’t tell them and you should go and do your best. If you really can’t do it (as in you are getting sick every 5 minutes or are so exhausted that you need to take a break), talk to a trusted colleague for their advise. I would absolutely not use it as an excuse to get out of going– you don’t want them to think you will be less of an employee just because you are pregnant. Plus, you have no idea about how you will feel at that point.

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