-one word to describe pregnancy: Ever-changing, lol. You read all these books, none of which really helped me, and you think you get it figured out and then BAM! The 2nd trimester throws a curve ball at you. There is always a worry, fear, or some other feeling you will have.
-are you really as tired as people make mothers out to be? No. Have night’s been hard? Absolutely. Some nights I get very little sleep, but overall I haven’t been too tired to do anything.
-what do you wish you had done before having children? Nothing. We did what we set out to do which was get married, own a home, and get a dog.
-what do you miss about your old life? I don’t really miss anything. Things were most definitely easier, to be able to drop everything and just go (now it requires a bit more planning), but I am ok with this. DH and I often say to each other that it’s hard to remember what it was like before baby, and we both say it was too quiet.
-how has your relationship with your SO changed? We are definitely closer and stronger. Having a baby has tested our patience with each other (I was pretty protective right away), but we make sure to talk it out, and it has improved our communication.
-what is the biggest thing that has changed in your life? Not being able to do what I want at the drop of a hat. Everything needs a schedule and a timeline. We need to leave at such and such time so baby is in bed.
-is it terrifying? Lol: Yes and no. I was scared to lose the baby, and once that passed, I truly accepted the fact that labor and childbrith was going to happen so why freak out about it? Child birthing classes really helped me understand my options and explain how the doctors at my particular hospital handle births, so I was prepared. As far as childbirth, I was way too in the zone to be terrified. My brain couldn’t process sad, mad, happy, terrified, etc. It only knew one thing and that was to focus on whatever the nurses/doctor told me to do.
I remember sitting on the couch with this little newborn in my arms going, “What the hell now?” Now I couldn’t imagine my life any different. The mama gene kicks in instantly, and you know what to do. If you don’t, you search high and low until you do. Lots of learning, patience, and love go into raising a baby. I love my little 7 month old so much. The love definitely outweighs any fear.