Tell him or find out together?

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Mrs.H2B:  I can only share my personal experience. I wanted to surprise him by using the video he made to propose to me, and change the “will you marry me” to “will you be a daddy”

However, I POAS, and I got so stinkin’ excited I lost all control of brain function, ran downstairs, shook him violently, and shoved the pee stick in his face, lol.

I don’t think I would have DH know I was taking the test, but definitely do it when he is around the house. That way, if it ends up positive, you can present him with that book or just tell him–or shake him violently and shove the stick in his face 🙂

Post # 4
2696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We tested/found out together. I liked it that way, and will probably do it the same next time. It was exciting to share both of our excitement at the same time when those two pink lines came up!

Post # 5
448 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I wouldn’t be able to test alone, I’d want him with me when I found out.  There’s no way I’d be able to surprise him.

Post # 6
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

This is a great thread, I’m 5 DPO, and hoping for a BFP too. I think giving him a book is a super cute idea, I’d definately do something like that. I read another thread on here where someone gave her DH a papa burger and baby burger. FX for your BFP too!

Post # 7
1817 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@megz06:  This sounds like what I did and I had to laugh! I had a plan of doing something sweet for him to let him know, but he took too long to wake up and waiting over an hour to tell him got the best of me. In the end I ended up waking him up and spilling the beans.

I think it could be fun to find out together, but I did appreciate that I had time to process that I was pregnant and got to have this awesome happy cry to myself.

Post # 9
2355 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m not in this position, but I would want to find out together.

Post # 10
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Hippos:  That’s awesome!! It is like mine!

I wouldn’t have minded testing together, but my husband wasn’t really interested in me POAS, or should I say the act of peeing on it. He was just like, “If and when you test, tell me eight away if it is a baby or not.” And I did. I needed to be alone for those few minutes after the line showed up to gather my thoughts. It was so emotional and shocking for me, especially since that was only the second time I ever POAS, lol.

Post # 11
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Mrs.H2B:  it’s really up to you.  I couldn’t wait to POAS so I woke up at like 6 AM.  I wanted to jump on him and wake him up and tell him right away but somehow I restrained myself!  I wanted to get something cute to tell him, but couldn’t wait until the stores opened, so I went to CVS and bought him a belated father’s day card (it was a week after) to give to him.  When he asked where I was going I told him CVS to get tampons (haha – really fooled him!) Needless to say, he was shocked when I came back with the card.  It was awesome to see how surprised he was!

My advice is – have whatever you think you’d surprise him with already prepared before you POAS lol.  

Post # 12
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I also shook DH awake at an ungodly hour (4:30am, I think?) to tell him the news!

Post # 13
2256 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It took us 5 long cycles to get pregnant. I never told DH when I was testing because I didn’t want to get his hopes up – for me, I expected the BFNs, but I think it would have been more difficult for DH to see test after test come up negative. So, he never saw a test until I showed him our BFP. It was easier emotionally for us (him) that way. Hopefully you’re lucky and the first time will be the charm, but just wanted to give you a different perspective.

I got a BFP gift for DH beforehand (an engineering-themed onesie and a daddy how-to book), and when I got a BFP, I gave him the pee stick and gift together. It was fabulous. 🙂

Post # 14
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@bananasareyellow:  That’s what ive done the last two months of trying. I do it alone and of course he asks and I just tell him no because I don’t want him getting his hopes way up. He can see it when it’s a BFP ..hopefully September will be my lucky month 🙂

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