Post # 1
So, a friend and I were talking about old crushes and it got me thinking… I know everyone is with their significant other for a reason (and I love mine), but I want to hear about “the one that got away.”
Mine is a guy that was cute, very smart (physics major), and was in a band (major plus for me). He always hinted he had a crush and we went out a few times – nothing serious. Then, suddenly, we started falling for each other. To make a long story short, things got weird really fast… I found out he had a girlfriend because, when I want to his apartment, I was greeted by a pile of women’s sandals, a ton of make-up and hair products in the bathroom, and two kittens named something like Molly and Hannah.
Despite the fact that I didn’t pursue him and he moved out of the state, I had never been so drawn to someone (until I met FI) and I think we could have been great together, as brief as it probably would have been.
This may not be a typical example, but it’s mine. I want to hear your stories now. How do you think your life would have been if you were with that person now? Or tell me about your first love. Talk about anything.
Post # 3
I don’t really have one. Is that terrible?
Post # 4
I thought my first love was the one who got away until I met my husband. Then I knew, for sure, he was just an old love. I always promised myself I wouldn’t marry someone unless he made my first love disappear from my brain, and Darling Husband did that from the first moment.
About the guy— nice and sweet, but obsessed with his looks and we had a horrible on again-off again relationship. Lots of cheating and inappropriate friendships, but very passionate. I think it taught me that too much passion can actually be bad for a relationship.
Not nearly as sweet as story as yours!
Post # 5
I don’t have one.
Also, when relationships don’t work out… it’s for a reason. If you were meant to end up with someone, he wouldn’t have “gotten away” in the first place, no?
Post # 6
@MaryKay14: I think the one that got away refers more to someone maybe that you messed up with or that you passed up, not the jerks that caused their own dismissal 🙂
I have one but he’s only a “what if”. Like I wonder if we would have workd out because I know he loved me so much but I was young, and dumb and really selfish back then and I hurt him quite badly. So I always wonder about him. But I do knw that for me, my Fiance is the love of my life.
Post # 7
No previous – I’m happy to have gotten away, but it will be my FH if he ever decides to “get away.” I think I’m gonna be a solo act from there on out, if that ever happens.
Post # 8
My high school sweetheart was “the one I had to let go of”, even though he is the only other guy besides my husband I really loved. We were friends for about three years and dated for two. We could talk for hours and hours without getting sick of each other (all hours of the night on AOL instant chat, lol!). We just got each other and could tell each other anything. But we were so young, and I had bigger dreams than he did of getting out of our small city. I knew that I needed to grow as a person, and couldn’t do that with him around. We broke up when I left for college.
A few months after we ended, he met the person who he eventually married. I’ve checked her out on facebook, read a bit of her blog and he’s told me about her, and from what I can gather she is perfect for him. He is truly a great guy, and I’m so happy that he found someone who can compliment his life better than I ever could have for the long haul. As for myself I grew so much in college and afterwards as a person and I don’t regret who I’ve become. I’ve found a man who balances me out and has taught me more than anyone ever has about life, and I couldn’t imagine not having the life I have now with him. The whole history is bittersweet, but I wouldn’t change a thing.
Post # 9
When I broke up with my ex-boyfriend, I was devastated and thought, I’m going to think of him as the one that got away forever. He was my first love. I guess that made sense at the time.
Years have brought wisdom and now I view myself as HIS “one that got away.” I hope he’s happy wherever he is and whoever he ends up with, but I never gave him anything to think that I was less than an amazing person. He gave me a lot to doubt him on. So if anything, he’ll look back and think of me this way. If he’s smart enough!
Post # 10
There was a guy that I USED to think was the one that got away. I saw pics of him and his new Girlfriend, and imagined how hurt I’d be when they got married. And then I met my now-husband. A few months into our relationship, a friend told me that the ex had broken up with his Girlfriend. My only thought was “Oh, that is too bad, they seemed pretty happy. I hope he finds someone good for him.” LOL.
I will never let my husband get away though – he is the real deal 🙂