Post # 1
So obviously it’s hard to merge families because there are often conflicting personalities. We all know someone who has in-laws the can’t stand.
What I want to hear about are your awesome in-laws. Or if there is just one or two you really like then tell me about them.
My FI’s dad and stepmom are decent enough..most of the time. However I LOVE, ADORE, THINK THE WORLD of his mother. I honestly could not have asked for a better FMIL. First and foremost, she was mostly a single mom because his dad was a jerk in his early days. But she managed to raise a real, hard working, compassionate man. That in and of itself is good enough for me but she’s also just genuinely kind. She’s soft spoken, kind hearted, and hilarious. She always surprises me with little things and goes out of her way to make me feel warm, happy, comfortable, and accepted. She gives her advice and opinions but she knows her boundaries and respect our privacy/personal decisions. She doesn’t obsessively call us. She wants grandchildren but is very respectful and clear she wants them when we’re ready.
She knows we’ve been cutting back on our spending since my FI took this internship and we’re paying for this wedding so yesterday she dropped by with a huge thing of groceries, fresh meat for our pets, and cheap grocery store movies for some entertainment(since we aren’t going out much these days)
It was just so unexpected and thoughtful..lol I cried for 10 minutes.
GAH! I could go on and on about her.
Go on and brag about your awesome in-laws!
Post # 3
Aww, she sounds great!!! I bet she is really excited to have a daughter like you 🙂
We don’t talk to my husband’s mom, but my ILs (besides her) are great! We lived with his dad for almost 5 years, which I know wouldn’t work for everyone, but he is just so go with the flow, we never really had any problems. He is like a second dad to me, I know how blessed I am to have 2 awesome fathers in my life. My MIL (his FI) is totally awesome, i consider her a good friend, and can talk to her about most anything. THey are a great pair, and I can’t wait til they start wedding planning!!! My husband has an older sister, and I talk to her several times a week, we get along really well.
I have been totally accepted by his entire family, and he has been accepted into mine. I never forget how lucky we are to have families that love us like their own 🙂
Post # 4
My future in-laws are pretty great. We have a sort of odd situation where my partner lives in a different country, while I live in the same city as his parents (his mama and I live on the same street). This means I only see his dad and step-mom and his younger sister when he’s home visiting, but I see his mother pretty regularly as she’s always offering to take me places to run errands and she takes my daughter out for fun days to give me a break. It’s perfect though because she’s a very busy woman, so it’s never too much. What I love about all of them (and their extended families) is that they accepted my daughter without question into their families, and have been really supportive of my single parenting while my partner is away. Sometimes there are some slightly strange/funny situations that arise from one side of his family, but I just laugh it off because it’s obviously all out of love.
Post # 5
@kittyface: Awww, that makes me so happy for you, that his family accepted your daughter that way, and his mom goes out of her way to do things for her. What a great family you are marrying into! And I’m sure your daughter loves being around them 🙂
Post # 6
I don’t expect sunshine and roses out of life so I see both sides to everyone….but my mother-in-law-to-be is AMAZING.
Just this week we were talking about the rehersal dinner. We are having the dinner at the church because that’s so much easier than going elsewhere and the caterer cooks at our church all the time anyway, so she’s familiar with everything. I hadn’t paid the church yet (I actually thought I had paid a long time ago, but forgot I hadn’t). She was asking about it, and I said “i’m going in the morning to pay the church so I’ll ask i there is an additional charge or whatever”. She comes back and says “I’ll take care of all that for you, you and your mother are doing so much already…”
I was flabbergasted! I’ve thanked her a million times and I’ll never forget her generosity. Its a very small fee for cleaning and a guy to work the sound system….but just the fact that she would volunteer to do something on top of what she has already committed to is amazing.
Post # 7
I’ve been blessed with great FILs. They’ve really made me feel like “real” family, and they’re are so good to both of us. They just go out of their way to make our lives easier – whether it’s being flexible about when to celebrate holidays, to paying for things they know we can’t afford (without making it seem like this huge, generous favor), to supporting our decisions.
Sure, FMIL has had requests for the wedding – but she makes it clear they’re just requests, never demands…and they are being very generous in helping with the wedding – and going out of their way to consult with me before making decisions.
My favorite memory of them: We (FI, me, FILs) at a wedding and they invited other father-daughter pairs to join the father-daughter dance and my FFIL asked me to dance with him. I thought I might cry!
