Post # 1
After a miscarriage in December (around 6 weeks), i’m pregnant again – about 3.5 weeks. I’m not even late yet. However, my company has a huge confernce at the end of February where, if I go, I’ll have to be up at 5 am and work straight through, mostly standing and walking, until 6 or 7 pm and done for the night around 8 or 9 (at the earliest). This would be for Saturday – Wednesday. My flight’s already been booked.
I already have m/s and, if the pregnancy sticks, it will put me at about 7 or 8 weeks. I just talked to a nurse, who said it shouldn’t be a problem for me to go. Should I tell my boss that I’m pregnant yet? I’m wondering if they would be able to make accomodations for me or if they’d prefer that someone else go…
Post # 3
@4littlekitties: I’m confused as to why you’d need accommodations? I wouldn’t tell my boss that early..
Post # 4
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don’t tell. even if it means calling in sick and saying you have a stomach bug. don’t tell them you’re pregnant yet.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t tell anyone that early. If it’s only Sat – Wed, I’d just feign sick if I really felt that bad once there. But if the doc says it’s fine, then I’d suck it up and try to do my best.
Post # 6
I’d just pretend to be sick if you have to. I wouldn’t want tell anyone that early.
Post # 7
I don’t know…if you are having m/s now, you will probably have it at 7 or 8 weeks. Also, I don’t think you should push yourself- it sounds like the schedule is going to be really exhausting.
I would say tell them you are really sick and don’t go if you don’t want to tell them you’re pregnant yet.
Post # 8
@4littlekitties: What kind of accommodations will you need?
Post # 9
@4littlekitties: If you want to go to the conference, your pregnancy should have no bearing on whether or not you should go. If you are worried that it will be to stressful, I would see if you could get a medical note. I wouldn’t tell your boss yet.
Post # 10
What a lot of people don’t know about miscarriages is they are more aobut genetic viablitiy than the woman pushing herself. I think that you will be fine at 7 to 8 weeks. Thats a bit of a hard schedule, but at that time in your pregnancy, it is actually better for you to be up and moving.
Post # 11
@4littlekitties: its none of their business.
If you’re healthy and feel okay to go, go. They don’t have to know youre bringing someone secret in your “suitcase”
If you feel you shouldn’t go, get the “flu” a little closer to the conference and beg off.
I think at this point you want to be careful. It’s still a bit early to be telling people like the boss and what not!
Post # 12
Also wondering what accomodations you may need?
I would not tell your boss this early.
Post # 13
I don’t understand why you’d need any accomodations. At 8 weeks, I imagine you’ll be fine there, especially when you’ve asked a nurse who gave you the go-ahead.
I wouldn’t tell my boss that early.
Post # 14
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@Ninteenthchance: & @Ballet513: +1 Exactly.
@4littlekitties: What kind of accommodations are needed when you’re only 7 weeks pregnant? It sounds more like you just don’t want to go and you’re trying to use the pregnancy as an excuse. If your nurse said you’ll be fine on your feet all day, then you’ll be fine.
Post # 15
I think the OP is worried about accomodations because of her previous m/c and doesn’t want to have too much stress (physical or mental) at this time… and the hours required by the conference = physical and mental stress.
If that’s the case, then I agree with a PP that said you don’t have to reveal your pregnancy, but just get your doctor to write a note saying that you will be unable to perform the duties as described due to medical reasons. Then when it is a more appropriate time, you can tell them. I would avoid telling them until you have to.
Post # 16
@4littlekitties: You shouldn’t tell them and you should go and do your best. If you really can’t do it (as in you are getting sick every 5 minutes or are so exhausted that you need to take a break), talk to a trusted colleague for their advise. I would absolutely not use it as an excuse to get out of going– you don’t want them to think you will be less of an employee just because you are pregnant. Plus, you have no idea about how you will feel at that point.