Post # 8
My MIL is amazing. FIL lives on the other side of the country, he seems nice I can’t imagine he’d be an ogre with the way DH turned out.
MIL takes BIL’s daughter on Friday’s so they can have a date night, every week, and takes SIL’s baby on Sunday nights, so they can have a date night. She cried when we gave her the locket we bought her for our wedding.
She lives about 10 blocks from us, calls before coming over, calls on days she made too much food to have us over for dinner. We double date alot with her and her b/f. We have Rock Band parties, and she makes a ton of food, and plays for a couple hours, then scoops up my niece and they head back to her house. She works her a$$ off but always has time for any one of us. I love her b/f too. He’s Mr. Fix-it. He ran wires under our house when we moved the big screen, he fixed our diningroom table that was damaged in the move, he is making a replacement shelf for something else that was damaged in the move. He is always so happy to see us every single time, even if we saw them the day before he gives us huge hugs when we walk in the door. My BIL/SIL’s / SIL’s SO and my new nieces are freaking awesome too. We probably hang out with them at least every other weekend, if not more.
My mom passed away along time ago, and MIL reminds me what it’s like to have someone like that around.
Post # 9
they are not my official inlaws yet…..annnnnndddd I sooooo wish i could participate in this thread 🙁 but i cant…so ill sit over here being jelly of all your awesome in laws.
Post # 10
My ILs are divorced and have been for over 15 years. The first time they saw each other since the divorce was at our wedding. DH was paranoid they’d cause a scene. They DID NOT btw…they were awesome. Even exchanged numbers in case something happened with one of their kids. FIL went into the hospital a month ago…nearly died and had temp paralysis. MIL went to see him along with her mom and sister.
I’ve heard from DH the minute we got engaged that his parents would never get along…not even for a wedding. So to see that, makes me the happiest DIL in the world!
Post # 11
I feel really blessed that I have such wonderful future in-laws. They welcomed me with open arms into their family, as my family did with FI. When we picked out venue for the wedding, FFIL called me after we had gone home because FI had told him we picked the venue, but “he wanted to hear it from me”. lol So cute. Then he told me that I’ve been a part of the family now for a while and that I can start calling them Mom and Dad . I thought that was the cutest thing in the world. Even FI’s brother, sister, Nanny, Poppy, aunts, uncles, and cousins, are all super sweet. They’ve also been really helpful with the wedding since we’re having it near them and we live 3.5 hours away. They do a lot of leg work for us. <3
Post # 12
@texasbee: I think that is really great. Just because you aren’t romantically involved, doesn’t mean you can’t be friends for the sake of your kids
Post # 13
FH’s family is great and has really embraced me. They warned him “don’t mess this up”. They are happy that FH and his boys are happy. They DID NOT like his ex wife. It’s good to know that they are on our side and not trying to talk him out of it. His mom and stepdad offer to help all the time and have been great help giving us time alone by watching the kids.
Post # 14
@stardustintheeyes: My FILs live in Michigan, so you’re actually closer if you want to share
Post # 15
My MIL is amazing!!! Fi Dad (out of the picture since young) So all he has is his mother. She is just the most amazing women I have met! She is strong, independent just what anyone should be when they are a single mom with 5 kids! She is both the mom/dad of the family. We talk almost everyday, text everyday, and its about everything and anything! We even go see her about every other weekend they just live 20 mins away. lol She is awesome! She is considered my 2nd mom! And the best part of the whole thing is that my moms as i call them love eachother too!! lol So to have 2 moms is just great!! 🙂 She is also making my wedding dress so its amazing to have such a great relationship with the MIL!! 🙂
Post # 16
@SweetHoneyBee: Aww you all sound like you have the best in-laws 🙂 That’s great!! I thought that getting along with your in-laws was something that was completely unheard of. My ex-husbands father and his step-mother were complete jerks. Even treating my kids horrible!
(My kids still don’t like to go to their house, in fact they cry!)..My boyfriends parents are absolutely amazing. In fact the whole family is. His parents have completely accepted my girls as their own, in fact telling them to call them grandma and grandpa, and the girls love them! They cry when the have to leave their house! lol.. Both of my boyfriends parents have been very accepting of me, and insisted I call them mom and dad. They are just great people, a very close family. Nothing like what I had with my ex’s parents which was a breath of fresh air!